Your story is quite similar to mine, actually, all these stories are just like mine. I am speechless… I wish you love, happiness and success in it all. I know how it is as I am going through right now.

Hi J,

that is great that you have had those breakthroughs and are now finding out the relief and power we can get when we release the trauma cellularly.

Please email support@melanietoniaevans.com to get an upgrade to Gold and forum access at any time that you wish.

Big hugs and love to you too!

Mel xo

Hi Melanie

Just wanted to follow-up and say I have had some massive breakthroughs and clearings since I wrote about being hoovered. Also, I’ve maintained no contact, not via “willpower” but rather feeling deeply that the narcissist is not a match for my self-worth and belief systems. At this moment, I cannot bring myself to compromise my integrity or values to break no-contact.

I still have much work to do, particularly around the non-closure, since not responding to someone is such a departure from my usual self. And yet, I’m grateful for the progress. As a professional in the mental health industry in the US, I was so heartened to find your work after feeling failed by the standard clinical treatment of trauma~I needed a new way of knowing. So, THANK YOU!

Hugs and love!

p.s. You mentioned the online forum, but I have a silver subscription which I believe doesn’t give me access.

I’m amazed at the similarities in all of our situations and truths.

I have not seen my own grandchild (9 months). The new wife (my daughters age) has and continues to post on social media.
Is it healthy to have a conversation only friendship with her ex whom is as torn as I?

He has. 3 and 5 year old! My ex said he wanted a redo but preached damnation and hell to “our family” for 30
Years. How do they literally discard after caterers and destroy multitudes of relationships?

My own mother has no contact with my daughter and now my son is showing extreme behavior changes and I was left out of his engagement and marriage.

I’m. Hanging on to one child and thinking I just need to focus on healing and keeping her from seeing me hurt. I find myself having to just pretend all the tome

Hi J,

you are very welcome 🙂

I would do both those Modules, starting with 1 … also are you on the Forum for help and support at these times? It really is an invaluable resource. https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

Sending you strength and breakthrough

Mel xo

Many thanks for this booster video. I have been working your healing modules, and am on #4 “healing the injustice of the betrayal”. I was making progress, releasing substantially after going No Contact months ago, but unfortunately have been hoovered twice in the past week.

I’m scared that I’m regressing to urges to explain myself to this person and reconnect-what module would you suggest to manage these empathic urges and pain? Would #1 or #2 be more appropriate, or a different one?

So far, I’m hanging in there :).

Hi Anna,

I sure do! Yes I did her Course and twice used her processes to bring in ‘the one’ The first time I still had unhealed stuff and even though this gentleman was a big step up – he reflected back to me where I was not healed and I had no choice other than to terminate the relationship – but he was ‘the one” back then who would show me where I was at with myself! And the healing from that (NARP) and working again with the processes (CITO) brought me to Brad.

We do need to do the work in our body, deeply and intently otherwise we haven’t healed and shifted that’s the truth! And Katherine work is SO about that! In today’s video I talk about how when we tell them all about our wounds – we hand them all the bullets to shoot us with … check it out!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fe0Hslak1fM&t=871s

Please know Anna some of us have big sou evolution to do, and lots of trauma to release and up-level from. It is what it is!! Try NARP – truly it will get you there faster and more powerfully than you know. It is how we all did it (the Thrivers) in this Community – and I promise you we were the same!

https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Mel xo

Thank you Melanie, you understand! <3 Did you do Katherine's course too, interesting! Of course the good course reviews, "success stories" hooked me in, I did not realise all may not get similar "instant success" immediately. Of course they use these success stories as marketing material, that's perfectly understandable!

I think these courses (and my age) cause certain expectations and social pressure…but I think I just need to stop comparing myself to other people! (and when I focus on "other people", I'm not connected to myself at all!).

I think I did the course intellectually, was "in my head". Like K. said, there's a difference between information and transformation! I thought I was "done" with healing, and in reality, had barely started it! 🙁 That was a dangerous assumption, no wonder the n mess started…(or beautifully said, he appeared in to my life, to "inform" me about it!)

