Comments on: How Do Narcissists Treat Their New Supply? https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Mon, 21 Jun 2021 11:58:28 +0000 hourly 1 By: Emily https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply/#comment-1253711 Mon, 21 Jun 2021 11:58:28 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7829#comment-1253711 My ex left me and is now in a new relationship with a prostitute..finding this out after I felt like I had healed was soul destroying. I had asked my ex for daily communication telling him it was what I needed, he told me he couldn’t give that to me and ended it.
I question if any of it was real. He told me he was settling for me, that he was better looking for me, asked me why I didn’t do my makeup, why I didn’t do my hair, demanded that i prepared food for him if he was over at my house, that I have snacks available for him, would see me on a schedule from Wednesday to Saturday night (he would go home at 10.30 on a Saturday night) anniversaries and valentines had to be moved if they fell outside of these days.
I had so much anxiety around what was going on, he told me I needed help, I should be on medication, I started seeing a psychologist regularly to work on my problems. If I brought up anything I was unhappy with- he told me that I was not allowed to project my feelings on him and I was overreacting. He would then argue with me for hours until I apologised.
It was exhausting and broke my soul and 4 months out I am still recovering… now he is in a relationship with a prostitute. He has never apologised- simply has said we weren’t a good match….

]]> By: Renu https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply/#comment-1241213 Sat, 29 Aug 2020 12:25:41 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7829#comment-1241213 What if the new supply is also narcissistic?

]]> By: Renu https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply/#comment-1241212 Sat, 29 Aug 2020 12:24:35 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7829#comment-1241212 What is the new supply is also narcissistic?

]]> By: Lilly Flowers https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply/#comment-1239538 Mon, 13 Jul 2020 12:04:35 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7829#comment-1239538 Hi Melanie,

I started reading your blog about 2 months ago. Long story short. I joined my husband to Cali from Switzerland 1,5 year ago with our young 3 kids. Our oldest got so home sick and me as well.. he just got angry and started ignoring me and blamed me of having an affair with somebody back home and I had already planned all of this ( none of which is true) . I made the decision to go back to Switzerland, even if we were only there for 6 months. He staid there due to work. I went to psychologist as over our 10 years together I started doubting myself so much.. so told me about narcissism. 2 months after leaving I found a pic of his co-worker in our backyard ( he was her boss) I confronted him and he denied but filed for divorce next day. 6 months later he withdrew divorce and in April he came to Switzerland as he wants me back. Since he’s living in airbnb and huis moods since I left are everywhere. One day he loves me and next day he calls me I’m a horrible wife and he deserves better. He even called me psychopath..
last month he started seeing psychologist and says he now understands that family means all to him.. but I’m so much doubting if it’s true. As he’s stating that if we divorce he’ll never come back to Switzerland .. reason bc it’s too painful to be around me… that he will explain later to his kids why they didn’t see him.
I’m now in between moving on with divorce or giving him a chance .. I have 3 small kids, no family around ( I do have a mother abroad, who has narcissistic traits as well) and a demanding full time job ( which I know the swiss court will tell me I should be able to keep this income).. I’m scared to be all on my own .. and stay alone. And I know I have wounds that still require healing.. so therefore I also believe I contributed to the current situation. It’s so difficult to choose “what’s right”..

]]> By: Valerie https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply/#comment-1239371 Wed, 08 Jul 2020 05:37:11 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7829#comment-1239371 For me it’s not about caring about the new supply, it’s about him insisting on introducing her to our 2 year old after just now admitting they’re together. (After 2 years of lying about the infidelity.) knowing my young child will be around this woman that entered my home and life when we were married, will now have influence over my daughter. It’s a hard pill to swallow. Especially knowing they won’t last.

]]> By: EileenAnnis https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply/#comment-1238318 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 11:53:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7829#comment-1238318 It killed me to the core of my being finding out my ex narcissist husband was on Tinder 12 days after I left on the 1st August 2019 and then his new supply put pictures up on social media saying about their first date on 25th August 2019, (our first yr wedding anniversary would of been on 31st August 2019) this was on February 14th 2020 the day after I had signed my Absolute Decree online and obviously then they went public… I had stuck to no contact except email for the Divorce and I left the country because I couldn’t mentally cope with how no one understood how much pain I was in and how broken I was by being mentally & physically abused by this monster…
It was the first time I unblocked, and looked and I really wish I hadn’t as it just unleashed another wave of intense pain to see him love bombing his new supply like he had never treat me.. it was like over the top, just soo not him… Now I’m Done ✅
I’m healing slowly and I’m scared to death as I’m finally living my dream by living near the beach and trying to earn a living being an Artist 👩‍🎨 I just want to succeed at being just Me…
Big Thanks 🙏 for all you do Melanie.. you have helped me soo much xxx

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply/#comment-1238296 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 00:24:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7829#comment-1238296 In reply to Val.

Hi Val,

absolutely co-parenting with a narcissist and working through the trauma and being released from it is a challenge, but I promise you it is totally possible and there are many mums in our community who are healing, supported by our wonderful NARP private forum and doing a fabulous job.

I know that the thought of another woman being around your child is awful, and I want you to know that it is possible to heal from these feelings, as shocking as they are, so that you can be the most solid, whole and loving mum, even when co-parenting that you possibly can be for yourself, and your child.

Val, I would love you to check out my Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp and my resources on parallel parenting, by googling this term plus my name.

It is the NARP combination with Parallel Parenting that has generated the most successful results for parents in our community.

If you wish to learn more about NARP, please come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar Where I explained to you how to heal for real from this, as well as take you through actual healing to release and reprogram the trauma that you are feeling inside.

I hope that these resources and links can help.

Sending love, breakthrough and healing to you and your child

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply/#comment-1238294 Tue, 09 Jun 2020 00:16:12 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7829#comment-1238294 In reply to Kellie Lockhart.

Hi Kellie,

You poor thing, this is terrible.

Kelly, I want to know from the bottom of my heart that when you heal and get empowered on the inside, then the outside must and does shift.

Please come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/free webinar to find out more about this and how you can get relief and your power back.

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Kellie Lockhart https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply/#comment-1238273 Mon, 08 Jun 2020 07:00:41 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7829#comment-1238273 Hi

My Narc Ex found out that I was seeing someone new and within 4 days had hooked up with my new partners ex and then proceed to falsely and without evidence accused of child abuse of my new partners child he has with my ex’s new partners… I am pretty sure they are both narcs.. this happened about a year ago and a half ago and since then it has just got worse and worse them continuously attacking me and making false allegations and harassing me at work and harassing my boss… is this every going to stop???

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