Comments on: How To Render A Narcissist Powerless To Control, Manipulate or Abuse You https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-render-a-narcissist-powerless-to-control-manipulate-or-abuse-you/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Tue, 03 Aug 2021 11:10:44 +0000 hourly 1 By: Inpeaceinside https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-render-a-narcissist-powerless-to-control-manipulate-or-abuse-you/#comment-1254992 Tue, 03 Aug 2021 11:10:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8560#comment-1254992 The narcissist ex that me and my spouse knew, vandalized us both internally through dark, hostile intentions, energy and intense controlling violent behaviors that I could feel, as well as writing toxic hate speech and death threats all over our personal belongings. So much gross negativity from them. It’s taken a while to feel healthy and free again. Now I know the problem was never me.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-render-a-narcissist-powerless-to-control-manipulate-or-abuse-you/#comment-1249367 Thu, 04 Mar 2021 07:59:27 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8560#comment-1249367 In reply to Sarah.

Hi Sarah,

dear lady, I always going to advise you in the Quantum Way to get you breakthroughs, because this is what unravels narcissists and gets you in the driver’s seat to unfold your life in the highest and best ways … including what you want for you and your children.

This is a long conversation, which is why I have a free webinar that explains all http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

Come into this! It is my highest recommendation for you.

Much love to you and your children

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

]]> By: Sarah https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-render-a-narcissist-powerless-to-control-manipulate-or-abuse-you/#comment-1249329 Wed, 03 Mar 2021 19:43:04 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8560#comment-1249329 Hi Melanie….I am currently going through a divorce with a Narc. We have 3 young kids. I have been in therapy for 2 years along with my oldest who is 12 for mental and emotional abuse and now my 7 year old is in.
There is a history of drug and alcohol addiction, bipolar diagnosis, he got fired from his job for having a relationship with a coworker(the married girl he had an affair on me with), hasn’t paid child support in 11 weeks and is not looking for a job and his case was just closed from dcfs with no findings.
I was recently diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder that is triggered by the cold and was recommended by my dr and specialist that warmer weather would help my disorder. I want to move to Florida but know he is going to fight me.
How do I 1. Get him to expose himself in front of the judge or 2. Find his weakness to get him to agree to let me move?
He has manipulated and brainwashed my oldest and when he couldn’t have contact with the kids due to dcfs, I got them back on track mood wise and they were all great. Now he can see them and I am so scared they are going to revert back to the old ways. I just want some guidance on what to do to beat him at his own game!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-render-a-narcissist-powerless-to-control-manipulate-or-abuse-you/#comment-1244421 Fri, 23 Oct 2020 08:12:11 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8560#comment-1244421 In reply to Shimeko.

Hi Shimeko,

dear lady taking your power back means this is not about his choices, it has to be about yours.

Please come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar so I can help you connect with what they are and how to exercise them.

I hope that this helps

Sending you much love and strength

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-render-a-narcissist-powerless-to-control-manipulate-or-abuse-you/#comment-1244419 Fri, 23 Oct 2020 07:59:24 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8560#comment-1244419 In reply to Marjorie Reagan.

Hi Marjorie,

I would love you to google my name plus “our children”.

There are many resources that go into this topic in detail for you, that I hope can help

Much love to you and your daughter

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-render-a-narcissist-powerless-to-control-manipulate-or-abuse-you/#comment-1244418 Fri, 23 Oct 2020 07:58:22 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8560#comment-1244418 In reply to Christine Hahn Vertical.

I love Christine that you are taking the high path.

Many blessings to you and your children

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-render-a-narcissist-powerless-to-control-manipulate-or-abuse-you/#comment-1244417 Fri, 23 Oct 2020 07:56:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8560#comment-1244417 In reply to Iris.

Hi Iris,

thank you for your beautiful words of support.

You are such a special soul and thank you for your wisdom and continued encouragement as a beacon of light and lifeforce to all.

Always grateful for you

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

]]> By: Iris https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-render-a-narcissist-powerless-to-control-manipulate-or-abuse-you/#comment-1244190 Thu, 15 Oct 2020 16:49:35 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8560#comment-1244190 In reply to Rebecca.

Hi Rebecca,

Good work going No Contact. That was just the beginning for me.

Mine was a next door neighbor who then paraded his next victim for months in feeding of me. She parked right behind my car overnight! The pain was indescribable.

I got a new phone. Same number but all files from previous one deleted. Deleted pictures etc.
I don’t do any social media so that was super easy. Thank God.
I erased, blocked, and spam listed his number on all my phone lines and email.
I threw out everything he had ever touched in my home, every card written or any trinket given me. Even the shower soap and any perfume I used to wear for him.
I saged the house and burned incense and kept my favorite happy music playing all day and all night.
I left my condo for three months and stayed downtown around people who did not know him.
I did NARP.
The healing was deep and quick.
When I got back to my condo, he had been evicted! I had nothing to do with it.

The healing went on to celebration of the experience. That was two years ago and I can feel only gratitude for what I learned about people, myself etc.

I didn’t even know what a NARC was. I led a beautiful, pure, happy, rich, amazing life. But now it’s even better!! It was an excruciating test of my mental and emotional health. My faith is God never moved however and He led me to Melanie.

And I’m especially grateful to have been led to Melanie who put this NARC thing into a cosmic framework where it belongs.

I thank God for having been led to Melanie.

She is working on levels of healing that even I had not discovered. She’s the only person on earth right now that i know of healing this trauma condition.

All the best to you in your discovery.

]]> By: Shimeko https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-render-a-narcissist-powerless-to-control-manipulate-or-abuse-you/#comment-1244185 Thu, 15 Oct 2020 12:30:43 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8560#comment-1244185 Mel, this newsletter hit home baby!! I have been in this verbal, mentally, and emotionally abusive relationship with my daughter’s Dad for 13 years. The feelings from it has left me feeling stressed, drained, and empty on the inside. But yet I still can be intimate with this man and tell him I love him. I’ve lost myself and don’t know where to find me. I don’t laugh when things are funny or have that feeling of excitement as I should. I don’t know how to celebrate being happy or connect with others any more it’s like I’ve been isolated and lost all my feelings. I have left several times & he talks me right into coming back! I do not know how to detach myself from this daily dysfunctional routine of toxic torture! It’s so my normal life now. I hurt so bad on the inside and still manage a smile on the outside. I’m always explaining myself & defending my character. When I confront him on issues in mid conversation he changes the subject, tries to confuse me, deflects, flips it back on me, lie, bring up irrelevant decade old stuff, answers with something that makes absolutely no sense, etc. He accuses me of things that never happen. Make believe stuff he put in his own crazy mind and we argue past exhaustion about it like it’s true. He stalks me so he knows I’m not doing anything. It’s like his mission is to lie to me, hurt me, drain me, and make me sad. If he doesn’t want me why don’t he just leave or let me stay gone when I leave?

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