Comments on: How I Exposed The Narcissist’s Smear Campaigns https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-i-exposed-the-narcissists-smear-campaigns/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Fri, 28 Jul 2023 08:40:46 +0000 hourly 1 By: Christine https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-i-exposed-the-narcissists-smear-campaigns/#comment-1282509 Fri, 28 Jul 2023 08:40:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6422#comment-1282509 In reply to Karenina Paris.

Pray for strength….. It’s amazing what God can do for you if you seek him daily. Bring every question, every fear, worry and anxiety you’re feeling to Him and you will start to see changes in your life. He helped me tremendously along with researching everything there is to know about narcissism and other various self improvement outlets. It’s how I ended up here reading Melanie Tonia Evans story.

]]> By: Karenina Paris https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-i-exposed-the-narcissists-smear-campaigns/#comment-1242314 Sun, 13 Sep 2020 06:45:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6422#comment-1242314 Hes ruined me. I have no support, no income, no opportunities. I’m injured from being in his employ and am now unable to perform duties required of any job I apply for. I am a renter with 3 rescued dogs. I am going to be unable to stay afloat with rent, utilities, dogfood and pet expenses. I planted a garden thinking I could can and freeze what I grew to save some money on groceries over the winter being as I’m a vegetarian. Someone sprayed weed killer on my garden. Someone slashed the tires of my only vehicle punctured thru the sidewalls so the tires had to be replaced. Nothing i do to try and peacefully offset the damage he caused has amounted to anything. I have no family. I only have myself to fall back on if hard times come. All I wanted out of life was a home where I could have pets and a garden. I don’t want to face what seems inevitable. I will get behind in rent and be evicted. My animals will go to the shelter. I’ll lose everything I own because I can’t move it alone and even if I could I’d have nowhere to store it. I’ll have no where to sleep, no job,nowhere for my love to go, no way out of my loneliness, no future.
How can anyone be so cruel?

]]> By: Beth Flynn https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-i-exposed-the-narcissists-smear-campaigns/#comment-1178907 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 21:43:22 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6422#comment-1178907 Melanie, I realize as I read your article and all the comments and experiences from my fellow Narc victims that even though my husband is my Narc #1, that my daughter is one also. Several years ago she suddenly turned on me, smeared me against my entire family (I am one of 5) which caused me and my son to be ostracized by the entire family! This happened right after both of my parents died-within 3 months of each other. Had they been alive, she would never have gotten away with this. I have no idea what she said but my sisters and their children believe her. It has amazed me that they could since they know me! But as I read your article, it now seems plausible that someone can so convincingly smear someone and others believe them! It is crazy. I have been very hurt and feel so unlovable at times, but I have decided to let it be. There is no use in trying to defend myself as it would only make my daughter rise up and smear all the more. My son is devastated that the family has rejected him. He has a child now and wants his little boy to know his cousins.
Perhaps by letting go, the Narc will eventually be exposed. Time will tell.
I continue to listen to your words of wisdom and work on my inner self. As you said, I should bless my Narc for bringing me to myself as I have no one else in my family to go to for support.
Blessings, Beth

]]> By: anonymous https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-i-exposed-the-narcissists-smear-campaigns/#comment-1130388 Fri, 18 Jan 2019 04:14:05 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6422#comment-1130388 One thing I find interesting in my case is that he convinced people I was trying to send him to prison (lie – all manipulated) and basically destroy his life. But who’s life is actually being destroyed? Mine.

]]> By: anonymous https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-i-exposed-the-narcissists-smear-campaigns/#comment-1130375 Fri, 18 Jan 2019 03:39:01 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6422#comment-1130375 One of the hardest things for me is how my children’s lives have been affected. He took my support system away. He admits it. He systematically beat me down and traumatized me over a long period of time, then would stay at our vacation home (acting like the poor victim who was left out of the family) and he would taunt and tease and create chaos with me from afar. So that when I would eventually explode, it would be at poor children. They were the only ones there. He did that so that I would look like the abuser. He actually wanted me to take it out on them. Then I look like the crazy person he has always told everyone. He manipulated so many things to make himself like the victim. I didn’t realize he was collecting these things throughout our long term marriage – to use against me if I left. He would let me know, one by one, each thing that he had manipulated and let me know it is what he used to turn people against me. That is how he got others to actually join in with abusing me psychologically. How do they not understand the damage they have done to their own children when they destroy their mother’s life? Do they not understand how painful it is for them by ruining their mother’s reputation? It is so true that everything he was actually doing, he made it look like I was doing. And I did come unglued when other people started participating. That was the hardest part to understand.

I try to keep my faith that God knows the truth and sooner or later people will figure it out. I appreciate the encouragement to stay calm and collected. I know that is the key.

]]> By: sharon kearney https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-i-exposed-the-narcissists-smear-campaigns/#comment-1129529 Tue, 15 Jan 2019 21:32:07 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6422#comment-1129529 hi mel. thank you for your inspiring newsletters im so glad im not on my own ive had alot of smearing from an ex who i divorced nearly 30 years ago!he his evil also other family members my life as been a living nightmare thank god i have a few good caring friends and i beleive my faith as kept me going as well pardon the pun but it as been a god send! i get comfort and peace when i prayer to god and mother mary happy new year to you – you sound a really lovely and caring lady may god always bless you sharon xxxx

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-i-exposed-the-narcissists-smear-campaigns/#comment-1123644 Mon, 31 Dec 2018 00:28:56 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6422#comment-1123644 In reply to Thriving.

Oh gosh Thriving it is nuts!

Happy New Year and please know how welcome you are!

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-i-exposed-the-narcissists-smear-campaigns/#comment-1123642 Mon, 31 Dec 2018 00:27:07 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6422#comment-1123642 In reply to Anastasia.

Hi Anastasia,

No not at all.

For all the technical and program questions please email support@melanietoniaevans.com and one of my lovely staff will help you.

Thank you for you compliment and I am so pleased my work resonates with you.

I look forward to sharing much healing and Thriving with you in 2019. Happy New Year to you and yours too.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: Thriving https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-i-exposed-the-narcissists-smear-campaigns/#comment-1123605 Sun, 30 Dec 2018 22:09:13 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6422#comment-1123605 This is what a typical ‘smear-campaign, triangulation conversation’ went with my ex N:

Ex N: I told someone about you and that person said you’re posionous!
Me: Who is this person?
Ex N: It doesn’t matter, but this person said you’re soooo poisonous!
Me: Well f### that person!!!!!
Ex N: Oh my word! are you swearing my deceased father out? My father is the one who said that, and he is deceased. You have no respect for the deceased. You will destroy every good person you meet because you are emotionally bankrupt!
Me: What???

😑the absolute horror that I went through! Thank you, Mel, for all you do! 💜

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