Comments on: How To Break The Narcissist’s Conditioning – Part 1 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sun, 30 Jan 2022 23:54:03 +0000 hourly 1 By: Helena https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning/#comment-1264295 Sun, 30 Jan 2022 23:54:03 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5690#comment-1264295 Yes dear Melanie I want this help. Thank you!

]]> By: Emotionally Abused Wife https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning/#comment-1108893 Thu, 15 Nov 2018 12:59:05 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5690#comment-1108893 I have been with my narc for 15 years. We have been married 12. The love bombing was overwhelming when we first met. Flowers, daily dates, constant calls, a new cell phone with two way radio so that we could be n constant contact. He even took me shopping three weeks in to buy me an outfit so I would stay the night with him because he didn’t want me to go home.
Three months into our relationship we moved in together and a month later, we conceived our son. I worked 45 hours a week to pay for whatever I wanted and he promised to pay the bills. I noticed tons of unopened mail, but paid no attention to it. Then one night at dinner, a deputy showed up to arrest him for a bounced check. I felt that moment something was wrong, but I wasn’t strong enough to leave. He never paid bills unless something was turned off (cable, phones, internet). We moved closer to my family and he started out at the new home in good patterns, then his job was eliminated and he spent his retirement on a new company which folded and I ended up filing personal bankruptcy Our daughter passed away at four, our son was taken from us, he was strong for us, but didn’t change his ways. He was still selfish, still spending money from our son’s account, money from our daughter’s account, his incapacitated mother’s account and so on. We lost our home. Every time I try to leave, he becomes the victim and I the villain. He refuses to see how he has contributed negatively. He begs for counseling, then quits. I have confronted him for being on dating websites and most recently communicating with sex workers online while he as away on business. I’m so tired of the back and forth emotions. I am exhausted from working so hard and never getting anywhere. I know I’ll never have anything as long as I am with him, so why has leaving him been so hard? I have easily spent $10,000 trying to get out of this, but he always lures me back with his love bombing then discards me. Our son is almost 15 and told me last week that HE is tired of his father’s actions, words and the way he treats us. He sees it and is tired of it. I’m so tired and so lost and so unhappy.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning/#comment-1106517 Sat, 03 Nov 2018 22:07:18 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5690#comment-1106517 In reply to Ingrid.

Awwww Ingrid,

I am so, so happy for you that in this short amount of time that you are releasing trauma and coming home to you.

That’s beautiful news and you deserve it so much!

Sending love and amazing healing and breakthroughs to you.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: Ingrid https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning/#comment-1106491 Sat, 03 Nov 2018 19:57:54 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5690#comment-1106491 Mel I can’t begin to tell you how much you’ve changed my life in the few short weeks I’ve being going through all the information you supply & doing the modules,I had been isolating myself & slept for almost a year except for when the kids were not at school,I’m learning to love myself for the 1st time in my life but still struggle with what other people think of me & wanting to fix people even when they’ve traumatised me so many times,I was disassociating myself so much I was forgetting major events that had happened, I’ve drawn close to my children & were starting to have real fun together without worry of the N not being happy because it’s not all about him
& I can actually concentrate & stay in my surroundings, it’s been 2 months MC due to co parenting & I can see a future for me & the kids 😊 your a literal life saver, I was like a robot with no emotion or feelings left & now the little things in life seem such a gift, & as you say it was a gift being with the N & having a father who is a N to make me level myself up! THANKYOU Mel xx

]]> By: Lou https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning/#comment-1100833 Fri, 12 Oct 2018 18:59:12 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5690#comment-1100833 Yes I’m ready to start healing

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning/#comment-1098809 Sun, 30 Sep 2018 03:02:23 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5690#comment-1098809 In reply to Brandi.

Hi Brandi,

I am so sorry you are going through this painful torment.

My strongest suggestion is to connect to my free 16 day recovery course http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse which will help you connect to you, unravel why you are feeling like this and gain strength and relief.

Sending you love, strength and healing.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: Brandi https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning/#comment-1098749 Sat, 29 Sep 2018 12:08:12 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5690#comment-1098749 Im in the second week of my life after leaving my narcissist. I have totally lost everything I used to be. I have isolated myself for so long and the trauma that he bestowed upon me has cost me everything including my job. I can’t function or focus or remember things. I have been belittled bullied and made to believe that I am worthless, that I am a leach and that I am the narcissist. I am so lost and I am trying to find a little bit of my true self but I can’t seem to find anything. I know that this is not my fault. I have been smeared to the point of thinking that maybe its true. I have not had contact with him. He has left me messages and emails and voicemails that are just cruel and nasty and its taken all my strength to not respond. I am desperately seeking your help to find me again. He is the true definition of a narcissist. It is imperative for me to start the healing process and reprogram my mind. Part one has started the understanding of the damage that has been done, now where do I go from here… Thank you for your help. Brandi

]]> By: Brandi https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning/#comment-1098748 Sat, 29 Sep 2018 12:06:10 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5690#comment-1098748 In 8n the second week of my life after leaving my narcissist. I have totally lost everything I used to be. I have isolated myself for so long and the trauma that he bestowed upon me has cost me everything including my job. I can’t function or focus or remember things. I have been belittled bullied and made to believe that I am worthless, that I am a leach and that I am the narcissist. I am so lost and I am trying to find a little bit of my true self but I can’t seem to find anything. I know that this is not my fault. I have been smeared to the point of thinking that maybe its true. I have not had contact with him. He has left me messages and emails and voicemails that are just cruel and nasty and its taken all my strength to not respond. I am desperately seeking your help to find me again. He is the true definition of a narcissist. It is imperative for me to start the healing process and reprogram my mind. Part one has started the understanding of the damage that has been done, now where do I go from here… Thank you for your help. Brandi

]]> By: Clare https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-break-the-narcissists-conditioning/#comment-1094051 Wed, 08 Aug 2018 09:42:32 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5690#comment-1094051 In reply to Deb.

My ex filed a dom violence restraining order against me.
Was dissolved. As a result he had orders Of which he has not abided for visitation. I truly know he has manipulated my 13 1/2 year oldl daughter against me. Yes I said negative things about him in front of her. Now she no longer wants to visit with me or have any communication with me, I only have an email to communicate with her which hasi been one way. Custody hearing is weeks away. What do you suggest?

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