Comments on: Afraid Of What The Narcissistic Will Do Next? – Do this

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 09 Jun 2024 00:03:19 +0000

In reply to Dani.

Hi Dani,

I’m very sorry that I didn’t see your notification till now, its been a very busy time at MTE.

That’s great that this has helped you understad the connection with triggers and handing our power away!

The way myself and so many others in this community have healed for real, by releasing our triggers, is with the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program.

You can see the details here: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

I hope that this helps

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Dani

Dani — Fri, 31 May 2024 21:44:19 +0000

This article has been so helpful to me! It just made so much sense.
I have a friend who is extremely narcissistic.
I ended the friendship and was at that point where I was feeling fearful of what would happen next.
I would like to ask, once I have identified my triggers, how do I heal from them?

By: Marlene myers

Marlene myers — Mon, 14 Feb 2022 00:17:10 +0000

Thank you so much for all your help and kind words. I know others have gone through turbulent relationships but you’ll never know how badly it hurts until you have had a relationship with a narcissist. It cannot be explained, the pain, hurt and most of all knowing you have been duped by someone. Not that you are naive or gullible but you sit back a can’t believe it’s happening to you. How do you make others understand. They seem to look at you as if something is wrong with you. It seems like it goes on forever. Thank you Melanie.

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 25 Dec 2019 21:34:23 +0000

In reply to Stephen Coleman. Congratulations Stephen:)

By: Joy Guyer

Joy Guyer — Fri, 15 Nov 2019 22:11:48 +0000

You have written about NPD going to the next level. Well, my adult daughter has done just that. I would like your advice on what to do. My 18 year old grandson is graduating from high school early. A graduation party is being held in a few weeks and, as of yet, I have not received an invitation. This all stems from my daughter’s smearing me when she asked if I would help write two essays for my grandson. I said sure, but I was babysitting my granddaughter for four days and before anything else could be said she went into her NPD rage about everything under the sun. I hung up and the next time there was a spontaneous meeting at my son’s house, she, her husband and my grandson ignored me. I have always been very close to both grandsons and done whatever I could for them. My question is this: Do I call my grandson and tell him that there are two sides to every story and that I love him, but will honor the fact that I was not invited? Or do I just chock it up to another NPD outburst and rage and move on?

By: kam

kam — Fri, 15 Nov 2019 15:17:25 +0000

Hi Melanie,
I’ve been divorced from the narcissist for 5 years now but I am still working on healing. Recently, he has aggressively tried to manipulate me through the children (the only way he still can). Old patterns emerged as I began focusing on the narcissist and how his actions were feeding into my fears. As I watched your video, I could feel my inner being smile as your words reminded me to take the focus off him in order to remove any residual power or control he is trying to maintain over my life. I can’t thank you enough for your work. It is truly phenomenal.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 06 Nov 2019 04:31:11 +0000

In reply to Puresoul.

Hi Puresoul,

I am sorry you are going through this pain and devastation right now.

Please know Dear One that there is a way out of this, and I would love to show you how.

The best way I can do this is with my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

I so hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕💛

By: Puresoul

Puresoul — Tue, 05 Nov 2019 14:05:14 +0000

Hlo
Its been year and few months I have been in relationship with guy.. everything was kindof fine while we where together but used to have fights I thought its normal in relation .. He had tendency to prove that he’s always right I always use to allow that because I love him with whole heart . Then after that now we are in different cities he started giving little little scilent treatments hurting me mentally..like few months ago I became cross and thought not to keep contact then again told sorry wont do again I sawre I ll be good .. I believed ya maybe he reasiled his mistake .

Then I don’t know it was cat and dogs life again I don’t know what have started happening me to I started becoming depressed I thought maybe because of study stress mood swings etc and thought he was only relief as lover.

Then one night he started fighting as usual. And am almost lost of all hope.. Then he told for past 4 months he have been hurting me intentionally for some small mistake i did 4 months ago..he get pleasure in that he was using scilent treatment and being unavailable when I needed him most .. He s like that mostly in night and he doesn’t sleep . He’s so much into it.. I got a mental shock I had little intentions about his hurting treatment erlier but I thought it gone when he promised.. never thought would do this to his own lover.. I loved him most .. all these 4 months I didn knew what I was going through and he knew. And instead of comforting me was making me going through that and laughing..

Am very broken .. as per videos I have blocked him in everything each day from somthing new he’s messaging and apologising ik very well its a trap.. But If i go now.. Then there is no chance back.. Am preparing for comparative exams now.. not being able to do much.. and I feel lonely.. Sometimes I miss love not him.. I had bestfriends erlier lost them because of relation I am totaly alone now.. I feel like breaking down.. one day isn’t moving forward.. place help I want to get out if this..

By: Cathy

Cathy — Wed, 30 Oct 2019 11:56:54 +0000

Hi Melanie,
Such timing, also not a coincidence. I was hugely triggered yesterday, feeling I had no voice, then when finally communicating what I was thinking about, getting the , “well if you do that how will we pay for…” You get the picture. Punishing me and using emotional blackmail (you’ll be sorry) because I dared to question what he wanted to do. I went into a spiral of panic and felt sick with the stress. Felt awful all day today, thinking about lawyers, where would I live, how would I leave, what could I take etc etc. I tried to find the fear and release it last night. It worked a bit, I actually slept. Then tonight I saw this Thriver topic and watched it. What a good reminder. I am so afraid of loosing everything. Thank you for getting me back on track with what I CAN do. I will find my NARP stuff and start again. Thank you Melanie,
Warm regards,
Cathy