Comments on: How To Divorce A Narcissist Part 1

By: Tracy

Tracy — Tue, 18 Jan 2022 00:54:12 +0000

It has been 15 months since I left my narcissistic husband of 20 years. Similar to most people, I had no idea what I was dealing with until after our separation. Since then I’ve been researching the disorder, going to therapy, and finally beginning to live a more conscious life. The overwhelming fear of my husband has finally dissipated to a very low level. Not much progress has been gained in the divorce so far, but I have a fantastic attorney and now the ability to deal with all his manipulative and intimidating tactics in a healthy, unemotional way. Melanie, I’ve been reading your articles for at least nine months. I also bought your healing program. I have to admit in those early months, I had trouble understanding many of the concepts you write about. However I’ve stuck with it because of your obvious love for this community and your firm belief and desire in helping others. Your articles truly resonate with me in ways that I have not found elsewhere. And finally today as I read through this very deep article, I truly understand everything you convey. Thank you for helping me grow and learn from the most traumatic experience in my life.

By: Roxana

Roxana — Tue, 14 Dec 2021 19:03:16 +0000

In reply to MIKA.

Hi Mika,
I am so glad to see that your life has taken a positive turn, hopefully by now you are doing much better.
I am about to begin the ending of my N abusive marriage.
I would be very grateful if you could share what kind of homeopathic remedies your doctor suggested, I live in Romania as well.
All the best,
Roxana

By: Natalia Franco

Natalia Franco — Sat, 31 Dec 2016 19:02:24 +0000

This article was a true blessing for me to read. I was married to a narcissist for less than a year and was 29 when I got married. I thought I had chosen perfectly for myself and he was the most amazing man I had ever met. The turmoil of our marriage was almost unbearable to me to even admit to myself. I knew I was not being treated the way I deserved, but I stayed and kept trying to convince him we were meant to be together. After divorcing, we tried to get back together and of course it didn’t work. I have so many feelings of regret for going back and allowing myself to let someone treat me this way over and over, but I cannot explain the amount of love I had for this man. Now, I can kind of look back and realize that a lot of people have been in this same situation. He has tried to publicly defame me and ruin my character by outright lying. This has been hard for me, but I have to tell myself that he’s sick and this is just what he does, with no remorse. Your article has helped me in more ways than you can imagine. I’m actually considering writing a novel about my experiences and my journey in hopes that it could help others! Thank you!

By: Aimee

Aimee — Fri, 09 Dec 2016 14:24:57 +0000

“I know that may seem really hard to believe right now … but I promise you that this can be your new truth after you get through this, and after you have worked through narcissistic abuse as the most powerful breakdown/ breakthrough experience in your life.”

I needed to hear these exact words at this exact moment.

Thank you.

By: AOttawa

AOttawa — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 13:48:24 +0000

Great post. Definitely gave me a lot to think about and I can certainly relate to some the points you’re making. I’m in a verbally abusive relationship and need out. I’m stressed out whenever he comes home. I don’t come home until I think he’s gone. The only times we ever talk we’re fighting and it always ends with me a tearful mess. I think divorce is the only answer at this point. There is no more love in me for him. It’s been gone for a while and I don’t see it coming back. He found me browsing a divorce website ( http://www.thistoo.co ) and now it seems like things have gotten worse. He doesn’t come home some nights. I think he’s cheating but I barely care. I’d rather he not be here. My worry is that once the divorce process actually begins he’ll just get worse and worse and this will drag on forever. I can’t take that.

By: Cathytrezzaferrara

Cathytrezzaferrara — Sun, 16 Aug 2015 02:38:34 +0000

I would like to hear about what I can expect when I go to court any tips are appreciated..

By: Jane

Jane — Sat, 25 Jul 2015 15:55:46 +0000

You write excellent articles. I was married to my N for 17 years. He moved our of state, cheated on me and has done everything he can to make my life a living hell. I got divorced on Thursday and he remarried yesterday. I have been dealing with all this for 8 months and it really is too complicated to go into all the many problems he has caused me, including a court appearance. We have not said one word to each other since Dec. 2014. But still it hurts. It isn’t as bad as it used to be. Talk about rejection and discard. IT HAS BEEN HORRIBLE. Two years ago he quit introducing me as his wife and only referred to me as “his female”. No amount of asking him not to call me that worked. I feel lousy.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Sun, 19 Jul 2015 21:51:57 +0000

This article speaks to me on many levels. My narcissist just informed me, via text message this weekend, that he is no longer interested in being married to me. While I was at work, he came home, crept in, removed his belongings and left his wedding band. He also informed me that he is back online–dating, cruising, trolling for his next victim, I suppose and making sure to rub it in my face. We were married a grand total of 9 months. All of this after he actually issued to me an ultimatum to marry him or lose him! Now that I am no longer providing his unquestioning supply (emotional financial, sexual, etc), I am no longer useful and in fact, scorned and accused. I have never been called the names he has used.
I am hoping for as quick a disentanglement as possible. Your article gives me strength and insight. Thank you so much!

By: Teri

Teri — Wed, 08 Jul 2015 02:30:59 +0000

Great article as always. You are amazing!!