Comments on: How To Eliminate Narcissists From Your Life

By: Mary

Mary — Sun, 14 May 2017 17:36:32 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. Fortunately I left my narcissist just at the beginning of the "devaluation" stage. It was someone I met online and I became suspicious about the OTT being put on a pedestal by someone I had not actually even met! This grooming went on over a couple of months. Then he made a disparaging remark and I cut off with him immediately and have heard nothing since. The behaviour described is exactly what I've encountered. So glad I got out intact.

By: chaya

chaya — Sun, 14 May 2017 09:35:20 +0000

I have been reading your info and story and doing some modules for the past year.
I only fall into the pit of victimization 25 percent of the time instead of all of the time. My kids are all connecting with me on a solid level. Its a pleasure. the narc is still full force ahead trying to smear me…telling anyone who will listen that Im mentally ill…that I have munchausens by proxy….etc….he plants seeds of doubt about me to all of the kids’ school staff, therapists…he even convinced the ppc we hired to believe him in a situation where he clearly emotionally abused our 17 yr old daughter…. Its so frustrating….Ive read and reread what you write about helping our children heal by healing ourselves and what you write about smear campaigns…not to run after and try to defend myself for each lie he tells….

I just feel worn down and like I cant heal and up level fast enough to stay ahead of the financial emotional psychological and spiritual abuse that comes in…Thank G-d I got a no contact stipulation about two months ago…Its a world of difference …he still harasses and bullies through OFW as well as through legal letters but at least its a step removed and not coming directly on my personal text or email….My life is so busy thank G-d with seven kids. How can I heal faster?
chaya hzg
thanks for all of your energy towards helping so many people suffering from na

By: Angela

Angela — Sun, 07 May 2017 17:43:14 +0000

In reply to A.E.. Hi. You should definitely check out thefree online webinar. You've got this and are so ready to uplevel and Thrive. Well wishes. ?

By: Gemma

Gemma — Thu, 04 May 2017 23:37:56 +0000

In reply to Emma.

Emma
I’ve been where you are and I wanted to say something so you know you’re not alone. It’s clear that somewhere inside you is the will to get out of this and recover (the fact you’re even reading and posting on this site is proof of that). The flame might be burning low at the moment but it’s still burning! Hold onto that, gather every scrap of strength you have and leave. Take your love for him and give it to yourself instead, you deserve it most!

By: Gemma

Gemma — Thu, 04 May 2017 23:25:41 +0000

“I will eternally release you from trauma and replace it with love and well-being”

This might be my favourite thing you’ve ever said Melanie (and I’m a big fan of most of what you say!). There’s something so profound in it that resonates with me on so many levels. The patient, enduring commitment to never stop caring, to give unconditional love and care over and over again, no matter how many times, how many traumas, how many setbacks.

I bought NARP a few weeks back and have tried module 1 but have been experiencing a lot of inner resistance and procrastination about really committing to it. Because it’s hard and uncomfortable and painful. But there’s something in that one sentence that’s really inspired me and now I know I’m ready to start this journey, and stay on it.

I’m going to put this quote on my wall and say it out loud to myself every day to renew this promise to myself and my little inner child.

Thank you so much for everything you do xx

By: Emma

Emma — Tue, 02 May 2017 23:15:33 +0000

I’ve come to the realization that my current boyfriend is a narc. Before this, I assessed him as a manipulator after reading a book but it’s much worse.
We reunited last year after a breakup that lasted about a month. It was amazing at first…and now things have settled back to how they were before. Mean and sweet cycles.
Because I know how this can go when I cut the cord with him, I’m trying to be careful in my timing. His birthday is coming soon, and I’m very concerned about what that could potentially mean for me. I know him well.
My issue is that I have been so wrapped up in him for so long and the thought of not having him makes me nauseous, even though I know what it means to stay.
I took a new job last year and it is not a good fit for me. So another source of stress. I have a chronic health condition and need to watch my stress. Given that I’ve only been at this new job a few month, I’m not eligible for FMLA, either.
I’m at the end of my rope and often think about ending it all. I’m so infuriated with myself for getting into this, and then getting back with him last year when I did.
In reading through various books, there’s no doubt of the “trauma bonds” that are holding me to him. We’ve been together for almost 7 years.
I don’t know how to breakup with someone who has been a part of a life for so long, and especially someone with whom you deeply love.
Feeling shattered and like I’ve wasted my life. And barely feel like trying to heal myself. I just want it end it all.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 22 Apr 2017 03:11:34 +0000

In reply to Janie Young.

Hi Janie,

oh gosh that is so true … ownership is totally flawed thinking …

Mel xo

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 22 Apr 2017 03:10:55 +0000

In reply to Enough.

Hi Enough,

Im glad it helped!

Mel xo

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 22 Apr 2017 03:10:34 +0000

In reply to Glen.

Hi Glen,

Thank you and I am so pleased this information helps.

That is great this is helping you get clarity and unlock your True Self.

Mel xo