Comments on: 5 Steps To Dealing With Narcissists In Difficult Situations https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/5-steps-to-dealing-with-narcissists-in-difficult-situations/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Fri, 09 Nov 2018 06:28:19 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/5-steps-to-dealing-with-narcissists-in-difficult-situations/#comment-1107589 Fri, 09 Nov 2018 06:28:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5661#comment-1107589 In reply to country mouse.

Awww Country Mouse,

You are doing so well!

Power to you!

Lots of love from myself and Tiggy.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: country mouse https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/5-steps-to-dealing-with-narcissists-in-difficult-situations/#comment-1107509 Thu, 08 Nov 2018 22:39:25 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5661#comment-1107509 I was told by ex that people thought I was crazy and a witch. ( wonder where they got that idea !)
I said good now they will leave me alone.
Final hoover attempts: when I saw him walking toward my door I say to self ” here comes my teacher ”
Love to Melanie, love to Tiggy, and many thanks for all that you do.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/5-steps-to-dealing-with-narcissists-in-difficult-situations/#comment-1074829 Wed, 04 Jul 2018 05:09:59 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5661#comment-1074829 In reply to Mountain shine.

Hi Mountain Shine,

You are very welcome.

Please know abuse, insults and a threat of violence is not okay.

And truly only we can take the measures that say ‘no more’.

It’s called a restraining order against that person. That’s what would be necessary if they persist.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: Mountain shine https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/5-steps-to-dealing-with-narcissists-in-difficult-situations/#comment-1073906 Mon, 02 Jul 2018 19:30:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5661#comment-1073906 Thank you again for your detailed insight… I have spent many hours getting strength and perspective from your words! I have a situation where the behaviour of a close family member has escalated over the period of several years to full on verbal abusive – screaming, intimidation, insults, looked like it was going to get physical etc. it happened it front of our children, which is the most concerning part. We went no contact and I’ve been following your guidance but it’s not possible to avoid that person forever. How can we protect our children and establish boundaries when the narc refuses to discuss the situation with us?

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/5-steps-to-dealing-with-narcissists-in-difficult-situations/#comment-1064936 Wed, 20 Jun 2018 01:30:31 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5661#comment-1064936 In reply to Marilyn.

Hi Marilyn,

You are so welcome regarding the videos. NARP truly is about going inside and releasing every trauma and trigger that arises.

When we heal the emotion within the outer must shift to reflect that … it’s Quantum Law.

If you need more help with coaching with NARP, my strongest suggestion to you is to come into the NARP Forum where so much assistance is avaliable.

https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: Marilyn https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/5-steps-to-dealing-with-narcissists-in-difficult-situations/#comment-1064898 Tue, 19 Jun 2018 20:20:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5661#comment-1064898 Hello,

I am in the same predicament as Echo. It’s been just over a year that my Ex was order a Peace Bond and in the mean time I have to wait for him to take action to agree to settle our affairs and I am waiting now for his lead to settle. I had to take a step back from trying to work out an agreement, which is all communicated through his lawyer, he would not agree to anything. Once the court did not charge him with abuse – I settled with the Peace Bond – he then agreed to sell the house. I was living in it, fixed it up on my dime, cleaned out our things etc. I was exhausted dealing with him. After 6 months of no contact, through his lawyer, he came forward with a reasonable offer to settle the remainder of our affairs, including money that we have in trust from the sale of our house. I responded over a month ago with acceptance and a few questions! He is taking his time now to get back to me! We have only a holiday trailer to sell – our only joint asset and he said he would deal with it. I wait – and he does nothing.
How do I tell him, through his lawyer, enough is enough – I will take charge of this – if he cannot figure this out. He is playing me again and all I can do is wait! There must be a better way to deal with the NARP – when silence is enforced!

