Comments on: 7 Reasons Why You Struggle To Set Effective Boundaries

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How To Take Care of YOU These Holidays - Path2Positivity — Sun, 04 Dec 2022 23:09:10 +0000

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By: Dametreia Ruchardson

Dametreia Ruchardson — Sun, 03 Oct 2021 07:34:31 +0000

I thank you so very much,your email came at a time when I was thinking about boundaries,we are not together but I love him so and I realize that we just don’t want the same thing we are friends with benefits he tries to conceal what he’s doing but I know I’m tired of feeling worthless and like a side piece

By: Elissa

Elissa — Thu, 30 Sep 2021 22:44:09 +0000

My issues have been setting boundaries with strangers. I use to think if people acted like as if they knew more about me than I did than they probably did.I had a lot of brainwashing as a kid.My narc testing these days is to say NO and SMILE.If they argue my right to say no ,I just say :I dont talk to people who can take NO for an answer and walk off.Its the walking off part I had an issue with in the past.I always felt I had to cave in and argue for respect.However narcs can be sneaky if they think you are cornered.The other day I had to go to pathology for some blood test.I had been down with a non covid flu for almost a month.I looked unwell etc.It was not lost on the patholog lady.When my huaband left she asked if he was my husband or father, after that she continued to comment on that I was pale and you dont get much sun do you ? Then she raised her voice and said STOP when I tried to explain something on the form.I know I should have walked out but my bloodpressure had been so low I was worried about crashing on the floor.When I first realised that I was dealing with a narc I started to panic.I am locked in a room (She had carefully shut the door.).and she got needles…This is not good I am trapped here .How do I explain to my dr that I need a new form etc.Will they blame me ? I have no evidence of what she had said to me etc..Then I said to myself OK dont be a victim.Instead of going in to open warfare with this women I just dead panned her..It worked a treat.She got NO supply from me.She started to look and act nervous and concerned .I walked out like a queen LOL ! OK I was still angry that someone in her position would try to abuse people that are unwell or sick.It was an excellent lesson in how to turn the odds in your favour even when you feel cornered..I did tell my Dr about her.He just dismissed me.He doesnt need to believe me.Only I do.Not sure if you can report people like that.I guess people vote with their feet as the other pathology clinic is very busy and her waiting room was empty.I am glad to road test my POWER every now and again.Glad I also have the knowledge.these days.Thanks Melanie for reaffirming the truth is within message xx.

By: Lynette

Lynette — Thu, 30 Sep 2021 00:05:04 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. Thankyou so very much Melanie x

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 29 Sep 2021 22:53:11 +0000

In reply to Tessa.

You are welcome Tessa,

I love that you are connecting back to your truth and power!

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 29 Sep 2021 22:51:43 +0000

In reply to Beth.

Hi Beth,

thank you for your lovely words, and I am so pleased that I can help.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Tessa

Tessa — Wed, 29 Sep 2021 22:31:11 +0000

In reply to Niko Leka.

Thanks for this article Melanie,

a big one for me was number 2: feeling unworthy. All my needs and feelings were communicated from a place of shame and inner child unhealed wounding so trying to ask for my needs to be met from this place rather than a healed adult living in the present was always going to be a no win situation.

Also number 6 was a big one: wanting what isn’t possible. I really felt if I spoke up it would get the other to change. Absolutely not. Speaking up from an adult healed self gives others the opportunity to show up for me (and for themselves too) and if they can’t do this then they are not capable of loving relationships.

Thank you,

Tess

By: Beth

Beth — Wed, 29 Sep 2021 12:24:19 +0000

I am always amazed when I read your articles and how right on and accurate you are at describing how living with a narcissist is so complex. That is why it is so crazy making and isolating if you don’t have someone that understands narcissism when you are seeking relief. I am so glad you are helping so many understand and equip to fight the battle.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 29 Sep 2021 03:15:13 +0000

In reply to Lynette.

Hi Lynette,

if you google my name and “what if your child is the narcissist?” you will find my resources to help you.

Mel 🙏💞🦋