Comments on: 7 Steps To Recovering From Narcissistic Financial Abuse

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 04 Oct 2022 00:49:15 +0000

Hi Huplimited,

Myself and the team would love to help you get started with NARP.

If you come into the NARP Members Forum there is so much loving support there http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

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By: Susan

Susan — Mon, 03 Oct 2022 18:31:08 +0000

It’s been 4 years since I moved out, bought my own home (luckily I am financially independent) and divorced my narcissistic abusive husband of 36 years, and your videos have really helped me make sense of it all. At the time I left, I knew things were so wrong but I couldn’t articulate why, exactly. Now I get it (!) and I still wake up every day feeling free to breathe and live! Though I question why it took me so long to finally leave, I understand more of my co-dependency, and know that my experiences made me who I am today and I am so much more at peace with myself.

My husband took over investing our money early in our relationship (because of course he felt he was smarter than me), so when I left, all I heard was that my monetary worth was all due to him, and that I would have been nothing without him. He gave me an ultimatum in which he demanded much more of our investments and “things” in order for him to quietly go with an uncontested divorce. I took the offer, knowing that I would still have enough to get by, and that the emotional-abusive price I would have to pay to fight him wasn’t worth it! He still couldn’t help himself and acted like a jilted teenager as he vandalized my car (I have no proof but know it was him) and he also threatened to come to my house (which is in my name only) because he insisted that he was still entitled to half of it and would destroy “his half.”

Lucking we have been no contact since, and I have installed a home security system which gives me peace of mind (though I’m always alert!).

I don’t regret “paying the price” and letting things go in order to be left alone.

By: Erika

Erika — Mon, 03 Oct 2022 06:08:19 +0000

In reply to Huplimited. Same here, I lost both my kids, my home, my whole existence

By: Huplimited

Huplimited — Mon, 03 Oct 2022 04:02:52 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

I did lose my beloved kids and everything I ever worked for. Sneaky calculated and below the belt acts. 15 months on since he threw me on the street In my pyjamas and millions of dollars of debts but he still won’t leave me in peace. He uses the legal system to continue destroying me further. “What else could he want” people ask. I know for a fact he won’t leave me until he’s sure I’m in a coffin. It can only get worse. Run if you can.

The worst part is, the whole entire world thinks he’s the nicest man alive. He was a victim in the hands of his crazy wife. He suffered so much abuse. He’s so intelligent and conniving that he made my 17 year old believe all his lies. Something no one could believe was possible. He buys everyone around him so they don’t ask a single question about his version. He gets away with it all. I’m amazed as to how I survive all this.

Melanie. I have your course and all the materials. I just don’t know where to begin. May be im not ready yet.

By: Phoenix Rising

Phoenix Rising — Mon, 03 Oct 2022 04:01:47 +0000

My ex and I were never married, but were together 20 years with 2 kids. I ran over 3 years ago, taking the kids. The court battle has been epic, as he was an attorney (lost his law license over the stunts he pulled after I left). I had to be the one to leave the jointly owned house, as I knew he never would, and my protective order took 8 months to b granted, so there was no way I could have stayed while I was fighting him (and the police wouldn’t remove him without a court order, as he had the right to be there). Since I had left the house, when I did get the protective order, I couldn’t get an order removing him as it was no longer my main residence, so he continued to live there. However, only MY name was on the mortgage, so he paid NOTHING, and absolutely destroyed the place. It is currently in foreclosure (I quit paying so it is destroying my credit, but that was the only way to eventually get him out). I finally got him out when he went to jail for a short time, and changed the locks (mommy broke in and moved his belongings out while he was in jail). When he got out, he kept breaking back in every so often to harm more stuff, like taking all the appliances & garage work bench, stealing every other kitchen drawer and all the ceiling light fixtures, took the top to the toilet tank, cut out all the outlets and light switches, stole the sink faucets, shelving, took out plumbing lines, flooded the bathroom, drilled out all the door knob locks and actually removed the front door deadbolt and lock, messed with the furnace and water lines, had not moved the backyard in 3 years so it is a jungle and there is tons of junk he threw back there, etc. The police don’t care, since his name is on the deed, so I’ve had to just walk away. Soon the forecloure sale will happen (and I know his idea is that it will sell for so little now that I will have a huge deficiency against me). And the sad part if we had sold it in good condition during the high housing market, we would have made a hefty profit that we both could have split and gotten money. But he wanted to hurt me more rather than have us both get money. Oh, and he also stole over $90,000 of our kids’ college funds within 2 weeks of me leaving as well, and became voluntarily destitute and has not paid a dime in ordered support or reimbursements. He abused the kids about a year ago, and the court yanked his visitation, and he has basically written off our kids now, and my oldest is in her first year of college and we really could have used those funds.

By: Huplimited

Huplimited — Mon, 03 Oct 2022 04:00:46 +0000

In reply to Diane. I did lose my beloved kids and everything I ever worked for. Sneaky calculated and below the belt acts. 15 months on since he threw me on the street In my pyjamas and millions of dollars of debts but he still won’t leave me in peace. He uses the legal system to continue destroying me further. “What else could he want” people ask. I know for a fact he won’t leave me until he’s sure I’m in a coffin. It can only get worse. Run if you can. The worst part is, the whole entire world thinks he’s the nicest man alive. He was a victim in the hands of his crazy wife. He suffered so much abuse. He’s so intelligent and conniving that he made my 17 year old believe all his lies. Something no one could believe was possible. He buys everyone around him so they don’t ask a single question about his version. He gets away with it all. I’m amazed as to how I survive all this.

By: Robin

Robin — Tue, 28 Jun 2022 10:49:09 +0000

In reply to Louise.

Hi I’m wondering how it worked out. I am being financially crushed and we weren’t even legally married. He systematically made sure all assets were in his name except my property which he is refusing to remove his belongings from even though he doesn’t live there. It is on the market. Tonight he had driven unbeknownst to me 600 miles to my town and came into my apartment took my keys and my car that was in his name. He took my car me and my daughter drive. It’s 3:30 am and I can’t sleep. All I have is the property and he’s blocking the sale. I’m shocked. But shouldn’t be

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 29 Apr 2021 08:26:27 +0000

In reply to Faye.

Hi Faye,

Thank you!

Blessings and love to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Faye

Faye — Mon, 26 Apr 2021 10:43:21 +0000

Love your work Mel .. hit the mail in the head .. they Chip at this abuse slowly and sneakily too parasites 🦠 .. live how you bring it to the light and love your soliton even better ..