Comments on: How To Change Your Behaviour Without Slipping Back Into Old Habits https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-change-your-behaviour/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Mon, 05 Feb 2018 07:15:36 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-change-your-behaviour/#comment-996126 Mon, 05 Feb 2018 07:15:36 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1242#comment-996126 In reply to Regina.

Hi Regina,

that is so great that you are on your way to Thriver Healing and want to heal.

You are so welcome, and many blessings to you.

Mel xo

]]> By: Regina https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-change-your-behaviour/#comment-993592 Tue, 30 Jan 2018 19:39:41 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1242#comment-993592 I am very early in my healing process. But this morning I woke up with immediate anxiety that doesn’t mean allow me to go back to sleep even if I wanted to. I felt nothing and and anxious about it. Then I immediately thought of my partner who narcissistically abused me and who I am in the process of leaving, and the feelings became not just stronger but I felt the addiction to him and blaming him for the way I felt. Yes he abused me, showed me in so many verbal ways how I am a bad wrong person, but I believed him. And the fact that I felt the nothing and the anxiety that comes with it was exaggerated when I aligned it with him, tells me the anxiety and belief is there regardless of him. It’s so easy to blame. When I am the one that stayed. So I say down and started reading some of your material (as I wait for day two of your free healing program) as part of my true healing Process of my self, not to blame him, but to know the part of me that accepting such obvious wrong treatment. I’m still anxious now as I write but I’m gaining strength, moment to moment. Thanks for being here with me in this way Melanie.

]]> By: Hector https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-change-your-behaviour/#comment-609497 Wed, 01 Jul 2015 19:17:05 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1242#comment-609497 Can you tell us more about this? I’d want to find out some additional information.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-change-your-behaviour/#comment-112272 Mon, 07 Oct 2013 01:09:43 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1242#comment-112272 In reply to joan.

Hi Joan,

you are very welcome.

It is early days for you in releasing pain – and there is a lot of hooks and trauma bonding to release.

Just keep going Joan, what you have is peptide addiction, and the more and more and more than you clear your body out of the pain, the more you will break free of it.

That is how your emotions which catch up with what you know logically.

Don’t try to work it out logically, just keep shifting the pain out with the healing Modules.

Relief will come..

Mel xo

]]> By: joan https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-change-your-behaviour/#comment-112196 Sun, 06 Oct 2013 23:20:18 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1242#comment-112196 Hi Melaine, Thank you for all you support.
I have just started the NARP programme I have done the first two modules.I feel very sad about the Narc,it feels like i am abandoning him as he is a very sick man and I also believe there is a good person under all the pain he demonstrates. How do I get past that, why am i going there as at a head level I really want to move on i spent 10 years being abused and kept breaking up and going back, total insanity on my part. please help me to understand why I am so sad about leaving this abusive relationship

thank so much Joan

]]> By: Aimee https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-change-your-behaviour/#comment-50616 Wed, 22 May 2013 18:56:37 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1242#comment-50616 Melanie,

So glad I found you! I purchased your
Program and have just started reading.
My divorce from this awful narsacist was final
On Friday. He had many girlfriends during the course of our divorce and one of them ended the relationship
And befriended me. I forgave her and convinced
Myself she was over my ex husband because
She claimed to see all the signs etc. However,
The day of my divorce hearing she goes back to
Him and tries to tell me how sorry she is but that
She has feelings etc. my ex told me that she will
Now be a part of my kids lives now that we are divorced.
Although she is still married at the moment.
It is not in the best interest of my children to have her
Around but there is not much I can do. I’m just not
Sure how I handle it without feeling sick.

]]> By: Tatiana https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-change-your-behaviour/#comment-38174 Tue, 26 Feb 2013 12:48:59 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1242#comment-38174 In reply to gorgia.

Changing one’s behavior is so inextricably immeshed in a persons thinking and learned patterns od behavior. I have been married to a narcissist for 28 years and finally very recently performed the difficult & traumatic act of cutting him out of my life. It has been a tumultuous 6 weeks! Now is the time that I can reflect n MY behavior and role in the dance of narcissist & copendendant that has swirled for so long. Its not easy to change ones thinking but recent scientific research has proven that the brain is a fluid, changing organ in the body. It CAN change learned patterns of behavior completely, to be rewired to allow us to live with NEW patterns of thinking and acting out our lives (this is called neuroplasticity). Its nit easy but it’s possible once you engage the unconscious mind and connect with your inner child. Believe in yourself! remarkable thhungs are possible when you believe in LOVE!

]]> By: http://yahoo.com https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-change-your-behaviour/#comment-36921 Sat, 09 Feb 2013 14:10:43 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1242#comment-36921 I truly tend to agree with every thing that ended up being written inside “How To Change Your Behaviour Without Slipping Back Into Old Habits
| Narcissism and Relationships Blog by Melanie Tonia Evans”.
Thank you for pretty much all the actual advice.I appreciate it,Lavada

]]> By: Dawn https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-change-your-behaviour/#comment-36870 Sat, 09 Feb 2013 00:39:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1242#comment-36870 In reply to sharon.

Hi! I know exactly what you are going through, as I am going through it right now as we’ll. My Narc left 2mths ago after a couple of days of absolute hell, I put his SHAME in his face and he was gone. I felt fabulous and very empowered. Now two months later he has moved back to our small town and lives two streets over and I can see when he is coming and going. I find myself waking up around the time he leaves for work and I look out the window and watch him go and feel the most excruciating longing I have ever felt in my life. My dream home is up for sale and I am still living in it. However, this is very painful as everywhere I look or sit, there is a memory attached to it. Good or bad still brings me to tears. I was doing sooo much better when he first left as he moved about an hour and a half away. Now he is back. Killing me! I find it difficult to do the program as it does not fit some of my beliefs , such as past lives. Soo very hard to do sometimes. However, knowing that I am not alone in what I am going through is an enormous help. Thanks for being here, and we must stand together. We can do this! Luv, Dawn xo

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