Comments on: How To Terrify A Narcissist And Make Them Run Away

By: Victoria

Victoria — Thu, 02 Dec 2021 01:15:49 +0000

I want to thank you so very very very much for all of your hard work in helping us thrive. I got your how to thrive after narcissistic abuse in March of 2021. At that time I was having obsessional looping thoughts and feelings about my ex who told me that I was the love of his life and that he would do anything to get me back and three days later was with another woman. Who he then moved in with and had a baby with very quickly, for one and a half years, without knowing anything about narcissism and their abuse was extreme torturous hell for me. Without your book there is no way that I would have gone to the depths of myself in a way to heal myself to be able to get away from him and all of the hurt. Thank you again for shining light on something I had previously had no idea of. The quantum freedom healing is such an incredible life changer and I can’t tell you just how much you’ve helped me. Thank you thank you thank you! I am loving these blog articles too. They are a great companion to your book.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 18 Nov 2021 22:11:56 +0000

In reply to Heartbroken.

Hi HB,

It’s my pleasure.

I’d love to help you with my resources … this is a very big discussion, with many facets to it … if you google my name plus “our children” then you will find many resources which I hope can help you.

I also highly suggest coming into my free webinar http://www.mealnietoniaevans.com/freewebinar to start taking your power and soul back – which also will benefit her.

I hope that this helps

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Heartbroken

Heartbroken — Wed, 17 Nov 2021 02:03:39 +0000

Hello Melanie, thank you for all of your education on dealing with narcissism. I find myself in a unique position. My young adult daughter is a narcissist and she breaks my heart regularly. I don’t know how to stop trying, how to stop loving, how to stop wishing, praying, and crying over the situation. She is on the high functioning autism spectrum, which I believe adds its own twist to the issue. She isn’t good with people and relationships. She lives by herself and for most of her life I have been there helping her with everything from medical issues to money, groceries, and really everything. I think she resents me for being dependent on me, and knows that I will always love her so she is super mean to me. Getting more and more abusive by the passing month and year. She accuses me of everything that she does to me, which is really strange. She suddenly started accusing me of being abusive, and she keeps saying that I need therapy. The only thing I ask of her is that she is kind towards me, which she cannot do. I give and give and continue to give, only to continually get meanness and hatred from her. I have tried reasoning with her, like you gave examples of in your article. I have defended myself and I always say “that’s not true, I’ve only been kind to you. I’ve sacrificed and given happily to you for your entire life.” She counters back with accusations that I am manipulative and hateful. I know she isn’t right. I know I feel like if she was anyone else, they would be easier to walk away from. But how do I walk away from my daughter? I desperately need help with this situation. I truly don’t know what to do. My heart is broken and I cannot reconcile. I want desperately to have a good and healthy relationship with her. It is my biggest prayer. Do you have any advice for me? Thank you so much.

By: only the strong survive

only the strong survive — Tue, 09 Nov 2021 08:09:46 +0000

hello thrivers, about ten months ago i gather every fiber in me and walk away from the narc i had enough of his bs and lies when you’ve tooking all you can take there’s nothing left but a shell of yourself and you look in the mirror and say if this is what he left me with to recover than i’m gonna take what’s left and pull myself together and gain knowledge on this disorder and so i did. you see this monster was clever to a certain point, but the day i saw him for who he was the game change the lights came on and what i saw was enough to get me going and not look back, i believe his whole siblings have been affected by this diorder in the past i remember him saying something like his mother abandon him early on in his childhood now that i’ve gain knowledge on this disorder i come to realize he was looking for someone to feel that void that he miss out on early in life when i met him he was broken to the core me being an empath tried to make him feel excepted while in return he was setting me up for my demise at this point i feel so much stronger my self esteem is on point bigger and better, i’m not giving the narc credit but i must admit he brought me to a point where if none of this wouldn;t have taken place i would have never known the true me (self) i found things out about myself that NOW! I WOULD NEVER TOLERATE EVER AGAIN! after five long years trying to get the narc to tell me the truth about his cheating WOW! just like that he started lying and it was written all over my face that i didn’t believe him so now you wanna talk about chemistry GTFOH after twenty plus years with the narc now he wanna talk chemistry do we have it? HELL NO we never did and we never will now that you realize that the grass wasn’t so greener on the otherside you wanna be real you was eake then and he’s fake now everyone he came in relationships with he was always the victim looking bak now i see all the red flags that were waving at me and just ignore them but paid for them in thee end now that my healing has come i’m focus on myself oh and by the way he was so toxic i had get rid of my bedroom set change cars and brought me a new buick and i’m glowing and growing he left a lot of residue around me and i had to burn sage all through my house bcuz it felt like his spirit was still around i would like to thank melanie sooooh much for her blogs bcuz it really gave me clarity of what was happening to me so now at this time i’m loving on myself and family that now realize the truth behind my demis.

By: james lee sutton

james lee sutton — Sat, 06 Nov 2021 21:46:06 +0000

In reply to Coco. No you are not the Narc, if you have to ask. A narc would never ask that question, I think we all have traits of narcissism but again if you have to ask then heck no you are not.

By: Mars Rivers

Mars Rivers — Wed, 03 Nov 2021 21:00:48 +0000

In reply to Cathy.

A Narc would never ever everrr ask if they are a Narc. A Narc would never show the level of anguish or anxiety you’ve expressed in your post. They simply don’t care. You seem to care, therefore, I truly don’t think you’re a Narc. You obviously care because you’re here trying to get answers and trying to connect with others. The sad truth, I believe, is that you’ve believed his PROJECTIONS, probably projections that reflect the person HE is. Your biggest red flag is being accused of things you are definitely NOT doing. He’s probably the one doing those things. It’s one of the most classic Narc patterns. To me, based solely on your account, it sounds like you’re emotionally burnt out and numb. It sounds like a defense mechanism to a lot of emotional and psychological abuse. For the longest time I was skeptical of Melanie’s program, but my instinct for survival won and forced me to try her program (2013). It works. It took me a while to get disciplined about it but when I did, it worked. I forgot about it once I felt back to “normal” but life has a way of reminding us that this work needs to be a constant, frequent, life-long endeavor. So here I am, returning to Melanies program even though I’m no longer in a relationship with a Narc. I’ve been truly Narc free sense 2014. Get out, find yourself, it’s possible and the best thing ever! My very best wishes to you.

By: Pauline

Pauline — Wed, 03 Nov 2021 14:35:49 +0000

In reply to Iris. Yes, God Bless You Melanie 🤗💕

By: Aunt Rosie

Aunt Rosie — Tue, 02 Nov 2021 11:55:33 +0000

In reply to Iris. Beautifully written Iris! I couldn’t agree more!

By: Peter

Peter — Tue, 02 Nov 2021 10:59:02 +0000

Yes, yes and yes. Since reading your articles I now have an understanding of what’s been gradually happening and now remain calm and won’t rise to the bait, treating her with calm indifference and walking away has changed her behaviour from aggressive wolf to timid lamb. I no longer try to comfort her and get her to explain her wild rages, ridiculous accusations and physical attacks – just cold detachment seems to have thrown her into uncertainty and some peace for me. I have started going out without her and joined an interest group, I thought she would escalate the aggression but faced with losing her supply and home when we split up, seems to have stopped her dead, well for now anyway, although I am sure she is planning an escape route and has probably contacted her millionaire ex get her supply from him (fingers crossed).