Comments on: Healthy Love Vs Narcissistic Love

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 21 Feb 2021 06:38:57 +0000

Hi Stars Peace,

Are you working with NARP http://www.melanietonievans.com/narp and reaching out in the NARP Member’s Forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member ?

That is the absolute best way myself and my team can help you.

Sending love, strength and healing

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: stars peace

stars peace — Sat, 20 Feb 2021 16:05:40 +0000

Hi Melanie,

How can I have a better life now when I want to get out of having people in my life who want to control me and tell me to go to get help medically and I have even though I know that it’s wrong for me and that it’s not helping me and that your way of healing is a lot better. I’m living with a Narc who wants me to be sectioned and I need to get better because I want to leave the relationship so urgently yet I have massively lost myself and I have so much inner healing to do and my health is really not good. Please help me get out of this so that I can start to stop abusing myself and attract more abusive people into my life who are making such bad decisions on my behalf and I just want to get out and back to my true authentic self.

By: michman

michman — Mon, 01 Feb 2021 11:44:48 +0000

Thank you, Melanie. For me, this episode makes surface the feeling that I relate to myself precisely the way I know myself. That is, in at every moment, or relatively so, if I will admit to the moments (or decades) of navigating with modes of disempowered self-dissociation — that I have also acted on. For example, having settled for knowing myself as a self-identified individuation of post traumatic pain, let’s say; unconsciously relating to myself as this and that pain, and therefore self-partnering with myself as that.
And, having to fulfill the need for pain within that contracted identity, so as to partner with it by supplying it with the pain it can relate to. And, thereby take action (or withdraw, or both) within existence. I have seen myself readily providing myself with some habitual (or addictual) pain, so as to activate myself (as the familiar pain-derived pleasure-seeker) into relational action in the reality available. It’s as if self-partnering always is, and only the self-knowing of myself changes. Self-relating never ceases. How I know myself is how I partner with myself as agency within existence. It’s good to feel, that healing and removing the traumas has been the release of pain that I had identified as myself — the relate to serve and to relate from. I gave it that much room. I take some pleasure in recognizing that I have come to know myself differently, even while still in progress. And there definitely is a rehabilitation aspect, out of the the addictive personality involved in that self-partnering. Perhaps that “personality” is my inner narcissistic self-abuser. And it’s being fruitful this moment to pay attention to how I am knowing myself in this moment — what/who I am knowing myself as. Therefore, what or who am I self-partnering with in this moment. Or, what can I immediately feel are the quotients and balances of self-validation, self-honesty, self-responsibility, of self-consideration, and unconditional love? Or, what of their opposites could I carefully reach into to at long last touch more clearly, more precisely?

By: B

Tue, 16 Jun 2020 16:36:44 +0000

In reply to Andrea.

You still have Unhealed stuff to work on because you keep attracting narcs/toxics. Forget dating for now, go within, you will find the residual trauma still there…dont be in a hurry to date. Be so ok with loving your own company first. The fact that you ask what’s wrong has a simple answer….take that issue straight to a module. Maybe Stop dating for now. Get ok with being alone.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 15 Jun 2020 02:46:57 +0000

In reply to Laura B.

Hi Laura,

My work with narcissistic abuse recovery does cover all narcissistic relationships.

Please google any specific topic that you want information about and you will find those resources.

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 15 Jun 2020 02:45:18 +0000

In reply to Neta.

Hi Neta,

I’m so pleased that this was helpful.

You are very welcome and many blessings to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Neta

Neta — Sun, 14 Jun 2020 02:27:24 +0000

This was very helpful. I’ve never experienced healthy love. I always thought that expecting unconditional love is unrealistic and that I was selfish and immature to expect it but this episode validated for me that such a relationship is possible and normal…….if I develop that unconditional love for myself which I’m diligently working on with NARP.

Thank you for showing me how to save myself!

By: Laura B

Laura B — Sat, 13 Jun 2020 15:53:13 +0000

I wish your commentary would not focus solely on romantic partnerships. There’s plenty of us out here that are suffering at the hands of adult narcissistic children due to being offspring of a narcissistic partner. You love your children and want a good relationship with them, but they abuse you emotionally by dismissing your feelings and displaying an uncaring attitude, but will end the conversation with “love you” with the same amount of feeling as “see you, bye.” These are especially hard relationships. You can’t just go no-contact with your children. There are other toxic relationships and these need to be addressed.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 09 Jun 2020 00:40:43 +0000

In reply to Kelly.

Hi Kelly,

thank you for your loving support to Jane.

I love Kelly that you are doing so well as a result of your inner work.

Continued blessings to you Dear Lady,

You are always welcome Kelly,

Mel 🙏💕💚