Mel, thanks for your videos they have helped me a lot. I just have not heard how to deal with a NARP though Divorce and end it!
Marilyn

]]> By: Makis https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/5-steps-to-dealing-with-narcissists-in-difficult-situations/#comment-1058371 Sat, 09 Jun 2018 16:47:42 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5661#comment-1058371 Melania, I have problem understanding one of your points: you say, what happened it was for you (not at you). But what was the purpose of me being destroyed, beyond repair, professionally (by my narc mother)?
What is the lesson in that? I think this new age stuff does not always fit situations. Actually sometimes it sounds very superfluous.

]]> By: Repeat Offender https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/5-steps-to-dealing-with-narcissists-in-difficult-situations/#comment-1055586 Tue, 05 Jun 2018 19:01:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5661#comment-1055586 Wow I need this today, the everlasting reminder of ‘this is your time” and to shift the focus back on ourselves instead of looking to the other. I’m finding this so hard at the moment. Its week three of rekindling a conversation with a NARC as we are work colleagues and she reached out to me after a good few months of time and space apart even though we have had to co-exist. Things are moving way too fast. We are going on a work trip together at the end of the month which was initiated by her. I could say NO! But me being me as usual wanting to spend one on one time. I get so sick of myself sometimes lol. I have done mega self healing and realise it’s what I invest in myself and not her is gonna fix the discomfort within me. I’m wanting to draw strength from this progress so far but get way too caught up in stupid details which is again another indicator I’m not ready. I had lost all power Mel, I was sad all the time no one could console me. Finally I was strong enough to stay away, from the strength of people who are real and showed me what true friendship looks like. Ignoring her every day became a chour I was reading alot about forgiveness and how it was the last step in moving forward. however didn’t know what forgiveness looked like for me. I wanted to release the angst within myself and saw forgiveness as an Avenue to that road. But I wasnt ready when she reached out to me it wasn’t on my schedule so now that I’m hear I’m overthinking and all the rest blah blah because I’m forgetting the exact reason why I’m accepting of her in the first place. What I try to do is appreciate all of her good aspects. I did lose sight of this during our most trailing times and naturally what is revealed to you is what you focus on. Not condoning her behaviour or accepting how she chose to conduct herself , but simply understanding that she is a vessel which leads me to self healing. This woman has been my biggest lesson yet. She continues to bring to the surface what my soul needs to work through to grow, which in turn allows to me to better for those who do treat me with love and respect. I am doing everything possible to be aware of my actions where she is concerned and knowing I still presume conflict is a massive reality check. Why would you put yourself here if you assume it’s going to end in a bad place?
This is all of the work I still need to do and maybe this is the what the forgiveness stage looks like for me! Learning to be present and forgive past behaviors during times of high emotional stress and allow new memories to be made within reason. Learning to be yourself again with this person after always suppressing who you are and learning to living your truth no matter who is looking In. Being free from learnt behaviors which were forced upon me during bad times realising they have no place within me anymore. I would never have reached this point if it wasn’t for this experience. There are inner conflicts that she has raised to the surface which are on the path to healing simply because I know they exist and have some self work to understand this is more significant then a fight or two. Narsisstictic abuse has been a catalyst for life changing self growth I’m going to work thru the gift of appreciation without giving my power away to please and appreciate her in the wrong way. Thank you for opening a channel for this to be communicated to you, at the end of the day we are all wanting to live a peaceful hang up free life and unknowingly that is her biggest gift to me. While she does whatever she does it fuels me to want to and stop being a victim and be my best self.

]]> By: William https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/5-steps-to-dealing-with-narcissists-in-difficult-situations/#comment-1049765 Tue, 29 May 2018 07:15:23 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5661#comment-1049765 My tender and actual biological being is difficult to feel for while most of all I have ever known in life is mortifying and morbitifying stifling and psychic death causing humiliation and submersing hope for life guilt pushing ,where, I am without culpability whatsoever., This disheviling is angering for me ,BUT, I am taking the good biological responses as mine and only mine and am greatly enhancing this very moment . Sensuality has everything to do with my life and my continuing flourishing and becoming competent and in recognition of the ability to create my new life.
Overall I guess I just tried to say I am off value I can recognize myself without undeserving guilt . Thank you for asking Melanie Tania Evans.

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