Comments on: Aftershock – The Narcissistic Abuse Phenomenon https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/aftershock-post-leaving-a-narcissist/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 05 Nov 2024 12:48:58 +0000 hourly 1 By: Helena https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/aftershock-post-leaving-a-narcissist/#comment-1284470 Tue, 30 Jan 2024 00:03:17 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=14024#comment-1284470 Melanie ,
I discovered your website last year after trying to work out what kind of human I had managed to get myself so hooked on. (I had been brutally discarded after idealise/devalue and searched up narcissistic behaviour online ). Your blogs , your 16 day email programme and all the information you have given on narcissistic behaviour , our behaviours and how to heal have honestly been the most transformative I have ever read . Reading it was like having a breakthrough. A million pennies dropped.
Then,
I got back with the narcissist and of course the same things happened but each time I felt less and less hooked and more armoured with knowledge about what was actually going on having read your blogs /emails/advice /mantra/experiences etc.
So now , a month ago, the final discard took place and I have gone No contact. This time when it ended, I felt relief . There is absolutely no comparison in the way i feel to how I did last year on the rollercoaster. (I felt so sad, hooked, addicted, betrayed, played, manipulated, punished and desperate to right the wrongs, I had had all my expectations managed down and my head was spinning from the hot and cold and breadcrumbing) I did so much work by reading your material that I truly feel that with this final discard I have the tools to be happier than ever and never never will I let this vampire back again. I feel the shift and when he made contact (which I knew he would) I felt so different to how I did before (there were many break ups) All respect has gone and I feel unhooked and strong.
I am currently experiencing aftershock which is manifesting in anger (anger for allowing it to happen for a further year) so reading about the peptide hits is so helpful .
You really are remarkable and I thank you so much for giving me actual life changing help.
Helena

]]> By: Laura https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/aftershock-post-leaving-a-narcissist/#comment-1283486 Sun, 15 Oct 2023 01:50:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=14024#comment-1283486 I believe that I was stuck in an aftershock state for many years after leaving a relationship with a narcissist. Stuck in total survival mode and planning nothing for my future. I certainly didn’t want to think about another relationship, ever. I’m long out of it now, but what a horrendous thing.

]]> By: Melissa Joy https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/aftershock-post-leaving-a-narcissist/#comment-1283200 Tue, 05 Sep 2023 17:55:54 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=14024#comment-1283200 In reply to Katherine.

My heart goes out to you Katherine! I TOTALLY believe you, as I’ve studied this for many years now. I’m so glad that you have been able to overcome this horrific abuse and mind control, and would love to hear your testimonies of many lives touched who have had to endure what you have…and even worse! Thank you for sharing your story. It gives so much HOPE to others I’m sure!

]]> By: Corinne https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/aftershock-post-leaving-a-narcissist/#comment-1283089 Fri, 25 Aug 2023 07:44:50 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=14024#comment-1283089 In reply to Marina.

I recognize a lot of that. A relationship of 30 years. Our house where I lived with him for 24 years and raised my 2 daughters. He knew I was happy there. I also helped set up and flourish his business. Until I was no longer needed. Then his behavior got worse and worse. The business is next to that house. He did everything he could to intimidate me out of there. I lived in 7 places in 1 year which was traumatizing. Now I have my own apartment, but the loss is still so great after 2 years. The relationship with my children was always very good, and now suddenly not anymore. I have so much pain in my body from fear and panic. And that only came after I left because it was no longer bearable there with him. Because of his harsh criticism and tantrums.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/aftershock-post-leaving-a-narcissist/#comment-1283064 Tue, 22 Aug 2023 09:00:43 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=14024#comment-1283064 In reply to gab.

Hi Gab,

please know the absolute truth is it doesn’t MATTER what she is or isn’t – truly.

This is about healing YOU and allowing you to define and go forth into your successful, happy, healthy life.

Thats exactly what the Quantum inner work that I faciltate does – takes away the pain, confusion, battles and stuckedess and releases you into your True Self and True Life.

Is that something you would be interetsed in?

If so, “Thrive” will help you so much http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/thrive

You will not be the same person as the one who entered this 10 week bootcamp.

That is my solemn promise to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/aftershock-post-leaving-a-narcissist/#comment-1283063 Tue, 22 Aug 2023 08:57:06 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=14024#comment-1283063 In reply to Chris.

Hi Chris,

it is – and I promise you it can be done.

Are you ready to take action? If so we would love to have you in our next Thrive (Many amazing men do particpate!) http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/thrive

We’d love to help you!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/aftershock-post-leaving-a-narcissist/#comment-1283061 Tue, 22 Aug 2023 08:53:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=14024#comment-1283061 In reply to Marina.

Hi Marina,

my heart goes out to you.

I want to give you hope that there are many in this community – it happened to me too – who lost our homes and much more to abuse, who – even at later stages of life – have made incredible comebacks.

What occurred was a healing into “peace” before the outer reserrection followed.

Please know there is a way forward no matter how devestating and hopeless the “rebuild” seems right now.

I’d love to invite you into my FREE masterclass http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/masterclass where I explain and take you through the miracle benefits of Quanta Freedom Healing.

Sending love, healing and blessings to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/aftershock-post-leaving-a-narcissist/#comment-1283059 Tue, 22 Aug 2023 08:44:49 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=14024#comment-1283059 In reply to Katherine.

Hi Katherine,

it’s my pleasure.

It is one of my greatest wishes too that NARP can assist with the deep unspeakable trauma that you and others have been through, that is hidden – albeit in plain sight.

NARP and personal clients, at this level, have achieved great breakthroughs with Quanta Freedom Healing and I send you love and encouragement to keep going.

Sending you every blessing and healing Katherine, and please know this wonderful community and myself are here for you.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Elise https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/aftershock-post-leaving-a-narcissist/#comment-1283053 Mon, 21 Aug 2023 22:26:56 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=14024#comment-1283053 In reply to Ann.

Hi Ann,

I found this video about aftershock very hopeful. I have been divorced from my narc for 7 years, and I still feel frozen, fatigued, and terrified. Even though I have gone grey with him, and practically no contact, and that feels so good, I feel like I am fighting now with myself. It feels horrible when I want it to feel encouraged. But seeing this as a peptide addiction, makes it more doable and I look forward to my and to your conquered internal battles.

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