Comments on: 5 Ways A Narcissist Will Abandon You Without A Second Thought

By: Pumpkin

Pumpkin — Wed, 27 Dec 2023 23:20:53 +0000

These stories are absolutely heartbreaking & I see myself/situation in each & every one of them, except we don’t have kids but miscarriage. He’s done so many things to me, there are too many to list. The whole cycle applies. Love bombing, hoovering, discard/abandonment, etc. The difference is he’s been physically violent for most of the beginning half of our relationship. I have lupus, so I became dependent on him emotionally/financially/socially. I even allowed him to refinance my house in his name-big mistake. He tried to steal my house right from under me to pay his own debt & siphon the proceeds. I was forced to file for divorce to protect my assets & have a restraining order because of the violence. It’s been horrific. He finally decided that he’d enough of his own self inflicted misery & “wooed/hoovered” me back. The only way out of my financial mess was to allow him to come back & retain my assets. The court system is a big trap. I had no delusions. I always knew he would degrade/discard/devalue/abandon me all over again. It was only a matter of time. He doesn’t physically hit me anymore b/c he’s afraid of jail but he bites me, pulls my hair, etc & acts like it’s a joke. I’m not laughing:( These past two holiday’s have been a nightmare. He decides to visit his family & leave me hanging wondering what the hell happened. Now he left right before Christmas to “think” b/c I never take accountability for my actions. Of course, he left all of his stuff here-clothes, jewelry, bikes, sports equipment-everything(except work clothes) but he’s done with me right?? I haven’t done anything to this man. Lot’s of nerve. I’m terrified he’ll come back so I disable the garage door at night so I can sleep. My therapist is on vacation. I’m trying to hold on & be strong. It’s debilitating. My family is old school & doesn’t understand-only you stay married no matter what. All antithesis to my auto-immune disease. I feel stuck but I’ll figure it out, once I can rid myself of him from my personal & emotional space. Sorry so long. Thanks for reading.

By: Loren Keeling

Loren Keeling — Fri, 26 May 2023 05:28:46 +0000

I had no clue about narcissistic behaviour while I was in the relationship. After 11 years together while he was committing to spending more time together in our Spanish retirement home. He abruptly terminated the relationship in August 2020.
One classic line was used, “we can remain friends if you want to remain friends”
Why would anyone want to remain friends with a person who had cheated, lied, and betrayed you?
I had vowed to myself that if he ever cheated again that it would be the end of the relationship.
So there was no way I was going to be staying friends.
Despite being told he wanted things to remain amicable, it turned nasty. He was making lots of life changing decisions out of the blue.
Ended the relationship for another woman who had been in a relationship before 38 years in his past..27th August wanting to sell both of his properties to live with the new woman. His letter to me if his financial proposal 29th August
30th August Spanish home on the market.
4th September I was being threatened with being thrown out on the streets..
Very confusing.
I still didn’t realise or understand his behaviour.
After he left me in the house in Spain, basically abandoned as I had no job, no income, I had been dependent on him from 2018, when he paid an allowance into my bank..
I had no clue what I could do. I was lost and didn’t know who I was anymore.
By October I was informed he was going to court to have me forcibly removed from the property.
Evicted. Because everything was in his name, we were not married. I had no legal rights.
This is when I had the revelation about narcissistic behaviour.
Two years on. The eviction hearing went in his favour.

After I published my story in 2022 he also went after me for defamation and harassment. Now I have three overlapping litagations against me. Including a third Civil action for his court costs and an amount for his moral damages.
When will i be free to live my life?

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 20 May 2022 02:19:56 +0000

In reply to Janean W..

Sending you much love and healing Janean,

it is your time to heal and shine.

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Janean W.

Janean W. — Mon, 16 May 2022 03:15:23 +0000

I had no choice in the matter. My boyfriend of 7 yrs., who I took care of because of heart disease, passed away a couple months ago. I had all these questions about why he did it. Why he treated me so carelessly. After reading through these articles you wrote, all I can say is THANK YOU. It has made me realize I didn’t do a damn thing to deserve any of it. I deserve a medal for putting up with it for so long. But then I really did love him and tried to help him with meds and doctors and such. Now I’m putting my life back together, and I am going to survive and move on. I think God helped save me before it was too late by taking him. Maybe he is at peace with himself now so I can be too.

