Comments on: How A Narcissist’s Mind Operates During A Crisis (Watch For The Hoover!)

By: Lea

Lea — Sun, 19 Jul 2020 18:02:38 +0000

Helo

I am a 30 year old girl married to a 52 year old Narcist.
It’s been a year and a half and through out our journey, we had so many fights and he always blamed me! I changed a lot and tried to adapt and live upon his way but now I left to my parent’s house trying to figure out what to do next!
He doesn’t trust me although i never gave him a reason not to.
Nothing is enough for him! All the effort I do, he always find something to nag about!
When we have a misunderstanding, He gives me the silent treatment for 1 month and never want to talk about what happened and never give a solution, even though i always try to communicate with Him .. until I give up at the end and call my dad to end things with my husband but he always find a way to blame me and try to make me look bad, and then things calm down, whenever i decide to leave, and i go back to him giving our marriage another chance without even having a closure to what happened !

Now I’m so tired from this attitude and after i heard the videos and read your blog, i understand better that he will never change and i need to get my life back!

But i would like to anticipate what he might do, would he just leave me alone or He won’t cooperate !

I am convinced now that he is a true narcist and I won’t be able to change him! I want to be reasonable but i really love my husband or at least the person he used to be when we first met !

Now we don’t communicate but we need to sort things out and i dont know how !

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 20 Jun 2020 00:01:03 +0000

In reply to Elena.

Hi Elena,

I agree so many of us have been through so much, and that’s why the inner healing is so important.

Elena, please find the link to my NARP program here http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

I hope this helps and I look forward to conjoining with you in our wonderful NARP community.

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Elena

Elena — Thu, 18 Jun 2020 05:04:40 +0000

In reply to Carolyn.

Great videos! I think & feel sometimes that Ive been scard for life & other times I feel Im stepping into my power! The problem is that iits hapoening on zsocial zM & I cant be certain of who it could be!!

Plus I get triggered at times by certains videos I watch. …..which I know I have the choice not to watch, but I’m always curious ( part of my nature) to see what they have to say!

Im feeling a range of emotions cuz it all started on here! I was sent narcissists videos, then someone cut right into my the video I was already watching & told me I have a twin flame! Very confusing & thats why its been hard to figure out if this person is one or the other! Apparently. They kind of work in the same way. Repel. Then love. Repel. Love. Thats confusing!

wasn’t sure what to believe cuuz Ive never heard of twin flame soul contract before, that alone was taking a lot of my energy
d. So I simply left a mess. Cuz that person sent me a copy of a comment I msde on their channel & took that opportunity to just

wish him well & felt I had to do this for my own piece of mind! There’s also another channel owner that played a trick on me to get my attention but he did say he wanted me to focus on his channel & get working on starting a business of some sort & he did it again another time but that time. He didnt

t leave me a comment in my inbox! Theres more than one! Probably replies I get from people that aren’t very nice. Comments or weird areLikely coming from their flying monkeys ( as they say on utub) its confusing but at the same time I have to say it opened my eyes
to what I know now & never realizexd before!
Im gona be apply for ur NARP PROGRAM

tomorrow! Its unbelievable how we can survive this kind of chilhood & others & this. And actually
stay SANE, at the same time though u mistrust people. & at other times u know somebody is

trying to tell u something-!! I know to trust my intuition , but were not always right when we feel triggered ( it takes over) & it may not even be a narc# ! But I believe everything happens for a reason & its pretty well brought me here realizing I have more healing to do & trying not to think
about it & going Gray as u said isnt working either rOh. Boy what a life we women have to endureat the hands of certain men, & women, family, boss hey???

I dont want to start thinking that everyone are narcs either! In this world were in. There are. Unfortunstely a lot of people in law. Politics ordinary people also, but it tends to be the ones who are in higher ranks & power get to their heads which is like DOUBLE THE TROUBLE. SOME CAN
REALLY FOOL U. u think u have good igut instincts. Only to find out later. They were not the people u thought they were or apoeared to be! Im not

saying a lot but mostly in politics since this
epidemic started ive had more time to view & see whats going on! Its confusing. Politics is not my thing. But the law aspect of it is. Ive studied a bi
BITt of llaw as an interest course! Boy. Oh. Boy
IM JUMPING IN ..WHERE. DO I APPLY FOR NARP
CAN U SEND ME A LINK TOMORROW AFTERNOON?

