wow I searched the web for help and couldn’t find anything helpfull until I came across your article.

thank you so much for the help as I am currently experiencing the very thing you wrote.

Hi Tony,

I really encourage you to come in to my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar where you can learn and feel what NARP is and how it can help you.

Absolutely NARP has helped many people, in any circumstance at any age.

I hope this gives you hope,

Mel 🙏💞🦋

I can only think of one friend of many years who seems to come closest to being Narcissist by these descriptions. I was a witness and only occasionally exposed. Over years I witnessed his continual violent verbal outbursts and threats toward anyone who was with him enough time. He fired every single one of his employees after just a few days – always accusing them of not following his instructions.
HIs life partner became obese and maintained that — I have read that one of the ways of dealing with emotional trauma is to put on extra fat. That is mentioned by Nero Wolf character in Rex Stout’s murder detective stories. Wolff was very fat and said it helped him deal with all the suffering.
One of my friends said she thought he was bipolar because he swung from very nice and friendly to extreme anger outbursts. But, I have known a friend’s brother who was diagnoses bipolar and that experience was wildly different than this because it was plainly very nutty and incoherent on the wild side.
This guy remains totally coherent and precisely aims at his targets.

I did ignore him without realizing it. My auto defense was to go STOIC on him and not give him any emotional handles, while remaining clear and firm about my position.

One area that is confusion is the jargon here.
I have been introspective since childhood and I am somewhat empathic.
Studied world religions and then the works of some spiritual masters, Vedanta and Sufism

I choose to follow people’s meanings and try to use context to discover it.
It is too easy to disagree argue about words instead of discerning meanings that people intend. Here I am having some trouble because I am guessing I am too intellectual about my view — but common very popular words today are “authenticity”, “self”, “soul”, “mind”, “brain”,

And here I am seeing “DNA” and “Quantum” used in an unfamiliar context.
I am familiar conceptually and historically with Quantum Mechanics branch of physics. Is this a metaphor taken from that?

In any case, while I am intrigued with the program and promise of getting over the emotional trauma that I am finally getting some clarity on —
The possibility that it could be healed and cleared in relatively short time is attractive. My trauma is not primarily from a narc.
I experienced abandonment from about 8 months through age 5 years being left with two abusive nannies before my mother found a family with two sons to take care of me while she worked and sought a husband. She was a young working mom who visited me and took me on some off-days trips, but was away mostly.
What I remember as the most intense feeling is being in a crib and crying for hours and days — I confirmed this memory with my mother decades later. That was the first nanny and my mother discovered the abuse and there was a fight and I remember being afraid that my mother would hurt the lady — that is right, my fear as an infant is remembered and it was not what one might expect. My mother threatened to kill that lady.

My response to the abandonment seems to be a sense that I am on my own and no one will be there for me. I have been alone most of my life. I am now 77 years old and in good health, but never married and no children because I got a vasectomy as soon as possible after the military service.

So, I am wondering if this program may be useful for me, even so late i life.