Comments on: Clarifying No Contact – The Common Pitfalls That Keep Us Hooked https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/clarifying-no-contact-the-common-pitfalls-that-keep-us-hooked/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sat, 12 Jul 2025 22:32:20 +0000 hourly 1 By: Sarah Deisz https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/clarifying-no-contact-the-common-pitfalls-that-keep-us-hooked/#comment-1286056 Sat, 12 Jul 2025 22:32:20 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3558#comment-1286056 Dear Melanietoniaevans Com,

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]]> By: Healthy https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/clarifying-no-contact-the-common-pitfalls-that-keep-us-hooked/#comment-1264952 Sat, 12 Feb 2022 06:18:49 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3558#comment-1264952 Roses are red, violets are blue. Not one promise a narcissist makes, will ever come true.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/clarifying-no-contact-the-common-pitfalls-that-keep-us-hooked/#comment-1252444 Tue, 18 May 2021 04:37:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3558#comment-1252444 In reply to robert kelly.

The real question Robert is this …

Why are you staying connected to someone treating you like this?

What are your unhealed wounds and inner love codes that are “familiar” with this and accepting any possibility of this?

That is what needs healing for you to not only get free from her and this abuse but to be able to have a relationship where this behaviour isn’t going to haunt you in the future.

It’s only your inner work with you that will free you. You have no power to change someone else’s behaviour.

My hugest recommendation to you is NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: robert kelly https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/clarifying-no-contact-the-common-pitfalls-that-keep-us-hooked/#comment-1252401 Mon, 17 May 2021 07:14:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3558#comment-1252401 Hi Melanie, Ok so I’m confused, after reading all I sit here and wonder am I the narcissist or is she. I’m in a relationship where she literally ghosts me after having a loving, caring relationship. Suddenly doesn’t want to speak to me.. goes on a dating site , meets another immediately. Despite calls and texts to want to talk all gets ignored. Threatens me with calling police.. yet I’m a sensitive, caring individual, have done everything from the heart for her and showed the same in return.. yet does that to a heartfelt individual. So please help me understand how someone can do that to another… oh and put through the whole ordeal as described and have no issue with it. ? I’m a good guy and did anything and everything for her. If their was an issue, you’d talk about it, yet she took deep measures and hid and and moved on.. no contact for a year and completely unwarranted with all sincerity. Closure would be great and realize it probably won’t happen yet I deserve that, and someone you loved and cared and spent so much time with just casts you aside like nothing.. so I’m sorry but being completely disrespected and having someone you truly loved just happily walk away without any explanation or care is not something most can sincerely deal with. So please how do you deal with a woman that does that without any care.. that’s my issue and just want sincere closure. Just want to be happy but never ever deserved that.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/clarifying-no-contact-the-common-pitfalls-that-keep-us-hooked/#comment-1005962 Mon, 26 Feb 2018 02:15:15 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3558#comment-1005962 In reply to kk cupcake.

Hi kk,

it is absolutely usual for narcissists to not respect boundaries and also trigger that within us that doesn’t feel safe.

Our evolution is in truly healing within us those parts that do so that this person has zero effect on us.

Then it just stops – truly.

As victims of narcissist abuse, we are called to become empowered to unconditional life-force and living – meaning we can be our True Selves regardless of what anyone else is or isn’t doing.

That’s when we reach the true power and freedom that is our birthright – and these people certainly help us get there.

Mel xo

]]> By: kk cupcake https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/clarifying-no-contact-the-common-pitfalls-that-keep-us-hooked/#comment-1005856 Sun, 25 Feb 2018 17:42:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3558#comment-1005856 Hey.

I have recently gone no contact with my ex narc. This is a person much older than myself (I’m 25 he is 42) and he works in the music industry in my city which I am actively involved in.
I knew that I would be running into him regularly seeing as he is typically at a lot of the same
shows I enjoy going to, so I took the time to prepare myself for running into him.
This weekend was the first time that I encountered him since going no contact and telling him to not
approach me if we did cross paths. While he did leave me alone and did not try to talk to me…. he picked
a spot in the venue where he had a clear line of sight of me and he stared at me the whole night.. BLATANTLY stared. I was shocked that none of his coworkers or friends pointed it out because to me it was very obvious and very creepy. If I moved to another spot in the room… he picked a new spot where he could watch me again, and then toward the end of the show he picked a spot right by the only entrance/exit of the venue so that when I had to leave I had no choice but to walk by him.

Never in my life have I been stared at so intensely… i found it to be an extremely unsettling experience and felt disturbed to my core from it, like it was incredibly violating. Is this a common behaviour for a victim to experience when running into their ex narc in public? Will this happen every time I run into him or was it maybe that it was the first time he just had to intimidate me…..

YUCK!!!. this would be so much easier if I never had to see his face again.

I have no desire to break contact…. but to me I felt like this violated my request of not crossing my boundaries anymore..and I was to frightened to approach him and tell him to stop staring as I’m sure he would have made it seem like I was crazy for speaking to him.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/clarifying-no-contact-the-common-pitfalls-that-keep-us-hooked/#comment-908416 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 12:14:50 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3558#comment-908416 In reply to Francis.

Hi Francis,

please email support@melanietoiaevans.com to find out more about my personal sessions.

Bless!

Mel xo

]]> By: Francis https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/clarifying-no-contact-the-common-pitfalls-that-keep-us-hooked/#comment-908185 Sun, 06 Aug 2017 21:09:12 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3558#comment-908185 Melanie, I would adore to have the chance to talk to you and exchange a couple of experiences.

I have been in both sides of the process.
A couple of years ago, I was abused by my ex girlfriend i a way you describe narcissistic abuse. Most recently I have had episodes in two big crisis with my wife, where I feel I have behaved as an abuser. I feel a bit of shame about it, I think we entered a pattern of behavior that we cannot control. I feel exhausted and without tools to work on it. Can we have a sessions by skype or something like that? I feel I need help.

Yours

]]> By: Francis https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/clarifying-no-contact-the-common-pitfalls-that-keep-us-hooked/#comment-908183 Sun, 06 Aug 2017 21:06:59 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3558#comment-908183 Melanie, I would adore to have the chance to talk to you and exchange a couple of experiences.

I have been in both sides of the process.
A couple of years ago, I was abused by my ex girlfriend i a way you describe narcissistic abuse. Most recently I have had episodes in two big crisis with my wife, where I feel I have behaved as an abuser. I feel a bit of shame about it, I think we entered a pattern of behavior that we cannot control. I feel exhausted and without tools to work on it. Can we have a sessions by skype or something like that?

Yours

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