Comments on: Gaslighting – How A Narcissist Destroys You By Eroding Your Sanity

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 04 Nov 2022 06:44:51 +0000

In reply to Patricia.

Hi Patricia,

NARP is how to work on your subconscious programs. It is how we Thriver reprogrammed deeply on this inside http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Much Love to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Patricia

Patricia — Thu, 03 Nov 2022 14:18:18 +0000

What remains still confusing for me is how to work on my subconscious programming so I can be free from any belief that sabotages me and rear its awful head when least expected. Would you have any suggestion as to how be able to bring those into the open and be once and for all clean and liberated from that which keeps me from showing up in all situations as my true person?

Thank you so much.

By: Paula

Paula — Tue, 31 Aug 2021 10:32:17 +0000

Omgosh,

You have just explained my relationship, I’m booked in to do Thriver and I can’t wait to let this all go. My husband left on the 10th July and gave me silent treatment for weeks. It cases me so much pain, I was suicidal. Luckily I have great friends that got me help in the immediate time. But I sit here thinking, feeling sad, and struggling to let go still. I was gaslighted for 25yrs of my marriage and felt miserable most of the time. Yet I’m struggling to let go still. I don’t really want him back, yet inside I’m stuck.

By: Jasmine

Jasmine — Sun, 19 May 2019 02:17:33 +0000

In reply to Margaret Terry. Very cool that we connected Margaret! So glad you still have this number and it’s NOT public hopefully! I know I don’t want my personal. Cell phone published or email but it says emails not public above. I saw it 2 years later! Perfect divine timing u think? Proud to hear of ur success!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 00:03:48 +0000

In reply to Tanya.

Hi Tanya,

My belief is we all have individual personalities DNA and epigentic makeups (nature), regardless of the upbringing (nurture). And we all have different soul lessons to go through.

Yes family and friends should be supportive, but life isnt and people aren’t always that supportive. It is what it is.

Again it gets back to what our soul lessons are to heal. One of the best ways home to partner deeply with ourselves, is born from the necessity to have to.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: Tanya

Tanya — Tue, 18 Dec 2018 23:27:40 +0000

Hi Melanie,
Very informative video. My brother is married to a narcissist, but either he is denial (as I have told him that she is) or he is oblivious to it. What I don’t understand is that we were both raised by the same parents with the same morals and values, so why was he susceptible to her gaslighting and manipulation, but I have no problem sticking to my guns. I am sure this is why she has removed all contact with me from their family, as I did not agree with her on an issue ONCE.

Just an observation from reading the many comments… I can’t understand how so many victims lose their families and friends when they walk away from the abusive relationship. Shouldn’t families (especially) and friends be supportive? If the N has had any sort of influence on these individuals, I would have thought that families should know their own children (for example) best than to believe what the N says. In fact, I would have thought that the families and friends would be the ones to recognize the narcissistic behavior first, as I did in my brother’s situation. i.e. alienating of family and friends, manipulation, control, etc.

By: Candace

Candace — Thu, 15 Nov 2018 08:14:23 +0000

Hello melanie,
I hava just learned in the past 6 months or so that i am married to a narc. His brother actually enlightened me on this. Since then, everything has become so much more clearer and i now know why my husband acts the way he does.
I have done a lot of research on NPD and it has helped tremendously. I am at the point i am slowly pulling myself away from him, emotionally and physically. Mainly bc i know hes not being faithful, in our 9 yrs together he never has.
But i also feel stuck because I have 2 kids, neither are his blood children, and i literally have nowhere else to go. No local family, my mom doesnt have room for us and my friends have all walked away from me.
I stumbled upon u tonight and plan on reading a bunch more about Narcissism, it seems like the info is never ending.
I would love to hear from you and hopefully u could help me with any questions i may have.
Thank you for shaing all ur info with us and im so glad it seems to have helped many.
Lovlop0815@gmail.com
I hope to hear from you soon.

By: Linda

Linda — Sun, 28 Oct 2018 19:15:17 +0000

Hi Melonie, Just watched the video on Narcissistic Gaslighting. One of the best I’ve come across to explain what happens. My ex husband did this to me for 30 years, and increased the intensity when I left him. He was so good at it, that not one single friend or family member has talked to me in almost 5 years. At first I grieved immensely for the loss of my friends and family, but I can now say that I know I am better off without them. As you stated, the wounds from my childhood parenting lead me to an abusive marriage. I see that now. I had no idea what a boundary was, or that I was allowed to have one. I’m 53 years old. It’s been a long difficult journey, but I am happy to say, that with a lot of hard work and determination, I am now living a great life. One where I am happy with who I am, and what is happening in my life. And for the first time in my life, I am in a healthy relationship. He’s someone who loves me for who I really am, and isn’t trying to make me into someone else. I still struggle with PTSD on occasion, but the episodes are few and far between. I’d say that’s pretty good for someone who was abused for all her life. I will be sharing your video with my boyfriend. He is supportive, but having a loving childhood himself, finds it hard to fully comprehend what I went through. I think your video will help.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 04:09:41 +0000

In reply to Heather.

Hi Heather,

I hear you and what you are up against.

Oftentimes with narcissists and leaving them our soul evolution is so much about ‘losing it all’ to ‘get it all’ … meaning become our true Authentic Self regardless of what others we used to be dependent on do or don’t believe or do.

I hope you can take comfort in knowing, that over the years, I have seen – without exception – that when people in your position honour their truth, their new life unfolds in far superior ways to the old.

You’ve got this!

Mel 🙏💕❤️