Comments on: 8 Character Traits That Make Narcissists Run The Other Way

By: Irene Madrid

Irene Madrid — Sat, 22 Jan 2022 17:25:51 +0000

NO CONTACT, NO CONTACT, NO CONTACT. And when I did that, I was free, loving myself, taking care of myself.

x on the other hand, was OBSESSED with hooking me to no avail…..and he tried everything.

Oh to learn this lesson !!!!!!!!!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 30 Oct 2021 22:31:04 +0000

In reply to GOODMANNER OBANOVWE.

Hi Goodmanner,

I am so happy for you that you have been able to anchor into this powerful truth!

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: GOODMANNER OBANOVWE

GOODMANNER OBANOVWE — Fri, 29 Oct 2021 18:58:49 +0000

Dear Mama MEL,
You are nothing short of a prophetess!
How easy it is to think of a victim of narcissistic abuse as a coward, paranoid, and label him as such, as long as he keeps handing power away, and allowing life to be sucked out of him. But how true and practically simple to see that when the situation is reversed and the victim suddenly ‘comes alive’ and remains ‘true to type’, the real cowards are the narco himself and his flying monkeys!

Against the backdrop of this situational reality, it is thus easy to identify with and understand the narrative of the Holy Book when it described the scenario of Jesus’s temptation by Satan three times, and when Jesus resolutely unyielded, Satan left him alone.

The point is very clear. The narcissist has no hold on the self-regenerative, anti-fear, and completely detached individual. Thanks for the life-changing lessons. I’m indebted to you and your great team.

– Gee Emm

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 19 Oct 2021 01:17:57 +0000

In reply to Karen.

Hi Karen,

I’d love you to come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar so that you can understand this at a much deeper level.

This will help you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Karen

Karen — Fri, 15 Oct 2021 08:58:55 +0000

who I am with will always trigger me and i break down crying. Usually threatening to take something that is mine. He is def a lier and shady but to my knowledge does not go for allies. He is quiet with himself, sulky maybe,but triggered by little things. I moved into another room in the house. He keeps threatening to throw me and my grandkids out. Before i knew he was narcissistic he agreed to help me raise them what a mistake poor kids. I am
codependant in the financial way and for love. Tired of being triggered by his up and down moods. Never before have i seen him punch a wall or yell really loud into space. It scared me but he knows i know. Just waiting for a house to open up. One more thing .. is he still narcissistic if he not as ruthless as what i have read? Maybe a covert narcissist? Idk.. confused I don’t see him as aggressive as what i have seen others talk about. Is there an explanation to this or varying degrees?

By: Faye

Faye — Sun, 10 Oct 2021 07:09:07 +0000

All aspects spot on

Wonderfully said … absolutely exposing truths … such a true healer you are Mel

Thank you for allowing us the knowledge to setting ourself free ❤️❤️❤️

By: Faye

Faye — Sun, 10 Oct 2021 07:07:46 +0000

Wonderfully said … absolutely exposing truths … such a true healer you are Mel

Thank you for allowing us the knowledge to setting ourself free ❤️❤️❤️

By: Truthteller

Truthteller — Fri, 08 Oct 2021 03:29:29 +0000

I relate to most of the comments people have made and the points that Melanie made which helped me to see that much of the impact of the trauma is behind me. I left my ex 2 years ago, and have gone no contact as soon as I dumped him. He did contact me, by mail, but I ignored him I blocked him and all his flying monkeys, who believe the BS he told them about me- complete projection. I have done a lot of inner work, there is so much to grieve, right back to my childhood. I had to let go of my siblings too, they are no different than the ex. I realise that many of the people I dealt with in my life were toxic to various degrees. Now I have no qualms about walking away from these, or not engaging at all. I think the most significant change I needed to make was to connect to my Self- I felt a sense of expansion and lightness, and self-acceptance. I am strengthening that connection and now know that I am worthy of being treated with respect and dignity. It took me a lifetime to understand the trauma bond and how I confused love with abuse. No more. I am free now, very tired from all this, but free. Yep, I still sometimes slip back into old patterns, but I am able to see them, forgive myself (very important) and come back to my true self.

By: Kondwani Chinula

Kondwani Chinula — Thu, 07 Oct 2021 06:01:56 +0000

All Amazing points Melanie!
The point on Being Charm and Flattery Proof though made me think – gosh, we were somewhat blind to this and made us think this person was ‘amazing’ even though it was gross and laid on thick and there were warning signs. So important not to be concerned what people think either way, ‘good’ or ‘bad’ same thing really, causing us to react. Looking for gaps to charm us and abuse us, same thing mmmhhhh. You are so so Wise.
Kondwani