Comments on: How Narcissistic Abuse Taught Me To Be A Source To Myself

By: Teresa Duffy

Teresa Duffy — Sun, 04 Mar 2018 14:41:45 +0000

You have quite literally helped me save my life. 💯!

Please keep doing what you do, and thank you for not charging money here! I really get so so much out of this website and your videos. I work out my thoughts on paper, as well as well as writing down some of the things you say.

I will go in depth in another comment at a later time, i just wanted to say thanks so much from the bottom of my healing heart! -teresa 🕉

💗💡🔓😚😊☄✨🐸🍀⚠🌹🌞🌈

By: Janet

Janet — Thu, 22 Feb 2018 01:11:27 +0000

I related to point 4 about not feeling safe…abandonment people are looking for safety..so eerie that we match up with narcissists who created their false self as they weren’t safe and didn’t feel like they belonged here…I never felt that…but the more I have grown over the past 9 years since we parted after a 25 year marriage the happier I became although I suffered a great deal of anxiety needing lots of support thru therapy where I felt less alone…where there was the comforting hand of a therapist to hold…his getting remarried in brisbane of all places have retriggered insecurities and sent me into an email frenzy…I suppose the fear of his really not there but also being angry with myself for not seeing through him…feeling ‘played’….

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 23 Dec 2017 09:39:58 +0000

In reply to Daniel.

Hi Daniel,

if you go into the trauma about how you feel about it, you will shift from those traumatised feelings. All manifestation is about getting healthy and totally okay with “what is” and ALSO bringing wellbeing into that “area”, by releasing the trauma and filling with Source.

The irony is, if we do that, we are totally unconditionally at peace with “what is” and that is generally when it heals. If it doesn’t it actually doesn’t matter because we fully accept and are at peace and expanded regardless of “what is”.

Does that make sense?

All you need to do is release your traumas about it, and then what unfolds will be perfect.

I hope this helps.

Mel xo

By: Daniel

Daniel — Fri, 22 Dec 2017 16:21:15 +0000

Hello Melanie,
I recently became a member of this amazing community and as of many of us I became a victim of narcissistic abuse. After I finished that toxic relationship, I realized that I had deep wounds that prevent me from becoming the best person I know I can be. I identify the wound last week and I’m ready to heal and move on with my life but I need your advice. I had multiple surgeries done to my throat since I was 2 years old and as a result I have a raspy voice that continues to remind me everyday of the trauma I went through as a child and all the bulling from my classmates. I’m a 33 year old male who is just tired of this and I want to move on with my life even with all the neck scars I have and the raspy voice. As a result, I have been an easy prey for narcissistic abuse because I’m a codependent as well as a child of a narcissistic mother. Melanie, how can I heal a wound that is always there? How can I move on with my life knowing that people will always ask me about my voice and my neck scars? I would appreciate if you can guide me through my healing process because I’m ready.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 21 Dec 2017 22:21:09 +0000

In reply to Crystal.

Hi Crystal,

thank you and I am so pleased you enjoyed this.

Mel xo

By: Crystal

Crystal — Thu, 21 Dec 2017 09:37:49 +0000

You hit the nail on the head with this one. Great work, Mel!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 29 Nov 2017 01:19:22 +0000

In reply to Megan.

Hi Megan,

thank you!

That is a wonderful thought, thank you for your input and I will certainly put this to the MTE team.

Mel xo

By: Megan

Megan — Tue, 28 Nov 2017 08:21:20 +0000

You do great things for so many people. Thank you! Have you ever considered making an experience/program around the holiday season? I once did a 30 day healing and meditation program where I was sent one email a day and given activities to do each day around healing and reflection – journalling, sort of. This was an amazing experience that truly helped decrease stress around the holidays. I think it was called a 30 day challenge although I don’t remember. I paid 10.00 for it and it was worth every penny a thousand times over. It would be amazing to do things that will help us connect with our survival brains around that time. I try to do meditations on my own although if there is family drama, I find it hard to engage or have time to listen. It’s easier to write something down. Just a thought – I love what you do.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 27 Nov 2017 23:41:35 +0000

In reply to Rania.

Hi Rania,

what a beautiful quote I love it!!

Thank you for your share and please know you are so welcome 🙂

So much love to you too.

Mel xo