Comments on: How To Co-Parent With A Narcissist – The Foundation https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-co-parent-with-a-narcissist-the-foundation/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sat, 11 Jan 2020 04:31:06 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-co-parent-with-a-narcissist-the-foundation/#comment-1229192 Sat, 11 Jan 2020 04:31:06 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4839#comment-1229192 In reply to azimuth.

Hi Azimuth,

You are very welcome.

I am so sorry you are going through this and its great that you are doing the inner recovery work.

I really do believe your loving input is better sooner rather than later.

Please check out my resources, if you haven’t already, on custody, court and our children, as well as parallel parenting.

I hope very much that they can assist you with your situation.

Much love to you and your son

Mel 🙏💕💛

]]> By: azimuth https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-co-parent-with-a-narcissist-the-foundation/#comment-1229175 Sat, 11 Jan 2020 03:35:29 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4839#comment-1229175 Great video Melanie, thanks so much. Am doing the work and given that I was only discarded a month ago and now not able to see our 6 month old son – I’m doing remarkably well (help from a wise woman friend has proven invaluable)

I’ve lived through a lot in life, but nothing like this. It is a small blessing that my son is so young and hopefully is largely unaffected by recent events, energetically speaking, though his narcissist mother is going to make things tricky for him in the future for sure. I get what you’re saying about his divine journey – and I DO trust, but I am torn right now between wanting to try and get a co parenting plan (ex is being very high conflict and is unlikely to try to come to any agreement of her own accord) so that I can continue to develop a healthy, balanced and warm loving relationship with him and ‘lead the way’ as you put it – or must I let him go and wait until he is older? I might miss my chance….I know I can’t ‘save’ him but I really want him to have a healthy parental relationship to balance out what is already being played out by his narcissist mum. Any insights or links? Thanks again and good on you 😉 Good on all of us for doing the work…. ^^

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-co-parent-with-a-narcissist-the-foundation/#comment-1197895 Fri, 02 Aug 2019 00:30:13 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4839#comment-1197895 In reply to Apollonia.

Hi Apollonia,

I commend your courage and how clear you are about the truth. And there is definetely a necessity to work towards separation, as this will be better for you and your son, absolutely.

Apollonia I’m assuming that you have started working with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

This is going to be a vital piece in your puzzle in regard to not only releasing powerfully and quickly the traumas inflicted by your husband, but also in generating solidness and boundaries for you and your son, and also if necessary, to do healings on your son by proxy to help support him as much as possible.

Also I would love to be in our NARP members forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member so that we can help support you with parallel parenting information as well as court custody and all else that is necessary.

This is a really important time to start setting up and get through, and we have a wealth of experience, strategies and Quantum tools for you to to deal with what is coming in this most supported way possible.

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💞💛

]]> By: Apollonia https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-co-parent-with-a-narcissist-the-foundation/#comment-1197802 Thu, 01 Aug 2019 17:39:37 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4839#comment-1197802 I just listened to this episode and thank you. I’ve listened to many others that you have and I believe in your method although I’m just making the full realization that I need your tools and healing method to heal from narcissistic abuse, and I’m fully cognizant (now) that all 12 years of our relationship were an illusion. Long story short I found out about my husband’s years long affair a little over a year ago. I’ve given him space and time to try to walk with integrity and he won’t/can’t. He remains in his affair but refuses to leave our home. I’ve tried to serve divorce papers twice and he’s evaded and pulled me back in. We share an 18 mo old son (a dear little old soul). He has become more and more abusive to the point I am in process of filing for an Order of Protection with the help of an attorney. I have stayed in what ultimately feels like a hostage situation to protect my son and until recently with some hope my family can remain intact. I am SO cognizant of the fact that my little guy is is own person and has his own soul plan. And this is not a new realization. My question, ultimately, is around if I have parenting concerns (more about my husband being distracted and capable of rapid mood shifts to the point I do feel uneasy when my son is with him vs fearing that my husband would deliberately hurt him). I’m including my son in the protection order because the big event that warrants the order did involve him as well. I understand being a barometer and model for emotional healing and solidness, but when the child is so young they’re own little identity is not yet formed. I am working on healing my own traumas and I’ve disconnected from my husband on almost all levels (I’m releasing anger which he didn’t “let” me have in all these months as he continued to betray and blatantly traumatize), but I wonder if you have any additional insight or advice for how to traverse this with such a little one in between? (Additional context: My husband has also been very possessive about our son and it’s clearer all the time that my husband appears to be seeking affirmation from this tiny child. My husband also then flips into rage (the simmering type that you see in the eyes and comes out after an abrupt shift in mood that results in sudden passive aggressive behavior and odd, jabbing remarks) when he sees my son give me more or different affection). Any help or insight is appreciated.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-co-parent-with-a-narcissist-the-foundation/#comment-1197346 Tue, 30 Jul 2019 04:00:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4839#comment-1197346 In reply to Tricia Nelson.

Hi Tricia

My heart goes out to you and your children and I’d love to help you with this complex subject.

Can you please join me in my free webinar where I explain it all deeply and take you through a Quantum healing process? http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

Sending love and strength to you

Mel 🙏💕♥️

]]> By: Tricia Nelson https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-co-parent-with-a-narcissist-the-foundation/#comment-1197300 Mon, 29 Jul 2019 21:50:43 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4839#comment-1197300 My children live with the sociopathic narcissist and controls the time I have with the children legally.
How do we not let it affect our hearts and minds??? I’m in desperate need of relief.

]]> By: Pamela S https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-co-parent-with-a-narcissist-the-foundation/#comment-1090753 Wed, 25 Jul 2018 14:27:42 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4839#comment-1090753 Thank you for this video! I needed this. I have been healing and realized that I probably seem like a totally different mother than they are used to. I am more confident and laugh more and am no longer a quiet stay at home homeschooling mom. They’ve had so many changes. Prior to my leaving my husband their little brother had cancer for a year and died. Our lives turned upside down. We have not gotten back to our lives before, because losing him totally woke me up to the reality of my marriage and I was determined to get me and my kids out. (I could not see it as possible at the time, and it took some time and healing to even begin to take steps in that direction.) I wondered if it was difficult for them to see a different me after losing a brother, a home, a family, a father, a lifestyle. Now their mom acts almost like a different person! Maybe if I were more timid and homebound they would feel like things were more like they used to be. Crazy thought now that I think about it. This reminds me that my healing and becoming stronger will help them to envision that for themselves. And honestly we laugh so much more together than we used to. I didn’t want to go my life without their seeing the real me that I had to hide before.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-co-parent-with-a-narcissist-the-foundation/#comment-1004327 Thu, 22 Feb 2018 02:36:57 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4839#comment-1004327 In reply to Annabel Banister.

Hi Annabel,

I am so happy for you that this has resonated!

Thank you for passing on the Thriver Way to heal 🙂

Bless you, Lovely Lady.

Mel xo

]]> By: Annabel Banister https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-co-parent-with-a-narcissist-the-foundation/#comment-1004159 Wed, 21 Feb 2018 17:27:08 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4839#comment-1004159 This really hit home. Heal within above anything or anyone else. How could I have not realised this sooner. Luckily or not I’m at the beginning of my journey and I can start to heal myself now and my precious darling daughter will naturally follow. I’m so proud of her, of us, of me. Best news I’ve had all day. In fact all of my life. As the song goes….. I’ll give to you as I give to me….. love forever true. You are a real gem. Thank you for spreading your wisdom and insight. I’ve forwarded it the girls in my little support group, they’ll grasp it too and swing it round their heads in excitement. Big love flowing your way, happy happy days. Xxxx
Annabel (U.K.)

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