How come all your pictures are showing only male narcs? Theres a lot of female narcs as well. Some equality would be appreciated

Thankyou
I think just writing I know although it is a slow road it will work out in the end. My worry here is another issue, where I don’t have an infinite time. Again he has the upper hand as he knows, and the truth is if I suffered from COVID I would not survive.
Even if I am lucky not to suffer COVID, with my medical conditions I would be lucky if I live another 10-15years.
Positive but scared at times.
Michelle

I do have a question, if you could maybe give some guidance:

What if nothing happened actuallyin my situation?

What I mean is that nothing really did happen! I’ve never gotten to the stage where anything bad actually happened to me with any of the narcs I could’ve met because I guess they just displayed some very mild signs?… there were indeed some signs I could’ve gotten, but what if this was ONLY to teach me (in a very benevolent and good way!) and help me see the parts in me I picked up throughout life in society/family education entrenched in FALSE beliefs etc, about beauty and love, and interconnections and relationships with people etc.
Isn’t life about that?

What if ?

So this would mean that “being an empath” is not actually what we think it is… I mean yes, it means that I can easily identify with patterns in situations and people (see through them and GET IT), but this DOESN’T NECESSARILY MEAN that they mean any harm to me?

There’s 2 ways to go about it :

1. Either I go the negative way, I pick up/sense things about people, then I radically dissociate from them… until fully isolating myself from THE WORLD because everyone is displaying some narcissitic traits, even very mild ones like thinking that we have to be “THE best”, a very innocent thought that is instilled in ALL of us, instead of being “YOURSELF FULLY” (cf book “Wetiko: Breaking the curse from evil”).

Or 2. I go the uplifting empowering way, where I realise that oh yeah I might’ve picked this thing/vibe from that person, I’ll just TRY to “tend my own garden/stay on my lane” and not get too much preoccupied with them. I’ll just focus on myself and attracting the people who are on the same “level”/true vibe as me etc.

So yeah, maybe I did sense things and I do (this is the gift), but maybe they don’t mean what they mean…. Maybe being an empath is changing your own world. There’s no one outside of you that you change, just yourself and perception ? if you get what I mean.

If you could give me some pointers, thoughts on that, that would be greatly appreciated!

If I’m telling you this it’s because I’ve also noticed that I can easily make false assumptions…
I wrote about a professor that I thought was a potential narc (and this assumption was only based on the fact that he took some time to reply and that he writes in a very careless manner, with many typos in his emails, so to me that seemed odd for a professor! So then I ASSUMED that he was probably a narc). I proceeded to still follow through with the work shadowing experience – and it was the most blissful experience. It taught me a lot! The environment was not hostile AT ALL (on the contrary, it responded to my vibration I felt). He was very kind, caring (even offering lunch, he was ready to pay for me I believe!). I’m still very grateful for the kindness of the environment…

IT WAS NOT WHAT I THOUGHT AT ALL.

And many times I’ve told myself this actually, “It’s not what you think”.

The thing with me is that I never get to the “actual experience” of a thing.

So, what if… what IF… what IF… it was also about me shedding ALL OF THE FALSE BELIEFS, THINKING PATTERNS/FALSE ASSOCIATIONS and “giving things a real try” ?

The thing is that people give me so much love. So much love.

I’m starting to think that maybe – for me – this discovery experience of narcissim/the ego/wetiko virus in society was also about me learning first and foremost to look after MYSELF, and DETACH from wanting anything from the outside.

I don’t know what your thoughts are ? Maybe you can be of help ?

That’s a very interesting “turn of things”…

Thank you very much for your work!

This is all great reading on narcissists. I have been drained beyond belief from 2 older sisters and one of their husbands. All 3 were employing everything I’ve read on here so far. Employing tactics to feed their ego off of me. it continued until I became one with myself. No they can’t even go near me. I am the truth of myself and stand alone there. Once I became whole and loved myself within, they had no choice but to leave me alone. I walked and stood in the truth eventhough I had to do that part alone. I did do it and now they can’t bother me. I am one with myself now and they need to look elsewhere for their supply. I hope they don’t do anything to anyone else tho. Not like what they were doing to me. They have no more power over me. I took my power back. I now am the captain of my ship.

Hi V,

you are very welcome.

Are you are Gold NARP Member? If you are please come into the NARP Member’s Forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member we can help guide and support you to get the breakthroughs with your NARP work.

It will make a world of difference.

Sending you love and strength

Mel 🙏💕💚

Thankyou so much , I know what I need ti do but I am continually weak and dont maintain boundaries . Married for 41 yrs and have 4 sons , 9 grandchildren . He cheated and left 3 yrs ago , however 2 mths ago he moved back in just as a flatmate . He goes to prostitutes and is continally on his phone sexting etc etc ., he is being scammed with stolen pics and requests for money but he does nt care as long as he gets nude pics and told how much they love him . I feel physically sick about this but if I say anything he yells and shuts me down . I have let him stay because I hate living alone . Mel I would love your advice .