Awww Changing,

This is soo good!

Well done on wonderful progress!

Mel 🙏💕❤️

I’ve got way more answers from inside since I started doing your Modules. Thank you.

Since writing this last night, I did a Goal shift “Breakthrough for my breakthrough” and I’m seeing clearer already this morning:
I’ve relied on his promises – domino effect -> waiting for him, relying on him when I couldn’t;
It annoys that he doesn’t speak up and assumes BUT I’ve done the same, so I’m grateful for him showing me what I need to work on myself.

Thanks to this article and Modules, I really see that I need to “tidy up my side of the street” first and kids will benefit from that.
We’ve had a fun morning with lots of games and laughter today, I even took time for myself.
Great.

I’ve done today what I wanted to do,
instead of relying on others,
instead of waiting to see if I’ll get to do what I want,
instead of leaving my needs “for later”.
Result: we’ve all benefitted :-).

Thank you.
Changing
😍 ♥
Xxx

Hi Changing,

That is a great question and not one that I have written specifically on , other than absolutely a narcissist will use the children to try to bait you to get narcissistic supply.

Really the most powerful shift and ‘the knowing what to do’ will come for you by addressing this specific trauma in your body that you feel reaching him doing this and shifting it out (Module 1 can be used to do this) … so that when it happens, where the angst was will be replaced my calm knowing and wisdom.

Ultimately separation from him and your children being parented separately is going to be much healthier for them, even though … of course … we can understand how we have been conditioned not to believe that.

I hope that this can help you.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

I understand no contact is ideal, or not living together.

I’m doing your Quantum Healing course and it’s great, thank you.

I do wonder if you would have an example for a situation where people still have to share the living space and small kids are used by n spouse to get the other spouse to react, involving kid’s health and safety, making it look like he’s doing something but he might not. Where there’s no proof and I haven’t healed enough yet to turn the energy around but I’m working on it daily.
How to get through this rough part?

How to take responsibility for my actions, when incident needs involvement, how to do it so that kids won’t get my toxic reaction?

I found this article about a year ago. I can only say that reading this was life changing for me and truly an eye opener. At that time I was really struggling with this and though it was very hard to take in, it made all the difference. Since then everything is so much better, getting the last piece of the puzzle in there. Still working on it every day. Now I am recommending your site, especially this article, to friends and people who need to read this. As a matter of fact I searched for this article today to help a friend (I just talked to her on the phone for two hours about how she needs to let go) when it hit me; I really want to thank you! So from the bottom of my heart (or should I say with my whole heart ;-)) thank you so much Melanie for doing this! You are a true inspiration and you are helping the world to heal with love.

Love & Blessings all the way from Sweden/
Linda

Hi Maynel,

you are so welcome, and I am so pleased this article has helped.

How lovely that your communication with your children has improved so much.

Thank you for your lovely words 🙂

Mel xo