Comments on: How To Stop Replaying The Trauma of Narcissistic Abuse In Your Mind

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 11 Apr 2022 01:42:33 +0000

In reply to Valerie.

Hi Valerie,

yes … and doing the inner work to release these traumas, means you will be able to respond completely differently!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 11 Apr 2022 01:41:13 +0000

In reply to Shelly D. It's my pleasure Shelly! Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Elina

Elina — Sat, 09 Apr 2022 16:00:55 +0000

Hi all!
I want to share something, with a calm and positive mindset…but now I think, this feels so self-evident, how I didn´t realise this already years ago! After wrestling years with n1, n2 and other abusers.
For a long time, I somehow believed or tried, that I could talk out, reason, assist etc. the n out of his madness. Now I understand, I can´t, I absolutely can´t! Somehow this thought now gives me peace of mind and little bit sadness, of course. If someone (like the n) is severely mentally ill, has a personality disorder, I cannot “talk them out of it”.
Like patiently trying to explain that “this is not what normal people would do” and then expect them to learn the lesson and behave better/normal way the next time. Nope, not going to happen.
It is sad that someone is this way, and probably never going to heal. It´s not their fault per se, they didn´t choose to be/become mentally ill.
I can feel love (from a distance!) and empathy/understanding towards them, but do not want to be in contact with them anymore and do not let myself become reactive or become sucked in in their madness. I do not want to ever become unwell and “crazy” anymore, because someone else is unwell and “crazy”! All ok now.

By: Shelly D

Shelly D — Fri, 08 Apr 2022 09:50:06 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. thanks for the reply Mel.That was helpful.

By: Valerie

Valerie — Fri, 08 Apr 2022 05:04:57 +0000

Hi Mel
This did give me truth on what is happening to me. Right before my narc experience I did have a unhealthy work experience aswell and even though I don’t think all people were narcs the consciousness was low and they all had their egos responding to my wounds and what I knew coming from racism and bullying etc. I as you said felt as I had in school and in life it seemed to show up again in a working situation. So this all wedged in my body and my emotions are incomplete or unprocessed because of fight flee freeze etc. Am I on the right track?

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 08 Apr 2022 03:14:23 +0000

In reply to Shelly D.

Hi Shelly,

the theta brain wave change of frequency of the healings (before you get used to it) can make you phase out – it’s highly suggested to train yourself to stay “awake” .. by maybe standing up or doodling on a notepad in front of you, until your mind gets used to the slower brainwave with you still being present.

If this doesn’t work then I would highly suggest investigating further in the NARP forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

I hope that this helps

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 08 Apr 2022 03:11:26 +0000

In reply to Molly.

Hi Molly,

it is so true that the N’s are not your responsibility.

Your own expansion, filling with light and Being Source flowing through you is!

Much Love to you!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Marina Nabutovskiy

Marina Nabutovskiy — Fri, 08 Apr 2022 00:22:25 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. Hi Melani, I am 50 y.o. RN. I am very sensitive and intuitive , and knowledgable bout trauma. For 2 yrs my mother has been psychically stocking me since I broke contact with her. I have enlisted the help of intuitive/psychic/body healer and psychologist, and neurofeedback specialists, which is barely helping. I have CPTSD, and multiple health issues. I am trying to move on with my life surviving on practically no sleep because of panic attacks, when I feel my mothers' energy coming into my energetic field. She does at night as she threatened she would to dis regulate my nervous system completely. The only thing that is holding me together is the desire to help others heal.

By: Molly

Molly — Thu, 07 Apr 2022 16:39:02 +0000

Thanks for the video Melanie. I wish they taught this in school. In school and all through out our education we are taught to be left-brained. We have to be logical and factual in order to be successful. I think this is such a change for those of us who were trained in this way. And if you add on top of that, that it was considered shameful to express any pain, sadness, or anger, then you end up with a very logical and well controlled person.
I am so glad I started doing the healings and I do notice a change after doing them. My issue is on the front-end, getting myself to consistently do them. But nowadays in my life I feel moments of happiness, excitement, and hope. I notice that narcissists don’t want to believe that I am happy. It is almost like they want me to be sick or upset. Somedays I just feel good and the narcissists in my life have a hard time with this. They actually seem visibly upset when they notice I am happy. Shaking my head. But this I must release this too, the narcissist is not my responsibility. I am free!! Hope you all are doing well, wishing everyone the best! Sending love and support to all 🙂