Dear Sally,
I totally understand this xx
It can be so puzzling as to why people would do this. I used to obsess over this. People who are not willing to take responsibility for their wounds and have a subconscious belief (illusion which is fear-induced ) that hurting others will make them ‘powerful’ (these are narcissists and this does not only pertain to sexual abuse – but as Melanie said ‘ sexual abuse is very narcissistic’ and I couldn’t agree more). I completely understand the outrage. It may seem like the universe isn’t in order – but if you have a look at Mel’s video about narcissists getting their Karma – you will realize that this isn’t the case. Abusers are getting their Karma every day. Previously, we as the human race have lived in survival and did not have the time or the desire to do the Inner Work. Thankfully now we are getting a lot more conscious now – its very beautiful. I would shift the fear regarding your children. Additionally, the best way I know how to to protect them is to teach them to trust themselves and their intuition. Tell them about the often told ‘man in the van’ scenario but also tell them that it is not strange and that is not their fault if someone they know makes them feel uncomfortable in this way. It is important that they know that they have a safe adult to lay their burdens on & who will be able to emotionally handle it (you have QFH!! <3) and that they will be listened to and that they will not have to see this adult in question. Also , 50% of CSA (child sexual abuse) cases happen through their peers. Long story short, as long as they are warned, they feel like they can trust their emotions and they feel like you have the resources to provide them with a safe space – they are well-protected in my book.

I hope this helps! Xx
Anna

Hi Boudewien are you the one who used to live in Putten NL? And used to be in my class?? Last night I read a letter you sent me in 1982 when you were doubling your final year at Groevenbeek remember?
Would be great to hear from you again, if you feel like it, that is, of course 🙂
Do get in touch. 31-6-269 35 161
Love Marieke

Hi Mel,

OK, thanks for the reminder, I haven’t been to the forum in some time. Maybe there will be someone(s) local –

love and light 🙂

Val

Thank you much Melanie. ‘Cause I probably am not the only one you reply on .
So,….It ‘ s much appreciated !
Sexual abuse made me enter this specific blog , I only had hidden it aside and so far away ,so severe cause ,Hurt on Hurt on Hurt coming up is sometimes too much. But trust here, gave me courage And yes , trust is hard to get back , but thanks to The previous modules and trying to tell myself that, despite the trust was pretty much gone , I had to find some courage and put patience and faith…on front .
And look what happens then…. more courage and more Faith and more freedom and ,and,and
🙂
Even though I know ( feel ) someone is still pulling and still trying to hook me in
( so it’ s all still fragile ).

So….trust….in me, i guess, becoming my own source , more and more…that’ s also happening and growing,btw, It is very important now, trust, more then ever..cause I want to, have to succeed in becoming my true self.
Amen 😉

Thanks again &
Good luck with everything
Bye
BB

Thank you much Valerie, that’ s so kind ! x
🙂
Take care youtoo OK?
You sound very strong .

Bye
x
BB

Hi Val,

my pleasure Lovely Lady 🙂

Truly Val whether it works for you in near – or in spiral is fine … I tend more in spiral downwards, outwards and upwards … yet I love incorporating information such as this into practice, and or shifting – however it can work.

And you of course will do the same.

Trust in this Community … has been difficult, after being N-abused. So there were some wonderful points of reference that Rachel offered.

That is great Val that you have kept shifting beyond to open up space and joy and power for self. I love that you are expanding!

Community would be lovely for you in person.

Are you in the NARP Forum Val? Because my feeling is you could put it forward there and see who is deeply involved in the processes, as you are, who may be local to you.

Also there is deep soul connection in the NARP Forum – that although virtual is astounding.

Lots of love to you Val.

Mel xo

Hi BB,

I am so pleased you have got down to the core to do really deep healing.

That is wonderful you have made the shift – and your are so welcome 🙂

I agree about not being afraid BB, my life was never going to take off and be truly happy unless I got to the bottom of the pot either!

So pleased for you that you went there.

We are all on this together BB, its the shift that humanity personally and collectively needs – to live free of the wounds.

Mel xo