Comments on: Love After Narcissistic Abuse – How To Stop Attracting Toxic People

By: Carol Rafferty

Carol Rafferty — Thu, 17 Jan 2019 13:57:00 +0000

Well, fancy meeting you here, Melanie! I’m older than what most people think. I was in my psycho relationship for far too long. Couldn’t get out, until some awful things happened to me & others, because no one would believe me, even when they saw it first hand. I certainly did loose myself, to the point I was walking like the walking dead, a friend had told me. It took about 8 or 9 months to get over that SOB, after I went no contact. It’s just about 10 months that I walked. I resumed my hobbies & cleaning up a storm. I need to work on me after all that has happened. I’m interested in NO man & could care less about sex.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 19 Mar 2018 01:33:13 +0000

In reply to Angelique.

Hi Angelique,

it is very true that authenticity is powerful!!

I love that you have got these results – big KUDOS to you to do the work.

You are right – it doesn’t matter when you feel this good! Keep going hun and one day – bingo – it will just all line up as it did for me.

Mel xo

By: Angelique

Angelique — Sat, 17 Mar 2018 00:52:43 +0000

Dear Melanie, I read one of your articles about dating again after narcissistic abuse where you described your own experience and how you created your profile online almost as love letter to yourself. It stock with me and I have just tried it. Not without trepidation because I went full on, no holds barred and I knew it would make a lot of them run away but I thought stuff it! That’s exactly how I am, like it or lump it!
OH MY GOD!
The result is out of this world. For one thing, yes a lot of guys view my profile and scarper but those who don’t are a completely different kettle of fish from what I used to attract with my my bland and generic profile. They are funny, witty, interesting, manly and they are coming out of the woodwork as I am standing there with my entire might, when I was wondering if they even existed. It’s unbelievable the difference of the entire experience and I don’t even have to answer politely to all these unsuitable ones, the profile has cleared them off in one fell swoop, they don’t contact me. It’s real fun as well. For those wondering, that’s after lots of modules and time alone. Anyway, thanks for sharing so generously your own experience it’s been invaluable. Wish I knew exactly which article it was, you also said you listened closely to your intuition which made you register on a different site where you met your man. I haven’t got anyone yet but I don’t even care, this is so amazing! Thank you.

By: Nicoleta

Nicoleta — Fri, 16 Mar 2018 10:36:24 +0000

When I was little my narc mother used to beat me up, scream at me, verbally abuse me and many other things. Then, she would ignore me and my needs. My pattern was to attract men who would get upset if I told them my needs and neglect me when I was hurt.
Deleted all that.
Thank you.

By: Valerie

Valerie — Thu, 08 Mar 2018 03:37:27 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Hi Mel,

Thanks! Life is better with you in my corner 🙂

Maybe I had forgotten how hard it was a few years ago; maybe this is not as hard as it seems…

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 07 Mar 2018 02:31:14 +0000

In reply to Valerie Wedel.

Hi Val,

lovely to hear from you sweetheart!

Ok re your daughter clear all your concern for her with either Mod 1 or Goal Setting Module … and just allow her journey with love knowing her Inner Being knows what to do – and all is well.

I hope this helps Lovely Lady.

Mel xo

By: Valerie Wedel

Valerie Wedel — Tue, 06 Mar 2018 22:46:22 +0000

Hi Mel,

Love your vids, as always!
Here is something I am working on. Since I am a couple weeks behind maybe it is addressed in the next TTV.

My daughter has “reconciled’ with her dad. The same person who was so devastating that I ended up in your program! I have been clearing my fears for her, taking this as an opportunity to work on myself. Based on what I see and hear from her though, she is deeply afraid to love or be loved. She seems also afraid of men, yet is choosing to live with the one who was the most frightening of all. I don’t really understand this. Suggestions on clearing?

Will look at the next vid on co-parenting, maybe there is insight there.
love to you and yours –
Val

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 26 Feb 2018 02:25:06 +0000

In reply to Steve.

Hi Steve,

please know the recovery of this isn’t intellectual. My recovery step by step processes are all about how to heal and change – and there are many men in this Community who like you, previously felt broken after N-abuse.

Please, Steve, give yourself a greater change by connecting to my healing resources – https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse.

Enough is enough for what you have been through.

Mel xo

By: Steve

Steve — Sun, 25 Feb 2018 07:45:23 +0000

Hi Melanie,
Dating and looking for love and friendships seems a far away dream for me. I separated three years ago from an abusive relationship and I have been in recovery for the last eighteen months after resorting to sex and drug abuse to numb the psychological pain and loss of identity.
I still have trouble reconnecting with existing friends, unread emails from over a month ago, rejecting calls.
I’m not sure if I’m fearing rejecting or abandonment or that I just see everyone as potential abusers.
I know I’m the one that needs to heal and change but I am lost on how to change … intellectually I get it … I just can’t make myself believe that I deserve belonging and happiness rather than isolation and sadness.