Comments on: Beware Of Gaslighting – An Insidious Form Of Manipulation

By: Jan

Jan — Thu, 14 Jul 2022 06:02:36 +0000

In reply to TAMMY L HERRICK. You can do it! As big and scary as it seems during those first few steps it is worth it and you deserve it! ❤️

By: Nicole

Nicole — Sat, 24 Jul 2021 08:24:40 +0000

This is such a fantastic blog, I’m so happy I found it. I am only 5 months free of my abuser and my experience of being gaslit was without a doubt the worst period of my life. I was so lost and confused, i was being hurt so deeply and continuously and made to also feel guilt and responsible. I couldn’t see a way out and it nearly killed me. You describe and explain it so well and it means so much to those who have experiences it to feel somewhat understood. You’re a star, thanks for all you do!

By: Zsuzsana

Zsuzsana — Sun, 11 Jul 2021 03:34:40 +0000

In reply to Melissa.

My father was an abusive barn physically and mentally I left home at 18 to escape his violence my mother stayed as she had no way of supporting us
I married 1 an alcoholic abuser
2 A gambler who lost everything our house and business and was found guilty of fraud nearly jailed
Then married my first love who died now married again Another narcissist

By: Michelle Lehman

Michelle Lehman — Fri, 02 Jul 2021 00:01:51 +0000

Hello, I was married to a narcissist for 7 years but didn’t know it until years later. When I started doing research it was by the book when we met, the second stage and the third stage, I was told, “If you divorce me I’ll put you through hell!!” And he did for 13 years we were I. And out of court because he was the better parent and was trying to get our kids taken away from me. I remarried about 2 years after we divorced so he put my new husband through the ringer also!! We were both horrible people and the kids would hate us. Well in the long run out now 23 year old daughter got married last year and changed her last name to my maiden name 6 months before she got married because she didn’t want anything to do with her dad, her step dad walked her down the aisle, now my 22 year old son wants nothing to do with him, growing up he was the “escape goat” And we have a 21 year old that talks to him but only if he wants something and he is the “golden child “, but back to my 22 year old, he has 2 children and his dad and step mom live 3 hours away and not really in my sons life and her kids and my son has always tried to get his dads live but that will never happen, he also was trying to let his dad be in his kids lives and let them have them a few times when he had them for his visitation, well I told him something was up because they were being to nice so he thought about it and told the step mom that she wasn’t going to get them like she was. So she got pissed and went to the of the 2 kids and told her lies and got her mad at me and my son and the mom started giving the kids to the step mom instead of the dad my son, so now we are going to have to go to court to get the kids because the step mom is keeping them away from us telling my son he has no rights and mind you the mom is ok with her kids being with these people that she doesn’t even know. So after 3 years of being rid of the narcissist (and the step mom is just as bad as the dad)they have one out of hibrination and going after my son, only to hurt me to keep my grandchildren away from me!! It’s awful the step has the mom convinced that this is good for the kids and that we were never there for her or the kids
But mind you my son had the kids 5 days a week and the mom had them 2 days but then were at a babysitters while she worked!! I have been there since the kids were both born I have proof, and my son also but she keeps saying that the step mom was the only one here for her and the kids, but they are even around the first 13 months!! Just only the last 2 months since the step mom took over the kids!!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 01 Jul 2021 05:37:43 +0000

In reply to MARIA.

Hi Maria,

this will end when you heal you on the inside regarding this ..

Let me explain this to you in greater detail in my free webinar – as well as how to heal this so it ends …

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: peggy b

peggy b — Tue, 29 Jun 2021 14:00:48 +0000

Thank you Melanie after all these years of being married you have given me the truth about my husbands bad behavior. I listened to the gas lighting blog again and have learned some techniaues to empower me. Thanks for the info.

By: MARIA

MARIA — Tue, 29 Jun 2021 04:51:25 +0000

I have a ‘friend’ who lived with us for awhile but she smoked. I am allergic. After trying & asking her to please not smoke in the house, and she wouldn’t then I asked her to leave. She did. Then she began this pattern of befriending others and those others would also turn against me. Almost all of my friends became her friends and this pattern continues to this day. They talk about me behind my back and then it gets back to me. They have become a clique. It does hurt. I wanted to make friends with a few of the others, but it is a dead end. I do value my own self and know outside of this situation I have lots of love to give to others and they to me. However, this clique is always present in my world and they do their best to exclude me. She asked my help in her move recently, and now she never got back to me about what days or times to come over. She said she sent me messages, but I never got them. She is almost calling me a liar. I am not. I never got messages from her. I am again going No contact. It is a never-ending cycle. Its almost a planned thing. I suppose it IS a planned thing… lets get the “goody-goody” because she thinks she is All That. I don’t know how to complete END this thing. Now another of our friends wants contact and I really don’t. It will end up just as I’ve related. So I am saying no, I am busy. Do I just ignore all of them as they do me? Do I try to talk to them to resolve things? To heal things? Or am I just being stupid and thinking that THIS would never happen b/c they don’t want they, they want the Narc Control and nothing else. Please help! I just read 4 of your articles and see the pattern, loud and clear. I really want nothing more to do with them. Any of them… even though a couple of them were really precious to me. But this one ruins it for me… all the time. For years now.

By: peggy b

peggy b — Sat, 26 Jun 2021 02:30:35 +0000

You really hit the nail on the head. My husband came in yelling about the house how bad it looked. He yelled he was cleaning because it was our 40 years of being married and started to belittle like i never clean so I went out on a ride in my car and came back and he was still ranting so I told him most people would have paid for a made for me to give me a break after all these years and he never responded to me and he yelled and said it was stink in his nose because of the dust. He is just being insensitive. Who want to tire themselves out before their anniversary especially after being married for 40 years,.

By: Caroline

Caroline — Sat, 26 Jun 2021 02:17:39 +0000

In reply to Mary gable. I’m hearing you Mary and everything that Mel said. I lived this for 36 years. It was always me that was the problem. He would accuse me of the very things he was guilty of and force me to defend myself, even getting angry at him and that simply wasn’t me. He would tell me other people, including his and my family, thought there was something wrong with me and I needed to see a psychiatrist. When I finally figured out the person he still is and had been our entire marriage, including the multiple relationships (and they weren’t even younger women), I had to become a detective and produce the evidence for anyone to believe me, which I did (he even had a private investigator lined up for me and the link was provided by one of the other women). I’m free of him now. Be kind to yourself and believe in yourself. You deserved better and the best medicine is the self respect and self empowerment you gain by getting them out of your life.