I even told the n about this course, my fears, worries, insecurities, woundings etc. and he patiently listened to it, seemed to care, was even encouraging and supporting…gosh how "talented" they are doing this!! :/

I've been endlessly asking myself these questions…why he became (or was born) so severely damaged (a narcissist) and his brother is normal? Why I have so much trauma and drama, and my sister has been happily married over 15 years, without ever doing any self-development or any healing at all whatsoever? My aunt and uncle are similar, they met when they were 16 years old, and now when they are over 70 years, they are still happily together, isn't it sweet!
I joke now, but sometimes I think, "why I need to work so hard to "get a man", this is ridiculous, why other people get everything so easily?".
But I think it's best to stop thinking these questions, I think I (or anyone) will never know or find the answers to them!

Hi Anna,

it’s my pleasure 🙂

Truly, for all of us ‘the one’ at that time is the person who is reflecting back to us our healed parts AND our unhealed parts. I truly believe every relationship we have (that is impactful) is “for us” and not “to us” to HIT those parts of us that require becoming conscious so that we can heal them.

So much of “relationship attraction” takes courage – because of course, we may meet a powerful connection where we still have some healing to go. This is where if we (and I did it too) are in our head, rather than fully anchored in our body we can miss warning signs, not show up fully honouring ourselves and make choices to stay and ignore things that our inner bells are going off at – “warning warning” because we dont want to confront something – either because we may still carry some young fears of being criticised, rejected, abandoned, punished (C.R.A.P.) or we dont want to face thhe possibility that this person is not the person we really want them to be.

The first time I did Katherine’s Course I met “my one” and he reflected back to me wonderful aspects of myself I had healed (complete freedom from repeat relationship patterns which used to also show up), and also the stuff that I still needed to heal .. and the relationship didn’t last – but it was perfect for my growth! My partner now, Brad, reflects back to me so many of my internal breakthroughs and we still work at areas that I have not shored up within me yet – which this relationship is helping me to achieve. That is the purpose of “intimate relationship”. I think the hugest lesson here is to remain connected to our inner being, and our continual development and never assume it is “done” – it’s not!

How wonderful in the reflection that is exactly what you have realised too … it’s not the course or the teacher’s fault – in fact “fault” doesn’t even come into it – it is ALL in perfect and divine order – it is just our constant evolution!

Your post is incredibly inspirational Anna, and thank you for sharing!

Many blessings to you 🙂

Mel xo

, I met “the one”…the narcissist!! This is beyond horrible. Of course, it took me over 2 years to realise, that he is not normal, he is n.
I was so naive, so much in love, had so much blind faith, so much “false sense of security”, like, you know, “now that I’ve completed this course, I’m healed, this was a course about finding the one, so this man logically MUST be the one”. It has been very, very, very hard to let go of that dream…that he is “the one” and we’ll live happily ever after.
The course offered wonderful group support from other students…soon for me it started to feel “group pressure”, I had told everyone about my “success”, was full of happiness how I’ve now indeed met the one…I was beyond ashamed and embarrased, that I had failed again, this man is not and cannot be the one, or any kind of suitable boyfriend.
Yep, then the “dark night of the soul” began 🙁 I was so angry to her, the course, life and everyone, I felt so betrayed and fooled, humiliated…and at the same time, deeply in love with him, despite of continuous silent treatments and triangulation…

But no worries, nowadays I’m a different, new person! Balanced, happy and evolved a lot, for sure! 🙂 I am not angry at Katherine or do not blame her of anything, it was not her fault. I now think these self-development courses little bit like weight loss, everyone has a different starting point….looks like I had metaphorically more “extra weight” (childhood trauma, false beliefs etc.) to drop than maybe other participants. But I was so in a hurry and obsessed finding “the one” and then the n appeared, of course perfectly playing the role of the “soulmate”, yep, this is what they do 🙂
What I’ve learned, first I need to “self-partner”, and only after that I can find a real partner for me.

I don’t nowadays even think of it as a “failure” anymore. In a mysterious way, I think maybe it all was “divinely ordered”, I think I “needed” to have him in my life, so that I would see where I still need to grow/evolve/heal etc. I like it when Katherine said, “you need to go out and live the life, experience the in’s and out’s, ups and downs, because that’s when you align with the strongest parts of you”.

Sorry this became so long 🙂
I feel relief that I could write all this. I just want to encourage everyone, that if I was able to survive all this, and not just survive but to become a better person because of this…then everyone can <3