I’ve found myself in the far too late stage. I was so in love that I allowed my wife to cheat on me under my nose while defending accusations of me cheating but far worse I allowed my wife to file false police reports of domestic violence against me twice. I’m an overly trusting guy. I love to love. My wife was perfect in my eyes in every way. I flew her to Florence, Italy and married her there in the most romantic way I could think of. My wife told me that her daughter was raped by her last husband and that he was sent to prison. For that reason I dismissed accusations of cheating on the fact that there may have been unresolved issues with her. Since we both grew up in the same small town I know a lot of people that were familiar with the trial. I was told by numerous people that there was a lot of testimony given by her that was simply not believable. Regardless he spent 2 years in prison and my wife reduced him to zero. She was so vindictive that his family had to pull restraining orders on her to protect their businesses from her constant attacks. She was arrested for violating the RO after purchasing an unregistered weapon off the streets. The fist time my wife made false charges of DV I had told her to stop throwing things at me. At that point she had sucker punched me in the face at between 20 and 25 times. I told her if she continued throwing things that I would throw them back. The next morning she threw 4 objects at me hitting me each time at close range. I threw 3 back missing 2 times and finally hitting her with the slipper she just hit me with. It was foam. This cost me $16k and my job. I returned home after begging for 40 days thinking somehow I was the cause of her needing a RO to prevent me from throwing things back at her. I asked her if she threw a rock up into the air and it came down and hit her on the head if she would pull a RO on gravity but she just snarled.
The second time I recorded the entire event. She attacked me in my garage with verbal assaults, destroying my things, throwing things at me and then hitting me in the face with a door she kicked. Because I told police that I did push her when she refused to let me exit they arrested me even though my recordings proved that she was the aggressor. I guess the police feel that a homeless man has a better chance to survive than a homeless women. My wife then served me with a “Snipet “ of the RO so that I wouldn’t see the upcoming court date. Her intention was to get “exclusive use of home” for 5 years and control of my possessions. I was arrogant in thinking that defending myself in family court would be a breeze due to the fact I live in America. That was an incredibly naive thought. I’m guilty until I prove myself innocent. It’s been 16 months since I’ve seen the inside of my home. She sells and or destroys my things. She came into my life with a car, 2 dogs, debt, and cloths. Now she wants to leave with everything. She’s slowly but surely outing herself in court by lying, reneging on deals and disobeying court orders but I want to end this ASAP before I endure more loss. From the beginning of Covid to now my own discard has cost me $177k.

Hi Lili,

someone’s words mean NOTHING. See how they operate. See how they deal with your YOUR healthy boundaries. meaning retaining your life, not dropping everything for them, and saying “No” at times.

Take note of the people in their life and how they have “done” in life. What are their relationships like with key people in their life?

I promise you that when you are healed up, authentic and powerful in your own skin you will see and investigate the cracks.

Again a person’s words are NOTHING, their character is how they show up in life and what their actions are and have been.

Mel 🙏💕💚

As an older woman I would have no interest in this now, though as a young woman… oh wow I didn’t know to or what to gain, I was very much a go with the flow, follow the universe, the great lovers of the cosmos oh the mystery of deeply sexy, profound volatile affair kind of person. Maybe it was all about myself being in love regardless of the other person and that I passionately wanted and needed the experience. ♥️

Kathryn