By: ChrisD

ChrisD — Wed, 04 May 2022 01:52:36 +0000

I just want to say one more thing about hat this woman did to me and her ex Scott. Denise M. did not care at all when I recently was in a major emergency hiking where I went the wrong way and had 25 miles ahead of me. She ignored me and sent her sissy boyfriend to make excuses for her poor behavior, blame me, the victim who put up with her for 4 years. and chastise me ( which itself was a betrayal behind my back- she has had sex with most of the blogopshere and bragged about it to her ex. I had 25 miles ahead of me and was 2 hours into the hike after doing much sprinting . I thought I had a 30 minute fast hike but as mentioned I went the wrong path and had not much water left, sun was coming out and I was verry tired. This woman did NOT AT ALL even care. What kind of a person does that? I am honestly in shock and will never ever speak to her again. I tried forgiving her even. She is not normal or reasonable and the worst of the covert narcissists She puts on this vegan nerdy cute innocent girl next door act…I wonder if Rastal had a similar discard.

If there are any men out there who know this woman beware and stay away- she has hurt many guys emotionally and will be exposed as the opportunist user she is. .

Well, that is my story, I need to get my SOUL back.

Chris D

By: Chris D

Chris D — Sat, 09 Apr 2022 06:11:54 +0000

I gave my heart and soul to Denise M. a well known health blogger. She tricked me , lied, said how “OMG handsome “ I was, exploited me , used me , knowing I am compassionate and would give all of myself to her during her most difficult time, which I did. She never gave me a chance, was having sex with multiple men as well as ex – boyfriends while she was lovebombing me in an extreme way. I recently learned this after the fact . Then she abandons and ghosts me for 2 yers even when my beloved kitty becomes paralyzed and passes away, when my dad falls down the stairs from Parkinson’s and when my mom was bit from the neighborhood dog. She promised to research my condition and left me in writhing pain for over a month .Add to this, she abandons me after I developed my recent health conditions ( very painful interstitial cystitis) and a blood pressure scare of 190/110 due to the stress of her games. I was there for her always and she discarded me like nothing then betrays me and dates many other men I know her ex and he had the same thing done to him . Denise M has many male victims she has done EVIL to

By: Feeling hopeless here

Feeling hopeless here — Thu, 10 Feb 2022 06:55:27 +0000

My ex just decided he is done again, because I can’t do anything right, I suck, I don’t do Anything for him, I can’t make enough time for him it was constant battle with a different fight every week. Now this week just is done and I am still trying to understand what I did for this to keep happening, I was in a dark spot still am trying to figure what I could have done to change it or help. The more I sat and thought about everything he said, it was him the entire time. I could say ” I am busy this week with my kids and all their events I won’t see you til sat or Sunday!!” Sunday would come and he would pick a fight about how I couldn’t see him more… This last time it was because i don’t bring anything to a relationship, to he’s just done. So I felt guilty and fell in a depressed state, like couldn’t move laid in bed for 3 days. It has been awful. I wish I would have seen this years ago literally 3 years. The most distinctive thing about this entire article is the fact of how they do would do anything for you to barely doing a thing that you ask…. Smh… It was I will come help you and he would finally do what he say he would do months later. I would confront him on that nicely. .. the response was ” I have been doing everything I can to make you happy, make you smile and be the best man for you and you still want me to do that after this long!?!” … Then you question why you even questioned him in the first place. Such a mental mind game that is sooooooo draining and when they leave it feels like you can’t move on.. just horrible…

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 20 Oct 2021 23:08:08 +0000

In reply to Zsuzsana.

Hi Zsuzana,

this is a big conversation.

I’d love to help you deeply get answers to this.

Please come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

I hope that this can help.

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Zsuzsana

Zsuzsana — Tue, 19 Oct 2021 22:05:49 +0000

I had a father who
originally abandoned me emotionally .I married an alcoholic
Then a gambler
Then my first love i had met 30 yrs previously sadly he died of cancer in 2015
Then I married again in 2020 He’s a narcissist
Is this me ?.. or them ?…