Comments on: 8 Signs You Are Suffering From Narcissistic Abuse

By: Jo

Jo — Fri, 03 Jun 2022 09:55:03 +0000

In reply to Carol. Hello, how do you leave a narcissist when you have no family or anywhere to go? I’m broken.

By: Lyla Stone

Lyla Stone — Mon, 03 May 2021 13:27:05 +0000

I ended up with Panic Disorder after dealing with two narcissists back to back. I was a complete wreck and lost my physical health. I also lost my identity and my boundaries were at their all time worst! Narcissistic abuse is so underestimated. Thanks for this post!

By: Jen

Jen — Sat, 25 Jul 2020 11:33:38 +0000

Just found this website and the great videos. I think it woukd be much easier to leave with a support system, good friends. I have been trying to find local groups but nothing. Even someone to share living expenses. If anyone knows if such resources, please post them. I an so far into this with time, etc kids out if house, but I am still relatively young with hopefully more years left.

By: Carol M Rafferty

Carol M Rafferty — Mon, 27 Jan 2020 12:12:49 +0000

I left the narcissist, in my life, about 22 months ago. He is in a medical building, out of state. He refuses to leave & uses, at least, 3 family members to keep on harassing me. I have been financially exploited, smeared, for over a year, almost evicted twice. Their harassment was getting overwhelming & not many believed me. I have been through so much name calling by others, I started isolating. They went as far as hiring a woman, with six police records, to stop me from reporting high way robbery. I had a stroke, just before Christmas & I went to the hospital. Instead of taking care of the stroke, they 302ed me. Two & a half weeks of constant emotional abuse, lying & trying to steal. I go home & found someone entered my home & stole my medications. I have a constant bad headache. My lil’ Cockatiel is fighting for her life, because while I couldn’t be with her, her heart broke. I am almost feeling numb inside. When, they broke in, that through my apt. around, like a cyclone went through here. I wake up so depressed, that it takes 3 hours to talk myself out of bed. Today is our anniversary & frankly, I just don’t give a damn!! I want that man out of my life, but he is doing his best to keep me financially strapped to him.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 19:19:55 +0000

Thanks so much for your work. I’m reading this again today because my former beloved just sent me an email asking for time with my dog (which isn’t really safe even for the dog). The email was mostly sane and polite except for one very weird crazy accusatory line. I’d been doing fine, almost no contact even though we share a business, I’d actually stopped crying all the time. I wasn’t thinking about him all that much. Only 3 months since I moved out, pretty good, no? Your NARP program has been a huge help to me. But he must have felt the tether between us getting thin, so he sent this crazy email, wanting something, yanking at my heartstrings. Poor dear, maybe he’s sick or dying, he’s so messed up. Perhaps he knows that he made a really big mistake.

So the thing is, if I don’t respond, he could raise the ante, project even more nasty stuff onto me. If I do respond, well, even if it’s a very simple clear note saying no, still I responded. But either way my mind is swirling with thoughts of him (which had stopped before), and fear of repercussions, and this maintains our connection. I’ll probably send the simple note because it seems that will give me moderately less anxiety than keeping quiet and feeling the tension. I feel when I set solid boundaries he’s enraged. If I could choose I’d rather he just felt regret, but maybe that’s not an option.

Thanks again for these blogs to read late at night when nothing else seems to help.

By: June SLater

June SLater — Sat, 21 Sep 2019 22:27:06 +0000

32 years in, 4 children, he has ALS (10 years now). Last couple of years I have thought he had Frontal Lobe Dementia too but having read all of the above – he is a true narcissist. I think I’ve always known it deep down but the abuse the last few years has been intolerable….but I’m still here. He speaks to no-one else in his family..our kids are on the fence except the eldest who sees right through his bullying tactics. How can I walk away when he has ALS? Trapped. Trapped. Trapped.

By: Katelyn

Katelyn — Mon, 16 Sep 2019 16:18:43 +0000

I’m 16 years old. I just got out of a toxic relationship. I didn’t know what narcissistic abuse was, but it popped up when I searched ‘how to heal from a toxic relationship’. I’m not entirely sure if my partner was a narcosis. All I know is that what he did to me hurt me and he messed with my head badly. I want to understand how and why he was able to do these things to me. Is there anyway I can email you and talk to you about my relationship with him? I just want to understand. He destroyed me mentally and I want to know how to move on. I want to know how to heal. Please please help me.

By: Jumpin’ Jake Flash

Jumpin’ Jake Flash — Sat, 14 Sep 2019 01:56:51 +0000

In reply to Stephen. I am so screwed. No one can help me or my two boys. My wife is the worst dominatrix Hollywood has ever seen. It’s our 21st anniversary this month, and I couldn’t care less. My sons, and I, have depression. My wife has every narc symptom in the book. I want to jump off a cliff, literally.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 07:33:50 +0000

In reply to Susan.

Hi Susan,

The truth is you cant and wont be able to get him to see it.

Truly the only way you can influence this is by believing and trusting and knowing, by shifting yourself to that emotional place, that he will awaken into his true self and his own rights.

As parents the more we see our children as broken and stuck, the more they stay that way.

Your only power is to have a different belief and where your emotional truth about him goes, he will then follow.

Mel 🙏💕💛