Comments on: Emotional Invalidation In Relationships: How To End The Cycle https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/emotional-invalidation-in-relationships-how-to-end-the-cycle/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 05 Nov 2024 13:52:34 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/emotional-invalidation-in-relationships-how-to-end-the-cycle/#comment-1282531 Sat, 29 Jul 2023 08:11:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13668#comment-1282531 In reply to Chad.

Hi Chad,

I’m so pleased that my material has been able to help you. It’s awesome that you are getting clarity and relief.

Sending you healing and breakthroughs!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Chad https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/emotional-invalidation-in-relationships-how-to-end-the-cycle/#comment-1282443 Wed, 26 Jul 2023 01:59:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13668#comment-1282443 Melanie, I can’t find the words to express how incredibly thankful I am for you and your work. I found you in one of Nova Gibson’s Q&A videos on Facebook. I thought I was at the end and no more options; boy was I wrong. You and Nova saved my sanity and my life. I’m just past the month mark of no contact and my mind is clearer, I’m less anxious, and I feel like myself again. The things you write are like scripts of my life the past 8 years with a narcissistic partner. The following resonated so much with me.

“You should not feel that. You are too sensitive. That is not what is happening.”

“Traumatic invalidation includes gaslighting. Lying to you to skew your reality. Saying they never did that or said that. Or can’t remember saying it. Or you misheard it.”

“You may lecture and prescribe ad nauseum repeatedly, trying to get this unwilling, sick, emotionally unavailable person to validate you. You try to force this person into acknowledging what they did and to make amends for the damage they caused you and probably others.”

“Narcissistic people do not like to praise you – either in private or in front of others – as this, in their eyes, may raise your ‘superiority’ in ways that threaten them.”

Thanks to your information it all made sense. My head stopped spinning and I just let go. I seriously can not thank you enough. I booked a session with Nova just to personally thank her. You truly are a life saver. From the bottom of my healing heart, thank you thank you thank you. Many blessing to you for all the good you do!!!!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/emotional-invalidation-in-relationships-how-to-end-the-cycle/#comment-1281901 Fri, 07 Jul 2023 01:44:57 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13668#comment-1281901 In reply to Fiona.

Hi Fiona,

I’m so thrilled that this was a Lightbulb moment for you!

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/emotional-invalidation-in-relationships-how-to-end-the-cycle/#comment-1281900 Fri, 07 Jul 2023 01:43:56 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13668#comment-1281900 In reply to Sally.

Hi Sally,

Please know it is usual to feel really confused about our part in this too. All of us absolutely have inner wounds and are our own triggers, which means when invalidated can ignite those parts of us that require healing … absolutely.

Narcissistic people will not meet and heal their inner wounds, or wish to grow themselves into healthier people. We do wish to do this – and that is a massive difference.

We look forward Sally to welcoming you into our wonderful Healing Community.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/emotional-invalidation-in-relationships-how-to-end-the-cycle/#comment-1281899 Fri, 07 Jul 2023 01:39:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13668#comment-1281899 In reply to Joe.

Hi Joe,

I’m so pleased this has validated you, and its prefectly understandable that you are feeling this way.

Please know it is my pleasure and Im happy I can help.

Joe, have you thought about joining our Private NARP Community to have support, access to deep Inner Identity Healing and the best chance to heal not just from what you are feeling, but also the pattern of this in your future?

We have wonderful men in our Progam Joe, and you will be welcomed with open arms.

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Sending you love and healing

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/emotional-invalidation-in-relationships-how-to-end-the-cycle/#comment-1281898 Fri, 07 Jul 2023 01:36:04 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13668#comment-1281898 In reply to Heather P.

Hi Heather,

I’m glad this was clarifying for you!

Invalidation is PTSD inducing for sure.

I’m thrilled for you that NARP has helped so much.

Sending continued love and blessings

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Tony https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/emotional-invalidation-in-relationships-how-to-end-the-cycle/#comment-1281653 Thu, 29 Jun 2023 17:10:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13668#comment-1281653 I just read the article which was sent to me by my wife. What a wake up call! I am a near perfect march to a narcissist! Regardless the fact that I have gone many times to therapy with my wife to save my marriage which just crossed the 21 year mark, I do frequently behave just as discerned in the above article. As such, my wife Cindy has fallen in the arms of another man and regardless of the fact that we both love each other, our marriage is deteriorating rapidly. I am realizing all my mistakes and I need to take steps to correct myself, if not for this marriage, maybe for the next one. Being that I am 62, and have been married been married twice, I do want to know what can I do to repair me. My wife and all the people around me are very important to me and I will do everything I can to change.
Please help!

]]> By: William https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/emotional-invalidation-in-relationships-how-to-end-the-cycle/#comment-1281629 Thu, 29 Jun 2023 00:48:04 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13668#comment-1281629 Only now realizing how i was maltreated from birth with the deepest forms of invalidating that ,of course, me a child wouldn’t have known is a horrible negating of me for the rest of my life. Until I ran into these abuse expertise moguls have i begun to get the led out caused by this betrayal of a nascent child (me). I have one thing to say about that kind of assault on me. That it is exasperating and has been the very bases for a non active existence ever since. Leaving me stammering numb and dumb. Thank a lot creepos. Body bags don’t do them justice , (the photos don’t do them justice). I’ll go back and continue reading the rest of this post.

]]> By: Fiona https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/emotional-invalidation-in-relationships-how-to-end-the-cycle/#comment-1281546 Mon, 26 Jun 2023 17:56:02 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=13668#comment-1281546 OMG…I’m jumping into the goal-setting module to release a life-time of invalidation from my FOO right now. I’ve been trying to get the trauma layer out by using the words ‘my victimization’ and ‘my ego’ but this article hits right to the centre…invalidation.

Alhamdullilah! All praise to God!

Love, light and blessings to all,

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