Comments on: How Narcissistic Abuse Led Me To Claim My True Self https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-abuse-led-me-to-claim-my-true-self/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 08 Oct 2024 21:33:13 +0000 hourly 1 By: Ms. Breakthrough https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-abuse-led-me-to-claim-my-true-self/#comment-1265498 Mon, 21 Feb 2022 16:04:13 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6268#comment-1265498 Thank you for NARP. It’s remarkable what’s happening. As I pull away from the Narcissists who have ruled my responses my entire life, and as I spot Narcissists in daily encounters and decide not to interact with them, my life is shifting. I’d been joining community events the past 3 years on Zoom and wondering if Covid had effectively stopped my life. Doing the NARP modules helped me return to light and energy. I stopped played victim because I realized how well I had survived and was grateful for the independent choices I made to fix my budget, live alone, and pursue creativety. Melanie, your articles are so well written, I got to know the patterns of Narcissist’s manipulations and how they expected me to respond. I quit being their puppet. Now that quarantine is basically lifted, I am surprised by 3 different invitations to have lunch with new friends. They simply want to share with me. I am becoming approachable and fun. Saying no to dysfunction and draining “you should” activities, are freeing me to live lighter and relax. I’m in my 70’s and feeling the spirit of my child return. The curiosities and strengths I had as a little girl are returning and I’m treasuring that I’m tapping into my true nature having the opporutunity thru NARP to recall those God given gifts.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-abuse-led-me-to-claim-my-true-self/#comment-1248977 Thu, 25 Feb 2021 11:28:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6268#comment-1248977 In reply to Peace.

Hi Peace,

in my experience, virtually everyone who puts in the effort to NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp gets breakthrough results. It is widely successful!

Please know you have nothing to lose by trying and potentially everything to gain.

It’s great that you are ready to heal.

Much love to you

Mel šŸ™šŸ’•šŸ’š

]]> By: Peace https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-abuse-led-me-to-claim-my-true-self/#comment-1248926 Wed, 24 Feb 2021 17:48:57 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6268#comment-1248926 Hi there,
I was wondering if you would be able to answer my question

The Narcissist is trying to take away my power from me and the medical people are believing her over me. I’m not in a good place at the moment and so I’m wondering if this process is something that is guaranteed to work for everyone Melanie as I’m really ready to do it.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-abuse-led-me-to-claim-my-true-self/#comment-1105061 Mon, 29 Oct 2018 21:26:08 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6268#comment-1105061 In reply to Nadia.

Hi Nadia,

Thank you for your post and I am so pleased that my information and resources are helping you.

That is so true that we replay what is within that is unconscious and unhealed and out liberation lies in finding, releasing and uplevelling from this original traumas.

So it is great that you have connected the dots!

Have you checked out my inner transformational resources? They are key to midwife your subconscious programming breakthroughs.

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

I hope this helps.

Mel šŸ™šŸ’•ā¤ļø

]]> By: Nadia https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-abuse-led-me-to-claim-my-true-self/#comment-1105017 Mon, 29 Oct 2018 17:17:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6268#comment-1105017 Hi Melanie. I am forever grateful I found your Youtube channel and website. I was with a narc for 13 years (together for 8, married for 5). It has been over a year since we were separated and divorced, a year since I took the courage to get an OOP and protect myself and our 5 year old daughter. He had become more borderline physically abusive to us. It is hard since he is still in our lives, he sees our daughter on a limited, supervised basis and has facetime calls with her almost daily. Just hearing his voice would invoke all those feelings again, pain, torment, etc. just as how I felt when we were still together. I have been trying hard to heal, but feeling like I was just coping, surviving, doing what I have to do and just going through the days on auto pilot. I want to be ok, truly ok and happy. I started to try to go back to childhood, trying to see what wounds I have, trying to heal them so I can move on. My dad, even though he was there, I had no relationship with him. He barely was home, always worked. He was a provider, a father in that sense, but not a dad. He barely talked to me or my sister and if and when he did, it was to criticize us for what we were watching, wearing, doing, etc. He never hugged us, was never loving or affectionate, never accepting of us or encouraging. I felt like nothing I did was right or good enough for him, and I so wanted his approval. I didn’t really know how a dad was supposed to be, but when I saw how my cousins’ dad was with his daughters, who were our age, I realized how a dad could or should be, or at least what I wish I had. He called them his princesses, spoke kindly to them, talked to them, hugged them, etc. We just had a fear and dread being in our dad’s presence, like walking on egg shells. When we would hear the key in the door and he was coming home from work, we would hide in our bedroom and not come out until he fell asleep or went to bed. I realized that in my relationship with my ex, I felt that same way after the love bombing stage. I know I still have a lot of work to do, but I feel like realizing these things is a start. I hope to heal my inner wounds and child so I can thrive and I know your resources and videos will help me get there. Thank you!

]]> By: Vicki Rebecca https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-abuse-led-me-to-claim-my-true-self/#comment-1101787 Wed, 17 Oct 2018 09:31:32 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6268#comment-1101787 Nice one Meanie – with you on 1 and 2 – 3 not so much but even that led to cufion – thanks so much for shing the light an dhelping us wake up šŸ™‚

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-abuse-led-me-to-claim-my-true-self/#comment-1101458 Mon, 15 Oct 2018 22:49:31 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6268#comment-1101458 In reply to Gaga.

Hi Gaga,

Oh gosh Nā€™s can trigger us!

Have you tried Quanta Freedom Healing to target and dissolve the triggers / traumas?

I invite you to here: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

Mel šŸ™šŸ’•ā¤ļø

]]> By: Gaga https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-abuse-led-me-to-claim-my-true-self/#comment-1101441 Mon, 15 Oct 2018 20:44:37 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6268#comment-1101441 I was triggered yesterday by my narc ex during kid switch. Resentment and anger boiled over in me. When I have those moments, I feel like it will never end. Thank you for saying that you are still working through some of this. It helps to know I am not alone, and gives me the urge I need to push forward, dig deeper and work on the triggers. Some days I feel so powerful and others I backtrack into despair. Thank you for being here and doing this work, so we can all learn from you.

]]> By: Sadie https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-abuse-led-me-to-claim-my-true-self/#comment-1101232 Sun, 14 Oct 2018 15:36:08 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6268#comment-1101232 Hello Melanie
I have been a faithful viewer of your videos and your words have provided meaningful insights into my own enabling of a hellish narcissistic marriage experience. Pretty crushing to wake up to the realization that I have spent 30 years being married to a narcissist. This realization is still shocking to me and the feeling of lost investment is huge. At times, I am pretty upset with myself for not acting on the reality of my situation years ago but my hopes, beliefs and inner traumas kept me from seeing the truth. I even quit seeing my first counselor after session three because she called my husband a narcissist. I felt she was being judgemental and coming to conclusions too early in our relationship. After more than a year of counseling, I have arrived at the same conclusion.

The last statement in your video reminded me that being with a narcissist for 30 years is also a reflection of strengths. Strengths that likely attracted the narcissist to me. My marriage has been hellish and yet I kept putting effort into the relationship and kept believing in the possibility of a better life while accepting he would not contribute unless he benefitted and would likely undermine benefits for me. All this time, I have been giving him credit for my work and taking responsibility for his inadequacies. I am leaving the relationship and it symbolically feels like a step out of quicksand. I never thought about my strengths in the relationship and now how these strengths that kept me surviving will now belong to me. I have so many fears and financial is the biggest. Once I unplug my husband there will be plenty of power for me.

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