Comments on: Losing Your Best Years To Narcissistic Abuse https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/losing-your-best-years-to-narcissistic-abuse/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Mon, 14 Oct 2019 22:01:45 +0000 hourly 1 By: Joseph Huth https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/losing-your-best-years-to-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1212273 Mon, 14 Oct 2019 22:01:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5622#comment-1212273 Dear Melanie,

Words cannot begin to express how much you have helped me. I will be eternally grateful to you.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/losing-your-best-years-to-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1040427 Mon, 14 May 2018 22:41:29 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5622#comment-1040427 In reply to Helen.

Hi Helen,

I am so pleased my information is helping and is giving you hope.

Sending love and blessings to you.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: Helen https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/losing-your-best-years-to-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1040375 Mon, 14 May 2018 15:42:01 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5622#comment-1040375 In reply to Donna.

I have only just found this invaluable website and blog OMG – how I wish I had this insight a million years ago!! Thankfully I have found it now. Yes I am in a VERY narcissistic relationship and sadly not yet ready to move on (why??!!) – however reading and hearing your words Mel, I am starting to see the light and understand my situation. Thank you. I will get there I know – I hope soon however I will not go faster than I can at the moment … Thank you and I love you

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/losing-your-best-years-to-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1027697 Sun, 22 Apr 2018 23:59:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5622#comment-1027697 In reply to Celeste.

Hi Celeste,

I am so pleased you found your way here from lovely Christiane’s work!

I am so pleased you are feeling renewed hope and believe you can emerge from this.

Please do, if you haven’t already, connect to my free transformational healing resources: https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/free course

They really do help the healing process exponentially.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: Celeste https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/losing-your-best-years-to-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1027634 Sun, 22 Apr 2018 21:12:41 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5622#comment-1027634 I read about you in Dr. Northrup’s book Dodging Energy Vampires. Listening to this video was so timely and fortuitous. I served my husband of 34 years with divorce papers today. I left 2 years ago and have been regrouping. However, since he refused to work most of our marriage he gets the house the contents and a large amount of money, all of which I worked for. To boot he has used our 2 daughters first as a way to control me to keep me from leaving and now as a way of punishing me by alienating them from me. At 66 this is not what I had planned. However, I know that Spirit has other plans for me. Certainly listening to you has given me hope that I can do the healing necessary to thrive. Thank you.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/losing-your-best-years-to-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1023175 Thu, 12 Apr 2018 22:58:09 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5622#comment-1023175 In reply to Megan.

Hi Megan,

That is great that you are seeking to be empathetic … and the thing is as soon as we judge or are resentful towards anyone it only hurts our inner being anyway!

Awesome that you are seeing all the truth in this and how key it is to Thriving. To become it and be a force for others.

Many blessings and much love to you.

Mel xo

]]> By: Megan https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/losing-your-best-years-to-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1022741 Wed, 11 Apr 2018 23:42:37 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5622#comment-1022741 If anyone looks at another person and thinks, “You did not have to struggle in your life,” it is usually coming from a victim perspective. It helps that person hold onto being a victim and stay in a safe place. It also shields the ego, I believe. I like how you are so empathetic with people. I am really trying hard to be empathetic with people when they assume life is easy for me… especially when my reality generally involves a small leap of faith towards making money in the future, a reward for hours of work, or sometimes just a leap of faith in my own ability to find ways to make money that fit with who I am, what I have to offer, and what I believe in. And sometimes, I my head is barely above water, but I am paddling up a storm!

I love that you are able to see us at our heart level and maintain a caring about people that may be tempted to pull you down with their own fears of what is happening in their lives. This is helping me to see that fear and how it is really about what is happening for them. This will help me value and honour where they are at – and not get held back by it either. Thank you!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/losing-your-best-years-to-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1022278 Tue, 10 Apr 2018 23:18:42 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5622#comment-1022278 In reply to Cat.

Hi Cat,

I have created an entire eBook on Self-Care which is a supplement to the NARP Program: https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Please know Dear Lady, when you start healing on the inside, then we start outpouring that love into our self on the outside as well.

Have you come into one of my free webinars to start that process going? https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

I hope that helps.

Mel xo

]]> By: Cat https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/losing-your-best-years-to-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1022037 Tue, 10 Apr 2018 11:09:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5622#comment-1022037 Hi Mel! Thank you so much. I wonder if you have written a piece that touches on self care? I’ve noticed for example the difference in my self esteem and psyical looks from three years ago when we started our relationship and now – is like night and day. And it’s so shocking to me now that my regular hair appointments, own choice of clothes, time to do makeup, was all stripped away by his constant demands of my behaviour, attention and his jealousy. I mean, it’s just amazing how I let that part go for self preservation and now am having to reconnect. I just wondered if you’d written a piece on that and / or reinvention. Thank you!

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