I just ditched my malignant narc boyfriend before he could actually discard me ,three days ago. He became verbally abusive towards me just recently, and also has an alcohol addiction. He yelled at me for the smallest reasons, became less caring, and was behaving in bizarre ways before I decided to let him go. We had broken up once last year in the summer, but got back together again after he cried while I tried to get my personal belongings out of his apartment. This time, I didn’t respond to his nasty rude text messages for two days. I gave him the silent treatment this time, and it drove him crazy that I was ignoring him. Finally, I texted him, in a very straight up tone, that he was to courier my belongings from his place immediately. He became rude again, and I ignored that. He finally left my stuff at my apartment door, and I got them after he left. I am done now. His behaviour became so rapidly abusive and awful in a short period of time, about a month. I feel relieved to be free, but I do feel hurt, shocked at his behaviour, and I am now trying to heal myself from all the lies, deceit, manipulation and verbal abuse. Thank you for sending me the results to the Narcissism Quiz online. He did all of those things to me. Now, it is time for me to heal fully. My ex husband was also a malignant narc and this recent one was very good at hiding it, for just over a full year, before his ugliness fully came out. Thank you for sending me your healing articles and advice, which I do really need right now, as I feel lonely and hurt.

Sounds like you are talking about me.
It has been three years of not knowing how to get through the day. Keep on the path is all I know to do.
It is getting better. This life is suffering, but when you realize it is for a reason and then you begin to understand the reasoning. It does help.
Keep on the path. God loves you.

Hi Gai,

Sending much love to you and please know that I offer NARP sponsorship to people in financial need. You can find out more by emailing one of my lovely support staff at support@melanietoniaevans.com

I’m so sorry that you have been through such pain and trauma with this.

I love that you are finding your way back to you, and you are doing such an amazing job with this.

Gai, you are going to make it. I just know it.

Sending you love, strength and continued blessings and healing

Mel 🙏💕💚

i now can see that for me, the very worst was my betrayal of myself to me. i can see this through the huge lift up of help i got from your first module those visualisations and now from reading your blogs. Thank you for all your insights and wisdoms.
In the last few years i started trying to go no contact, but often got hoovered back.. once i stayed away for 8 months. . I even claimed “it’s all over permanently” to my lovely caring family and friends – who all despised him and then I actually lied to these family & friends when i went back to him. I felt so ashamed. That was the most terrible place for me to sink to. When i did this i was scared and and i knew … it’s NOT ME … but this addiction to this narcissist always sucked me back in like a drug addict. It overpowered my other true self. Then after going back a few times in the last 2 years it became increasingly awful as i tried to assert myself. Yes. He said I was “cooky” and “psychotic” and then treated me with such cold disdain or else raging scary abuse – he’d withhold sex to taunt me. I made myself sick. my own telling of lies to the truly good people in my life also made me physically sick. i lost 15 kilos in a short space of time. i stopped eating.
Now – with self loving in the time of Covid i’m spending time each day trying to do the same exercise you created in the first free module. it is making a HUGE difference Melanie . somehow i can feel the old me coming back! i’m enjoying life. i feel calm. i feel true to me. i don’t feel anxious nor angry or desperate as i so often have done. To be honest there are still times that i do feel overwhelmed with sadness that this happened to me. BUT I’m trying to avoid allowing myself to be the victim. Whenever i feel those self pity tears welling up – i ve been trying to truly let it go and from the inside love the real me i’m quite enjoying the challenge of re-discover unwrapping this person… the true me.
Thank you Melanie. you are an amazing and hugely brave person!! your work is truly remarkable. I’m
not there yet – but i am sure you have pointed me in the right direction!

Hi Jack,

Yes this would be a great topic to talk about! I may well do this.

Jack are you aware that NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp allows you to shift out and let go of those traumas powerfully?

It is exactly how many people in this community have healed, including from bullying.

I’d love you to come into my fee webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar to learn how you can get fast relief.

Sending you healing and breakthrough

Mel 🙏💕💚

Great post Mel, thank you. I struggle with fear, shame, and anger almost on a daily basis even though I’ve gone no contact with my narcissistic parents. What I also struggle with often is bullies.

I was just wondering if you could write an article sharing your wisdom on the topic of bullying, such as high school and/or workplace bullying. After going through hell because of my narcissistic parents I was bullied pretty often in high school. I hold a lot of resentment and anger because of that. I was wondering if you could talk about dealing with that.

Thank you,
Jack

Thank you for your sharing exact my words too .
Feel in same way .wish you luck in the healing .
Lots of hugs

That’s so beautiful that you get it Kathryn,

Love and blessings to you

Mel 🙏💕💚