Comments on: How Narcissistic Relationships End – Preparing For The Aftermath https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-relationships-end-preparing-for-the-aftermath/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Fri, 21 Jan 2022 03:01:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: Healthy https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-relationships-end-preparing-for-the-aftermath/#comment-1263621 Fri, 21 Jan 2022 03:01:00 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8046#comment-1263621 Anyone or place making you sick or your life hell is worth avoiding. Even if they’re not technically a narcissist, if it’s harming you and creating problems or unnecessary suffering, don’t stay involved with that. Get away from it!

]]> By: Bee https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-relationships-end-preparing-for-the-aftermath/#comment-1244759 Sun, 15 Nov 2020 17:58:53 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8046#comment-1244759 In reply to Christina.

If he is in a different State, he probably has other supply already. Start doing Narp and get rid of him …fast. Why are you still putting up with this?

]]> By: B https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-relationships-end-preparing-for-the-aftermath/#comment-1244758 Sun, 15 Nov 2020 17:56:01 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8046#comment-1244758 In reply to Andrea.

You do the inner healing work on yourself first and then the outer will happen. If you are not healing yourself, no attorney will help. First the inner work then the outer world follows. Are you doing Narp? Because if not you will react in your trauma

]]> By: Janet https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-relationships-end-preparing-for-the-aftermath/#comment-1237591 Fri, 15 May 2020 21:40:39 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8046#comment-1237591 Melanie,
I thank God all the time that I am NOT in a relationship right now. I ended my last relationship a year and a half ago. This is a bit of my story. I am in my early 60’s and have been in relationships with Narc’s my entire life. I am grateful for this extra time I have right now. I had a loving person tell me a short time ago that I may want to read up on Narcissists and this brought me to listening to U-Tube video one after the other. Then I did your Webinar and I am on my 2nd day of the 16 day program. I had psychotherapy for 3-5 years. As you know we, survivor/thrivers can’t always remember some things due to trauma after trauma. Thank you so much for all you do for me/us that are meandering around trying to figure out how to go about this process and heal.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-relationships-end-preparing-for-the-aftermath/#comment-1237150 Wed, 06 May 2020 01:08:36 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8046#comment-1237150 In reply to Clint.

Hi Clint,

yes, it is unmakeable deal.

Time to heal you!

You’ve got this!

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Clint https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-relationships-end-preparing-for-the-aftermath/#comment-1237120 Tue, 05 May 2020 08:57:26 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8046#comment-1237120 Hi Melanie. Yes, discarded again after three weekends together.
Everything fine this morning. This afternoon phone call was it’s over ago.
When fixing her computer on Saturday afternoon she made sure I saw emails from dating sites she’s on. Then got angry at me for it.
I’ve expected it this time though, and some Valium has helped tonight.
I’m the reason she drinks too much
I’m the reason she melts down at me when drunk.
My living arrangements are why she’s unhappy, even though I had to leave when we were living together and getting verbally abused almost nightly.
(Bit when I mention that it all my fault, not hers)
I asked her, how can you hurt me like this again?
I was told, I don’t care about you.
But she did all weekend…….
Saving myself now.
Just not worth it.
I give up.

Thank you all.

]]> By: Deborah https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-relationships-end-preparing-for-the-aftermath/#comment-1236854 Thu, 30 Apr 2020 07:28:02 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8046#comment-1236854 I finally realised after 23 yrs of marriage what I was actually living with. I came started to look into it more and came across the word narcissist and researched it more BANG
light went on for me was him down to tee.
I had a feeling I was not the only one in our marriage and could never do right for wrong
Anyway after drama and lots of drama told him and his mother to go as I had moved his mum in with me and it was like double nightmare. His mum knew all about this old high school sweetheart he called her , they had lots of history together and unbeknown to me she got a job many years ago where he worked.
I got saw what was coming and oh I was discarded like I never existed and my children .
I knew solicitors were going to cost loads so I took money from joint account and payed for them through thinking ahead . He had hidden money everywhere over the years. Went to final court not so long ago and I was granted so much more then him as all his lies and his behaviour showed on his letters from his solicitors. I left court happy , he did not .
Even now he does his best to smear me but I do laugh as I worked out what he was. Coming across Melanies site online and reading more on this
I feel so much better
I am waiting for house to be sold and that to me is the last tie to this man.

]]> By: JaneC https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-relationships-end-preparing-for-the-aftermath/#comment-1236690 Mon, 27 Apr 2020 19:02:47 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8046#comment-1236690 In reply to Alessia Elerby Johnson.

Hi Alessia. I have been where you are. I know this pain all too well. They fight so dirty. I also lost everything, while trying to raise four young children. Mine was a trust fund baby so the funds and resources to help him “win” and punish me were infinite. Melanie is so right. As soon as we give up feeling helpless and dependent on the outcomes of going to battle with these people, things turn around and opportunities based on truth will present themselves to you. The most important thing is that you will be free from this person who found a thrill in trying to ruin you. After this is over, he will still be a terrible person and so very empty. You won’t be. Financial abuse is terrifying. But it only lasts until you decide you can and will take care of yourself. Life will suddenly turn in your favor. It happened to me. I am far better off financially than I ever was with my ex, in spades, but could only get to this point after I realized I couldn’t depend on HIS money. You can do this!!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-narcissistic-relationships-end-preparing-for-the-aftermath/#comment-1236417 Thu, 23 Apr 2020 23:48:13 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8046#comment-1236417 In reply to Letwin.

Hi Letwin,

You are very welcome, and I’m so pleased that NARP has helped you.

It’s so true, we deserve our own True Self.

Much Love

Mel 🙏💕💚

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