Comments on: Exactly How Narcissists Screw With Your Mind, Toxify Your Body And Destroy Your Life https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/exactly-how-narcissists-screw-with-your-mind-toxify-your-body-and-destroy-your-life/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Fri, 21 Feb 2020 08:03:45 +0000 hourly 1 By: Clint Braddick https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/exactly-how-narcissists-screw-with-your-mind-toxify-your-body-and-destroy-your-life/#comment-1232729 Fri, 21 Feb 2020 08:03:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7778#comment-1232729 I am turning inward to become my own true Saviour NOW!!!

]]> By: Rb https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/exactly-how-narcissists-screw-with-your-mind-toxify-your-body-and-destroy-your-life/#comment-1232287 Sun, 16 Feb 2020 15:19:07 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7778#comment-1232287 Just getting out of a 2 year relationship with someone who is exactly as described!!! She made me question my self and alienated me from my friends and my family. She started calling me the narcissist early into our relationship. She would accuse me of things I don’t do and have never done. She would twist things around to satisfy her own agenda and really had me believing I was crazy. No matter how hard I tried, it was always something. When I would do exactly what she asked, she would say that I wasn’t doing it and that I was pathetic and a loser. Thank god for good friends. I opened up to a few long time friends about her abuse and they could not believe it. Took me awhile to get out of it but I finally did. Thank you for this blog. It has really helped me understand what I went through. I am still dealing with the after effects as the break up was fairly recent. Friends and family help, but this site has really helped me understand who she is and that I am not crazy.

]]> By: Rb https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/exactly-how-narcissists-screw-with-your-mind-toxify-your-body-and-destroy-your-life/#comment-1232286 Sun, 16 Feb 2020 15:16:51 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7778#comment-1232286 Just getting out of a 2 year relationship with someone who is exactly as described!!! She made me question my self and alienated me from my friends and my family. She started calling me the narcissist early into our relationship. She would accuse me of things I don’t do and have never done. She would twist things around to satisfy her own agenda and really had me believing I was crazy. No matter how hard I tried, it was always something. When I would do exactly what she asked, she would say that I wasn’t doing it and that I was pathetic and a loser. Thank god for good friends. I opened up to a few long time friends about her abuse and they could t believe it. Took me awhile to get out of it but I finally did. Thank you for this blog. It has really helped me understand what I went through. I am still dealing with the after effects as the break up was fairly recent. Friends and family help, but this site has really helped me understand who she is and that I am not crazy.

]]> By: Sarah Toivonen https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/exactly-how-narcissists-screw-with-your-mind-toxify-your-body-and-destroy-your-life/#comment-1232024 Fri, 14 Feb 2020 14:10:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7778#comment-1232024 In reply to Iris.

I am so happy that you are Narc free; I too was a confident, self supporting strong woman…also a recent widow from a beautiful marriage of 30 years….the crack was somewhere in my foundation…and yes, the air hurts! I hope to become like YOU again. Thank you so much for your comments. I wish you peace, serenity and joy with your continued journey!

]]> By: Sarah Toivonen https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/exactly-how-narcissists-screw-with-your-mind-toxify-your-body-and-destroy-your-life/#comment-1232020 Fri, 14 Feb 2020 13:54:28 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7778#comment-1232020 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

I am turning inward to become my own true Saviour NOW!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/exactly-how-narcissists-screw-with-your-mind-toxify-your-body-and-destroy-your-life/#comment-1231480 Tue, 11 Feb 2020 05:41:42 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7778#comment-1231480 In reply to Leanne Taylor.

Hi Leanne,

I am so sorry that you are going through this and I can completely and utterly understand your agony.

The real truth is, if you are not happy you are not happy. And you have an absolute right to be treated emotionally and mentally well as well as financially.

In order to generate a change in your life, it really is about you anchoring into what is the truth of what you will and won’t receive, and then taking a stand for that.

