Comments on: 7 Signs Your Parent Is Narcissistic

By: Trytttth

Trytttth — Sat, 26 Jun 2021 13:58:07 +0000

They also don’t care. Until you or your kids are doing well or they perceive you are achieving the success and accolades they believe “to be the rightful heir to.” Then suddenly after years of being absent, flaky, in jail, unaccountable or reckless, they will show up professing to be the disenfranchised parent who has suffered injustice because of you. They never cared before, yet if you’re making the moves to improve your life and have new friends, suddenly they want everyone to know how bad they know you really are and try to smear you and ruin your life, reputation or the capabilities they lack and envy.

By: B

Tue, 24 Nov 2020 17:24:55 +0000

Don’t forget disloyalty…. when I confided in my mother as a young person, she ran around smearing and mocking me to my family, in front of me, spilling all the confidentialities I told her….(she was so insecure she had to put others down… sad but fact) so very early on I stopped trusting her and never again told her a thing, which she held against me until she passed away. I was her emotional punch bag. Uncanny how they don’t recognize that they’re the issue and don’t check in to see why? I know that narcs are incapable of self reflection but as a young (but wise) soul, it baffled me. Now I know and I’m so grateful for the gift of wisdom that guided me from early in my life, and for the trauma healing of Narp program that showed me that I was not crazy🙏❤️

By: Bren

Bren — Wed, 25 Mar 2020 21:11:45 +0000

In reply to Allyson Smith. My mother showed up more this way as I reached my teens and didn’t need her as much...jealousy and invalidation reared their ugly heads which only made me stop trusting her further and closing off to her totally. I never trusted her after she divulged my stuff I confused in her. She tried to emotionally punish me but thanks to that angel on my shoulder who sent me wisdom, I broke away once I graduated high school. Couldn’t wait to escape. I love seeing beautiful mother daughter relationships. It’s so precious but thanks to Narp, I’m in a good space now thriving.🙏🙏🙏❤️

By: William

William — Wed, 25 Mar 2020 12:33:11 +0000

This child says 1. Yes 2. Yes 3. Yes 4. Yes 5. Yes 6. Yes. 7. Yes.! And the desecration is now in adulthood. Me the adult of childhood NARCS. 💎💎💎💎🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗 THAT ABOUT COVERS IT . G’day and thank you.

By: B

Tue, 17 Mar 2020 04:28:51 +0000

Wow, Melanie. Just wow. Wish I’d found your work five years ago. Why on earth isn’t this information main stream? Going Quantum is everything. I only found you a few days ago, after being incredibly triggered from seeing the narc in person at a family event.
I realized about six months ago that trying to rebuild my life by suppressing the corrosive anger and deep pain that comes with being abused and hoping that doing eft and meditating and praying- mostly prayers of bargaining with God — would help. Instead, I turned back to extremely disempowering patterns like people pleasing and believing that if I upheld some kind of saintly level of being good (while also trying to compensate for deep shame and self loathing) that things would workout somehow? Lol. I love all the self help and spiritual tools, but some of it just doesn’t go deep enough, not even healing meditations or hypnosis. Many spiritual teachers mean well, but perhaps it takes someone who has experienced the deep psychic pain of being abused, much less the pain of childhood abuse by a parent, and the deep self disgust that comes with being rejected by the people who are supposed to love you. Thank you.

By: Vicky

Vicky — Thu, 14 Nov 2019 19:04:49 +0000

Thank you, Melanie – Means so much.

By: Justin

Justin — Sun, 13 Oct 2019 15:21:03 +0000

Thank you Melanie!
My story is similar to everyone else in most respects.

Both my parents are ‘Narcs’ aged 90. I cut off contact with my mom 40 years ago and she has no power over me.

My dad still has me hooked by promising a large inheritance. Also a (small) part of me still seeks his approval. This is where your teaching can help me.

I’m trying to fend him off emotionally without losing a large inheritance. I just wrote him to ask how much it is so I can plan for my future. (Should I try to buy a cheap trailer or will I be able to buy a decent house?) This is a legitimate question. I think that if I don’t get a ‘sane’ answer that I will go “no contact” and take my chances regarding the promised inheritance.

Possibly more important is that I heal so I can be in a positive healthy relationship. I am becoming involved with a nice woman. my land-lady, ( I rent a room in her house). She is an empath with many emotional problems from being involved with narcissists. We are both working on similar problems and both tend to be co-dependent. I try to be supportive of her without being co-dependent. We both work hard at trying to heal from Narc abuse! (wish us luck!)

By: Naomi Humm

Naomi Humm — Mon, 07 Oct 2019 04:18:05 +0000

This was a really interesting one for me as I have just had my mother staying for two weeks and felt exhausted by the time she left. I’m still not sure that I can identify her as a narcissist but she comes to see me under the auspices of supporting and looking after me but I end up feeling like I support and prop her up. It feels like she leans in energetically and then I feel resentful for because I start feeling sapped of energy and then guilty because she’s my mother and I shouldn’t feel this way after all she’s done for me etc. I felt from quite an early age that I became her caretaker and this has only become more evident to me as the years go by and it really taints the relationship. Do you have any advice on this?

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 23 Sep 2019 00:46:20 +0000

In reply to Ashley.

Hi Ashley,

it’s my pleasure.

NARP is the key – more so NARP Gold because you have the Forum Community access (which is so supportive). The free webinar explains NARP.

Because you are ready to heal, NARP is the path to http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Mel 🙏💕💛