Comments on: How To Trust Again After The Person You Loved Didn’t Love You https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-trust-again-after-the-person-you-loved-didnt-love-you/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Wed, 03 Nov 2021 15:10:34 +0000 hourly 1 By: Healthy https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-trust-again-after-the-person-you-loved-didnt-love-you/#comment-1258804 Wed, 03 Nov 2021 15:10:34 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4997#comment-1258804 Why are narcissists so vengeful? They hold grudges for perceived slights and take out their rage from childhood wounds on those they encounter. All that crazy-making, phoney victimhood, pettiness and acts of revenge is all the evidence and proof and vindication you need for why you or anyone else should, could, would and did leave them.

]]> By: Bren https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-trust-again-after-the-person-you-loved-didnt-love-you/#comment-986300 Sat, 13 Jan 2018 23:07:04 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4997#comment-986300 In reply to Kim.

Kim, have you done the Narp program……if you have not healed the trauma within yourself, you will probably attract the same kind of man again. You already know the answer, youve answered it yourself here. Trust yourself. Forget dating for a while, enjoy yourself with your friends doing what you like and work on yourself.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-trust-again-after-the-person-you-loved-didnt-love-you/#comment-927207 Mon, 25 Sep 2017 00:41:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4997#comment-927207 In reply to Sarah bakewell.

That’s great Sarah!

Well done 🙂 You are so welcome Dear Lady.

Mel xo

]]> By: Sarah bakewell https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-trust-again-after-the-person-you-loved-didnt-love-you/#comment-926904 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 08:18:10 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4997#comment-926904 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Thanks Melanie … yes i believe i met him for a reason. I did module 7 from NARP and i had a couple of big shifts from past lives and my body literally jerked when I spiraled all the pain and trauma out.

? Thank you for your work and support

]]> By: Sarah bakewell https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-trust-again-after-the-person-you-loved-didnt-love-you/#comment-926903 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 08:16:30 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4997#comment-926903 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Thanks Melanie … yes i believe i met him for a reason. I did module 7 from NARP and i had a couple of big shifts from past lives and my body literally jerked when I spiraled all the pain and trauma out.

? Thank you for your work and support ?

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-trust-again-after-the-person-you-loved-didnt-love-you/#comment-926831 Sun, 24 Sep 2017 04:54:22 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4997#comment-926831 In reply to Sarah bakewell.

Hi Sarah,

honey it is just that there are still some wounds to clean up – that this person has brought to your attention.

All you need to do is go inwards and meet “what hurts” again.

That is all it is sweetheart – time to go inwards and deeply heal and then you will be even closer toward your goal of “wonderful relationship”.

Truly …

Mel xo

]]> By: Sarah bakewell https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-trust-again-after-the-person-you-loved-didnt-love-you/#comment-926604 Sat, 23 Sep 2017 15:26:16 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4997#comment-926604 Hi Melanie
I was in a two narc relationships and came out of the last one in May 2016. I did the NARP program last year and then started the Quantum Freedom course this year which I’ve only just got into module 2 . I felt wonderful in June . Totally happy being alone, my job is going well and I decided it was time to try a new relationship. I met a lovely guy in July and everything was great for 6 weeks . He became distant overnight and said he didn’t want to hurt me . He’s not a narcissist but his ex wife was. He’s been divorced for 4 years and still has problems accepting his past. We continued seeing each other for a month then split up as he said he didn’t have feelings for me .
I can accept he isn’t the one for me but the problem is all my sadness and pain from my ex narc have come back. I feel as though a big hole has opened up in my stomach. Can you give me any advice and help I feel terrible. Thank you

]]> By: laura https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-trust-again-after-the-person-you-loved-didnt-love-you/#comment-910208 Sat, 12 Aug 2017 07:22:01 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4997#comment-910208 Hi Melanie, this morning I said to myself ‘MY” Narc(by his name) and had no awareness of the identity I invested in the enmeshment by this qualification.
Now I just read your announcement …the implications of using the word ‘MY’ so hey thank you for awakening me to this and I will always catch myself in time now and thank you for the fantastic clarity and wisdom and the subtlety you share , you are so the bees knees Melanie. This is so enlightening but it is so difficult to accept that people choose where they are at and to walk away when their inner child and soul is screaming at them to hear them like mine is. The separation is so painful because who likes to leave people to suffer alone and this separation is so confusing because we are here to commune and yet its finding where the detachment comes, not in the gross but in the subtle. How to drop the fear of living my life. Thanks for so bing there in the process , I love everything you say, really the ultimate 🙂 x

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/how-to-trust-again-after-the-person-you-loved-didnt-love-you/#comment-904398 Sat, 29 Jul 2017 02:48:03 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=4997#comment-904398 In reply to Melanie.

Hi Melanie,

those are great goals!

Mel xo

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