Comments on: Is Your Friend A Narcissist? 5 Ways To Know https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-your-friend-a-narcissist-5-ways-to-know/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Wed, 26 Jan 2022 00:54:57 +0000 hourly 1 By: Irene Madrid https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-your-friend-a-narcissist-5-ways-to-know/#comment-1263761 Wed, 26 Jan 2022 00:54:57 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7118#comment-1263761 The one Huge tho g you gave me was, No CONTACT”. I am also a survivor. When I was able to really think about where I was with this malignant Narcisst, I became empowered!

Now I am enjoying life in so many ways. I don’t need sleep meds anymore, a true sign I feel safe!!! It took decades but I am worth it.

]]> By: havdvhy@yahoo.com https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-your-friend-a-narcissist-5-ways-to-know/#comment-1248664 Fri, 19 Feb 2021 19:48:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7118#comment-1248664 Haha yeah or “I’ve decided to choose you as my new friend.” “I’ve decided that you’re the person I’m going to spend time with today.” “I’ve decided I was wrong to think you were bad and would like us to be friends again and would like to invite you to sit with us at lunch today.” No joke, they behave like 15 year olds playing grown ups with a social life. Divulging really personal or embarrassing things about their supposed friends, then hearing some ridiculous stuff they’ve said about you that wasn’t the complete truth. Probably they lie about everything and everyone to shore up attention and feeling chosen.

]]> By: B https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-your-friend-a-narcissist-5-ways-to-know/#comment-1231246 Sun, 09 Feb 2020 22:14:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7118#comment-1231246 I had a friend like this. After having narped for a year or so I started trusting my feelings of discomfort with her ways. She took up my time but then when I needed to talk, her phone was never answered or constantly interrupted me with her incoming calls. She never listened. She took as long as 15 minutes to get back to me when in hold. Then I started hanging up after 2 minutes. She was not happy …. I confronted her on this. She got mad.as I could not talk to her normally, I texted her about this needing it to work for me too, very one sided. She got crazy, sent me the most abusive texts possible and then blocked me from every online platform and her phone. Never been more relieved. She was a con artist and always trying to make a quick buck in any way possible. I never fell for her hints for money.
Whew, she did me a huge favor….. you start to see right through them as you get healthier and you act on it. A healed self can never mix with a false ever again once you’ve done the healing work. Keep Narping.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-your-friend-a-narcissist-5-ways-to-know/#comment-1210269 Sat, 05 Oct 2019 02:35:01 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7118#comment-1210269 In reply to KKWL.

Hi KKWL,

Yes if FOO dont step up to what you express to them why you honestly need to continue a relationship then 100% yes break away.

Many people in this community have.

2 very key people in my Family I had that conversation with – and would have walked away if they had decided that they would not meet me more respectfully. They did decide to, but in no way did my wellbeing moving forward require that.

Mel 🙏💕💛

]]> By: KKWL https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-your-friend-a-narcissist-5-ways-to-know/#comment-1210244 Fri, 04 Oct 2019 20:05:49 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7118#comment-1210244 In reply to Jennifer Mathew.

Thanks for your comment ! I am curious about what you did with you fam of origin after healing? I have a similar path in -some- ways – having gone far away etc – and working for years on all sorts of healing programs etc — just stuck on the point of doing this work and then having to hang out w ppl who were involved with such pain etc (non- narc)

what if one simply doesn’t like them???!

Is one ever allowed to break from fam of origin – is something that has puzzled and also stumped me for years!! (and prevented me from taking healing steps)

not sure how these comments work – but perhaps you’ll see this : )

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-your-friend-a-narcissist-5-ways-to-know/#comment-1207711 Sun, 22 Sep 2019 03:17:11 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7118#comment-1207711 In reply to Jaya.

Hi Kaya,

I’m glad this was timely for you.

Ns can do this when low on supply for sure!

I think actions speak louder than words.

I personally wouldnt respond to contact.

Bless you

Mel 🙏💕💛

]]> By: Jaya https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-your-friend-a-narcissist-5-ways-to-know/#comment-1207597 Sat, 21 Sep 2019 14:49:35 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7118#comment-1207597 In reply to Iris.

Hi Melanie…

You do have a knack for posting videos at timely times!

More than one year ago, I cut off my narc “boyfriend” and also a narc girlfriend. It took me a bit longer to recognize, or maybe to admit, that my woman friend was absolutely draining the life out of me. I don’t know about anyone else, but it is much harder for me to let go of a friend than it is a love relationship if that relationship isn’t making me happy.

Well, I made the cut with her. And I was RELIEVED, as well as sad. Just like with the ex, I blocked her from everything.

After more than a year of no contact, she showed up at my door a few nights ago… uninvited and totally unexpected. I was caught off guard and let her in. What transpired was actually quite interesting. She kept me hostage for 3 hours as she went on and on, talking about exactly the same disfunctional stuff going on in her life, which, of course, was everybody else’s fault. I listened and sympathized with her at points, like I always did. I talked a bit about my life too, and I noticed that she held back from criticizing and blaming me, as she normally did after our friendship was well under way. I used to feel like crap when she got through with me.

So I realized this visit was a form of hoovering… her letting me talk without criticism! I also realized the real catalyst for her visit: her primary narcissistic supply moved out of state and she is living by herself for the first time in years. She sought me out out of hunger for supply, and maybe just some curiousity.

Well, I have decided to just not answer the door if she tries that stunt again. I already told her months ago our friendship wasnt healthy. Do I have to make this speech again?!!

What do you think?

Thanks for reading.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-your-friend-a-narcissist-5-ways-to-know/#comment-1207519 Sat, 21 Sep 2019 07:07:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7118#comment-1207519 In reply to Jeanie.

Hi Jeanie,

Absolutely continue no contact and grant her no feed. Keep healing, you are doing great!

Mel 🙏💕💛

]]> By: Jeanie https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/is-your-friend-a-narcissist-5-ways-to-know/#comment-1207482 Sat, 21 Sep 2019 02:00:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7118#comment-1207482 In reply to Jackie.

DEAR MEL,
There is this unbelievable narc in my apartment building. She spotted me so fast and I was only just beginning to look at the possibility that one of my other friends was a narcissist. But this person felt like a filthy disgusting nasty dirty rag thrown over me as soon as she approached! I was confused because I felt compassion and my old nice self went to greet her but what an awful confused feeling would ensue! It was so upsetting, she was drinking up my crazy upset confused energy like a leach vampire! She was lovin it and I was freakin out. She immediately tried to script me into her life! After a couple weeks and finding your website I told her to back off but she wouldn’t. She started the smear. I bought your 59.00 course on healing childhood wounds. It was so great . I told her I wanted no more association and she has gone nuts texting me 10 times a day. I since have blocked her. But when I saw her text I felt the psychic claws in my heart again. Should I just continue no contact? Because I work here and have to see her daily. Meanwhile I am working the modules.
Thanks,
Martha (I go by Jeanie)

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