By: Heb

Heb — Tue, 12 May 2020 19:25:53 +0000

My mom had a stroke (she’s in her 70s) a few months ago and decided to leave my dad (50+ years married) when she was released from rehab a month later. My dad, NPD and Borderline Personality Disorder, tried to kill himself and was revived. He was inpatient for less than 2 weeks. He oscillates between suicidal when he loses hope she’ll come home and “doing well” under the hopes that she’ll come home. She refuses to speak to him. I’m in the middle since she is living with me now. My sisters have cut communication with him. I can’t because my mom’s here. This pandemic is making it all so much worse because he’s alone. For decades, he has been wholly dependent on my mom. Now, he can’t be – and he is tearing me apart with his roller coaster. I’m just trying not to push him over the edge but it’s just exhausting. “No one can understand how this feels” for him. He is completely blind to what he’s been doing to everyone – mostly me. I’m glad my therapist pointed me here and hope I can find some tools to help me in dealing with him. He is an emotional terrorist and can’t even see it.

By: Julie

Julie — Tue, 05 May 2020 16:13:28 +0000

In reply to Anthony. I live with my narcissist/ husband. He is absolutely going crazy with these restrictions and will not comply to the rules. He spends his days posting angry videos on Facebook about freedom, and even held a town meeting last night about our rights. He came home so full of narcissistic supply because he was telling everyone that they should ignore the rules and that the police would have him to deal with him if there is a problem. He loves to be the hero, it’s the easiest way to get his supply. His behavior is describing everything you just layed out. I know he feels controlled and he cannot handle that. Everyone in our home, 3 teenagers and I, are subjected to the news onTV 24/7, and there are no boundaries as to if we want to hear what’s on his mind, he will just tell you at any given moment. On one particular day I had had it, and asked if we could turn off the news. I also voiced how I felt about having to listen to him be angry all day. He mocked me in a childish voice saying oh, poor you for being stressed out. This has been awful but I thank you for this article, it helps me understand him even more.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 04 May 2020 08:18:48 +0000

In reply to Sabrina.

Hi Sabrina,

please know that this can happen! And, when starting to trust again and reconnect, then the bad behaviour can re-energise, even worse than ever.

Please Google my name plus accountability and boundaries plus what would it take for a narcissist to heal.

These resources may help you get clear about what you’re dealing with right now.

Sending you love and strength

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Mon, 04 May 2020 04:07:53 +0000

Hi Mel,
The narc is actually respecting my boundaries and acting remorseful…and I’m confused!! I was done in January and now
Hes trying to pay Bill’s we had together and admitting to wrongs and admitting he was abusive. My responce is that’s great you realized a,b,c but if your not getting treatment you cant be in my life. We share a kid so I keep all convo about her.

What is going on mel? Why is he being so nice? He even told me things he missed about us….like how we’d laugh together.

By: No name

No name — Fri, 01 May 2020 18:55:54 +0000

I am in my fifties. Married by age 23 separated by 42. Ongoing divorce and property settlement. No end in sight after 13 years in court Delays and new Actions are order of the day in order to not gainfully proceed Or offers of not realizable settlement papers. Sisters assist him in smearing me. I cared my ailing and financially ailing parents without their moral or financial support. Maybe one of the reasons they support him. Country I live in is small and gossipy. They seem to support him as he has retained control of property and career ( I sacrificed mine easily for him and then the children) is his hovering through court and never settling ? I listen and can feel connected to what you are saying I also resonate with others on the blog. When I did modules it throws up not necessary right then. So much that I ignored or distracted myself from. He was always cold hurtful abd could be charming to others in public He says all women love him. I thought he was mad but realized how much he was correct by my lack of support or compassion felt since
however I feel it is so long to get out of this emotional demise

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 01 May 2020 04:26:42 +0000

In reply to Gina.

Hi Jenna,

please know that absolutely narcissists can make contact even after years of absence.

It’s what narcissists do when they are low on narcissistic supply, start circling back through ex partners to see who they can get energy from.

That is rampant in this community at the moment as a result of COVID-19 lockdowns.

Keep healing and keep thriving sweetheart. This is not your reality.

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