Comments on: How To Feel Safe And Whole In Your Body https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-feel-safe-and-whole-in-your-body/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sat, 05 Sep 2020 08:06:57 +0000 hourly 1 By: Claudia https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-feel-safe-and-whole-in-your-body/#comment-1241742 Sat, 05 Sep 2020 08:06:57 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1895#comment-1241742 Great article taking into consideration all the most important aspects of narcisistic abuse and how to shift in order to be free.
I’m still suffering from fibromyalgia, wondering when and how I will come through it, but what I and sure about is that the way to be happy and live a fullfilling life is the one you mention in this article and in your course. Thank you for your work. So precious!

]]> By: Nive https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-feel-safe-and-whole-in-your-body/#comment-154267 Wed, 20 Nov 2013 23:13:40 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1895#comment-154267 Thank you for this post. When you mentioned being connected to the Source of well-being it really resonated with what I experienced when I started the healing work. I like to call this connection Synchronicity, being in tune with this Source. It got to the point that when I actually was hungry, someone appeared out of nowhere with a bagful of free food. When I forgot my bus fare money – a random stranger offered that I could use their group ticket and travel with them. I still felt like a newborn foal on shaky legs, but full of inner new-found peace and opportunities for a better life, meaningful coincidences started appearing every day. It was like feeling in tune with all the good in the world, not expecting anything yet receiving help, support, feeling true joy. I used to be very isolated and disconnected from others (and myself!), but later on I found myself being a part of a big ocean of humanity – caring and loving. It really works like that, now I have this trust in myself that appeared to be gone, lost forever. I’m on the right track and although my healing is far from over, the change in me is already breathtaking.

]]> By: joy https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-feel-safe-and-whole-in-your-body/#comment-141603 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 15:31:47 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1895#comment-141603 In reply to Ger.

Ger,

I am interested in reading about Mg and relieving PTSD. Can you share the article you are referring to? Also, what is the recommended dose?

]]> By: Oliver J R Cooper https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-feel-safe-and-whole-in-your-body/#comment-130561 Wed, 23 Oct 2013 12:56:09 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1895#comment-130561 Hello Melanie,

this is a wonderful article. Full of a lot of wisdom and sound advice.

Thank you,

Oliver

]]> By: Sandra https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-feel-safe-and-whole-in-your-body/#comment-125115 Wed, 16 Oct 2013 05:45:29 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1895#comment-125115 Thanks for your comments. Sometimes standard blood tests don’t reveal everything. Ferritin – connected with iron- is also an important factor in well-being and inner strength. It’s often low in women who are athletic and vegetarian. If you fit into that category and are low energy, I recommend checking it out.

]]> By: faithp https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-feel-safe-and-whole-in-your-body/#comment-117988 Fri, 11 Oct 2013 02:13:34 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1895#comment-117988 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

hi, it sounds to me as if you’re saying that we are responsible for how others treat us? that if we for whatever reason are not whole, that we can expect others to treat us badly and thats their excuse? and that we deserve it in a way? what about other people just being decent humans and not treating others bad even when they have no confidence?

i was raised by a narc mom and her family has some other narcs to varying degrees and they are extremely abusive. i also was molested and that also splits your identity and u feel ashamed deep down in your core. u cant even develop your ego either, and also i have aspergers which makes me rejected wherever i go and exacerbates everything else…only because of one very traumatic event in my life, i can hardly explain it, made my ego develop and its a long story but the point is that now i dont feel like i used to. i feel like a different person completely and feel like a human being. believe it or not, my trauma was so severe that i felt nearly like an animal especially because of my mom who couldnt stand me cuz i couldnt stand myself….narcs only like confident people because they only “mirror” who u are.
so because of this change in my identity..my mom and family…kinda kiss my ass in a way when before they put me down constantly. my mom is still cruel but not demonic how she used to be. in the past she hated me so much that she kicked me out of her house, but now she tolerates me? so…what changed? i did, not them. i feel a tremendous rage for my “family” because when i needed them the most, thats when they treated me the worse. now that i have an identity because of my mom’s partial acceptance, now they cant get enough of me…so…what am i supposed to think? so…i grew up abused by them, miraculously healed in a way…and now they love me because im kind of confident (im not really but compared to how i was before i am confident and have an identity), and its like theyre saying, “see we didnt accept you before because u were a loser but now we like u”? i dont think im explaining myself (aspergers) but the point is that i just DONT trust them at all!!! should i? i feel like im going crazy because i feel im blamed for everything…..

]]> By: NPD thoughts https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-feel-safe-and-whole-in-your-body/#comment-100100 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 17:53:07 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1895#comment-100100 Thank you- I don’t think that was it; it was something I read, not a show I listened to, so it must have been something else I came across online. Thanks though!

Please, do not stop writing.
🙂

]]> By: Meg https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-feel-safe-and-whole-in-your-body/#comment-98990 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 05:33:23 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1895#comment-98990 In reply to becca.

Thank you Becca. Im not sure why I felt the need to read through all the responses but Im now glad I did. Im definitely going to get my hands on that book. Anything at all that helps is fantastic by me. It has taken my lawyer a little while but she is slowly seeing him for who he is. His list of demands came back to her and she just dismissed over half of it due to the outrageous limits and control he wishes to have on ME…nothing to do with our son.
Thank you for taking the time to reply. Its invaluable to know I am not alone. If I can get through the NARP modules without being emotionally wrecked every time…I will feel like I can make headway there too 🙂

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-feel-safe-and-whole-in-your-body/#comment-98944 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 03:30:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=1895#comment-98944 In reply to Denise.

Hi Denise,

it is often one thing to know the boundaries we should be laying – yet our inner ‘gaps’ are not allowing us to be strong enough to do it.

The truth is this is often unfinished business in regard to our boundaries being invaded long before the narc abuse experience..

This changes when we do the deep inner work on ourselves.

When these false and painful belief systems are healed, then we become the healthy boundaries we seek, and we CAN implement them..

This is why knowledge ALONE is not the true answer – an emotional belief system shift within you – coupled with knowledge is the true answer.

We can’t simply ‘do’ what we cannot ‘be’..

When we change the beingness (deep inside) then the ‘doing’ becomes natural, empowered and do-able.

Mel xo

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