I know that it can be so hard to do, however we can only teach people how to treat us by laying such limits and boundaries, and then if he refuses to meet you at that place, then you don’t have a real or healthy relationship.

All this applies whether he is a narcissist or not. It’s whether or not he can be healthy for you.

I would like you to connect to my free inner transformational resources http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/free course which will explain to you more about this, and help you get in your power to see if he can rise up to meet you at a level of healthy respect or not. And it will also help you come to a place where if you do need to let go that you can.

I hope that this can help you Leanne

Much love

Mel 🙏💕💛

]]> By: Leanne Taylor https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/exactly-how-narcissists-screw-with-your-mind-toxify-your-body-and-destroy-your-life/#comment-1231423 Tue, 11 Feb 2020 00:50:25 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7778#comment-1231423 I’m so confused, I’ve been married for 34 years and only recently learned what a narc was until my narc siblings and best friend serviced. However re marriage I’ve used words like walking on eggshells for many years! There were so many times when I should of stood up to him and I see that now. Is he a narc I just don’t know? He’s a great provider I’ve never gone without he’s never hit me and wouldn’t but definitely emotionally abusive, financially abusive,, selfish life revolves around his interests not mine, his interests come before me which I have told him, he says not to be so silly etc but I truly believe they do. I can’t argue with him he to over powering so I close down but when he has no answer he says to be quiet etc etc. I thought marriage was about being good mates and wanting to do things together, but when I say he doesn’t want to do things with me he tells me I should go and do his hobbies with him! He would love me to be with him at these times. Out of the blue one day and I just don’t know where it come from and still don’t, he got stuck into me about helping out elderly people and visiting them as I do, he said I was weird and he wasn’t the only one that thought this! It broke me as I said he came from nowhere, so I walked out in a mess. Since then he hasn’t been that nasty ever again. I’m sure he loves me but does he? He can be so caring and supportive but is it fake? Are they really that good at faking? He often says so n so said this or so n so agreed with me when I know it’s a lie! He’s good to my kids and really helps them out with so much, but he always ,Ames them feel they owe him for it and not doing it coz that’s what normal dads do! Here or there he is entitled to some respect for some of the things he does I can’t take that away from him. The kids say they couldn’t live with him and don’t know how I do it and they don’t t know the worst of it. I know what a narc is and when someone is dealing with one but have I overlooked my own? I just don’t know I just don’t know, I’ve learned to go with my gut and my gut says I’m not happy I love him but not in love with him, ide rather be and may as well be single but I just couldn’t destroy a whole family and leave it’s not an option. It’s not like I’m being treated badly if you know what I mean. I could go on with some hurtful thoughts and memories but there’s not enough hours in the day. It if someone could shed some light on this would be so helpful. I suffer from depression that gets used against me as I have a MENTAL ILLNESS!! Thanks

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/exactly-how-narcissists-screw-with-your-mind-toxify-your-body-and-destroy-your-life/#comment-1230464 Wed, 29 Jan 2020 23:30:13 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7778#comment-1230464 In reply to Trish.

Hi Trish,

Please note that this is a hugely controversial topic. My personal belief is that a narcissist doesn’t change as a result of us changing.

I can totally understand why you would want to hold a family together, and truly to do so means accepting the limitations that narcissism brings. And in all of my experience with my own life and that with so many others, I have seen so many more blessings and gifts occur for those who do leave, as well as their children.

I really don’t know what else to express to you about this.

Much love to you and yours

Mel 🙏💕💛

]]> By: Trish https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/exactly-how-narcissists-screw-with-your-mind-toxify-your-body-and-destroy-your-life/#comment-1230457 Wed, 29 Jan 2020 20:01:00 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7778#comment-1230457 Can a person heal while maintaining a living relationship with a narcissistic partner? I have certainly had an immense awakening, although I still love him and feel our family should stay together and work on healing as a unit. Is this even possible?

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