Comments on: How The Narcissist Makes You Look Like The Problem https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-the-narcissist-makes-you-look-like-the-problem/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sat, 20 Aug 2022 03:32:44 +0000 hourly 1 By: Marci https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-the-narcissist-makes-you-look-like-the-problem/#comment-1272527 Sat, 20 Aug 2022 03:32:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11143#comment-1272527 In reply to Michelle.

I am 100 percent in. I am feeling so alone in this. This is the most difficult situation I’ve ever been through and I’ve been through a lot in my life. It would be nice to communicate with people who know what this feels like and can help me stand my ground. I know this message was posted awhile ago but if you’re still willing to connect I would be very grateful.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-the-narcissist-makes-you-look-like-the-problem/#comment-1267647 Sat, 23 Apr 2022 11:14:10 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11143#comment-1267647 In reply to Berryman N.

Hi Berryman N,

this is a big conversation that needs a deep look at, as to why she is still hooked in and how you can break free from this.

My free 2 part masterclass explains it all, as well as how to get fully free http://www.recoverhealthrive.com

I can’t recommend it enough to you to help you get clarity, answers and true solutions

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Berryman N https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-the-narcissist-makes-you-look-like-the-problem/#comment-1267581 Fri, 22 Apr 2022 06:07:13 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11143#comment-1267581 How do I get away from one. I’ve suffered now for ten+ years and trying to get away , she always tracked me down and wouldn’t leave me alone. She won’t let me divorce, says she will fight it and cost me money I don’t have. Our house is in her name, and I think she will try to take everything.

]]> By: Jan https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-the-narcissist-makes-you-look-like-the-problem/#comment-1267402 Mon, 18 Apr 2022 06:04:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11143#comment-1267402 Post starting Emma, meant for Mel. Oops, sorry.

]]> By: Jan https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-the-narcissist-makes-you-look-like-the-problem/#comment-1267401 Mon, 18 Apr 2022 05:58:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11143#comment-1267401 In reply to Emma.

Emma, as I read your e, I was right there with you in a case of my own way back in the 80s when nothing much was known about this abuse. I used to go for long walks and make the space in my mind for other things that happened along the way, like a great sunset or children playing etc.etc. just to push out the other stuff and by the time I got home I was outside of it all and back in control. I got to see it as a big heavy box that I could just shove away in a cupboard till his next onslaught. I used to keep a diary and write it all down along with how I felt and how it was affecting me, then close the book and go away to do something else. Are you able to get a new job elsewhere? though I can see if you are in a vulnerable state, you may feel you couldn’t handle the ordeal of looking, applying and interviewing but that in itself would give you a fresh focus which would ‘water down’ the intensity of the hateful stuff he’s putting you through. You know your own truth, hang on to that and don’t ever again enter his boxing ring, don’t even watch, leave the’ building’ and know that this is a temporary thing in your life and if you stay strong, for you, like me, you will be able to look back and see it all for what it is/was and you will be free, sooner than you think, Stay strong.

]]> By: Jan https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-the-narcissist-makes-you-look-like-the-problem/#comment-1267400 Mon, 18 Apr 2022 05:35:31 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11143#comment-1267400 Emma, I wish this information had been around in the 70s when I was going through this trauma, back then, I hadn’t even heard the word and no one around me had either, making it so hard to figure out what was going on let alone have a pattern. I got free eventually after a ten year fight for survival. It took the death of my beloved Dad to give me what I needed to be strong enough but even then he threw what he could at me and derailed my life from afar (for a while). It was seeing what he did to my Dad while he was dying that gave me the strength. Added to that, he started treating his own children the same way so THANK YOU for being out there for others who find themselves in such a CRAZY place.

]]> By: Michelle https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-the-narcissist-makes-you-look-like-the-problem/#comment-1267363 Sat, 16 Apr 2022 22:58:39 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11143#comment-1267363 In reply to Man from California.

It seems like we may be in about the same place. Broken things off but still resisting hoovers/contact/bargaining. Are you, or anyone reading this, looking for a no-contact buddy? 🙂 Instead of spinning about something (and doing NARP) we can have someone logical to discuss some of the madness rather than beating our head against the wall trying to reason with the N. It would have to be 50/50 kind of thing. Someone that is interested and can give care to others at the same rate it’s received. Maybe even a group email kind of thing?

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-the-narcissist-makes-you-look-like-the-problem/#comment-1267350 Sat, 16 Apr 2022 04:47:25 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11143#comment-1267350 In reply to Tammy.

Hi Tammy,

standing up against narcissists is not practical or logical – this is a spiritual war.

To get on to the “battlefield” in a way that really works I would love to you to see my 2 part masterclass … because it explains what is really going on with them and how to take your life back

http://www.recoverhealthrive.com

I hope that this can help

Mel 🙏💞🦋

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-the-narcissist-makes-you-look-like-the-problem/#comment-1267349 Sat, 16 Apr 2022 04:44:56 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=11143#comment-1267349 In reply to Cheryl L Chambers.

Oh my gosh Cheryl,

what you have been through is terrible!

Sending you love and healing

Mel 🙏💞🦋

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