Comments on: Merry Christmas And Happy New Year For 2012

By: Madonna

Madonna — Thu, 03 Jan 2013 21:41:21 +0000

Hi. I’ve been doing QFH for the past few months and the changes in me have been incredible. And I’m still living with the narc. I’ve gone from a fearful pathetic shadow to someone who can see their goals again. My hurdle seems to be anger. But I’m working through this. He says
I’ve changed..and I have! With each session I change. I can’t thank Melanie enough. I’ve become so focused now on my dreams and goals, sometimes its like I don’t even see the narc…which sends him off the deep end! My subconscious or higher self has really coming to the fore as well. At night I’m sent dreams where I feel so safe, secure and free. I wake in the morning still feeling the residual dream and that’s what I need. It increases my desire to experience the peace and freedom in my day. It sounds crazy but its true. Its like my whole self is rallying
To save myself. I can see my new life while still being enmeshed in the old so I know there are better things waiting for me.

By: BH

BH — Mon, 31 Dec 2012 05:54:34 +0000

happy new year Mel !

Thank you for making 2012 so healthy and hopeful for me. I was so lost. I still have more work to do — looking forward to a wonderful 2013.

( ( ( hugs to all here, may we all find peace and prosper in the new year ) ) )

By: Jac

Jac — Sun, 30 Dec 2012 14:34:08 +0000

In reply to Jac.

Dawn, dear lady thanks. Your words are like a knowing in what I have sent you to enter your open front door on NYD. Keep the door open until you receive the message.
It’s wonderful to cleanse the junk out of our space and my red magic carpet seems to be glowing bright red…either that or I have been seeing things, but no it is brighter. Better be careful it doesnt wisk me up and out on the new day as I am planning on relaxing with NARP ready to shift out as much junk as possible before 12 midnight tonight.
I have the crystal lamp ready, glorious lavender ready to bring in fresh from my garden, a nice soft candle to burn, burning bad energy that may find it’s way in and the back door will be open. I like your suggestions too.
Your messages uplift me too and I will be with you in spirit today and will be thinking of everyone who is transforming, moving toward light, leaving darkness behind.

May Love, light and joy find us all.
Jac xx

By: jennifer

jennifer — Sat, 29 Dec 2012 15:21:03 +0000

In reply to Melinda. ."I missed his sweet attentive friendship. He played me for another year before I realized that he kept using the friendship to lead back to bed, then find out he was still dating someone. I was the mistress." Melinda your experience is the same as mine!!! I discovered Mel's website and her QFH and it made a world of difference!!!! It helped me process my emotions and WHY I fell for all the lies, manipulations, hurts. I highly recommend her NARProgram!!! Healing is possible!!! A new life is possible!!!

By: Melinda

Melinda — Sat, 29 Dec 2012 01:43:33 +0000

Mel, I just found your website dec 24th. I was doing well until I was weak enough to look at my last ex-narc’s new fiance’s pictures of what her “wonderful fiance” did for her. I crashed. I feel like God had directed me to your website and that of Sam Vaknin. Both of your sites have really helped me to realize not to take a narc personally. I have so much to work on because, I really did not know what a Narc really was. I have just found out. In knowing what they are, I feel set free. I wish I could say I had just one Nark that I was getting over, but, I now know that I am a codependent, that has a high tolerance for inapproprate behavior and problem with setting bounderies. I now suspect that my dad is a N and my mother a codependent enabler (and her body reflects it with open heart surgery, bell pasley, cancer, fibermalgia, heart failure, etc etc). I didn’t marry until my early thirties because I didn’t want a relationship like my parents…guess what, I married a ceribrial narc. I was going through the painful decision of wanting out of my marriage when I was “targetted” by at least three narcs I worked for. I now realized that at two of them were “gaslighting” me. The first was a supervisor that I though I was getting along with just fine. Then, my husband started working where I did and my boss started treating me disdainfully. I was so “tolerent” that I didn’t even realize how much he was getting away with. The lady that sat next to me on a different team is the one that reported it to my center manager. Then, a couple of years later, i was sat next to a guy that I thought was my buddy. I thought it was just a silly game the first time he tried to make me look like a fool by “gaslighting” me. But, when he started trying to tell my coworkers that I was stalking him, I stopped talking to him cold turkey. This was at the same time I was getting divorced from my ex. Sound like enough? Not me. I had another bff at work that I fell right into the arms of. I won’t go into the details, only to say that after the first time we made love, it sarcastically said “Happy” like he was disgusted. He upset me that evening so that I would break up with him. I then found out two days later that he was showing everyone pictures of a girl he had been dating…it wasn’t me! I was physically sick at my stomach. I can’t believe I forgave him and thought we could go back to being friends. But, I begged for it….I missed his sweet attentive friendship. He played me for another year before I realized that he kept using the friendship to lead back to bed, then find out he was still dating someone. I was the mistress. He would tell me that he had broken up with her and I would get back with him only to find out I was still only seeing him on his terms. Finally I had ended it this mid oct. But, like all good codependents, I missed him and contacted him. Long story short. He was trying to play me…said he hadn’t contacted me because I didn’t know what all he “had been going through”. Luckily for me, a friend had informed me that what he had been going through was getting engaged! I blocked him but was having a horrible time. That’s when I started web searching for something to help me figure this out. Thank you so much for having the courage to share your story and help others with your knowledge. I know we are all going to have a wonderful new year. I now know that he and his current fiance had probably never broken up all those times he had said. What I struggle with the most is that I now know that I was his sexual fantasy and that was what he wanted me to be and never a real realationship. I know in my heart that I have dodged the bullit, and want to warn his current fiance; but, several people tried to tell me, but, I knew they were wrong, so, feel that she would never believe me and he would just paint me as a love sick crazy jeolous woman. At any rate, thank you for being there just at the right time that I needed answers.

By: EJ

EJ — Fri, 28 Dec 2012 15:34:26 +0000

In reply to Val.

Val,

Thank you!!! I wish all of the people who post here lived right next door to me! But I love the idea that people all over the world are being helped by Melanie’s work and can support each other through the amazing web of consciousness called the internet.

I want to tell you about something that has helped my body recover from my narc experience as well as from just plain aging (I’m 67). If you don’t know about Donna Eden and her fantastic work with energy systems and healing, you are in for a treat. I, too, do some yoga (and Chi Gong and Tai Chi) and what I have learned from Donna Eden has fitted in perfectly with those healing systems. Her books “Energy Medicine” and “Energy Medicine for Women” are so helpful and thorough. And you can learn a 5 minute energy balancing routine from a YouTube video that Donna has posted. There is an exercise in the energy medicine book called “Connecting Heaven and Earth.” It’s specifically for joint problems and it has helped me avoid (so far) some joint surgeries. If you don’t already know Donna’s work, I hope you’ll give it a go.

Happy New Year and love to all of you.

By: Ruth

Ruth — Fri, 28 Dec 2012 14:49:08 +0000

Hi There! Been a while, I have been moving, so little time for email….but alas, I had to see your pictures. Wow, looks like paradise!!!! And you look happy. It amazes me to want happiness for someone I have never met in person before. You have poured in to this community so much love and courage and truth, and for that I want so much good for you. I pray for your continued blessings and joy, and thank you for touching my life.

By: Jac

Jac — Fri, 28 Dec 2012 14:47:36 +0000

A new blog challenge sound ideal Dawn ❤
I as well as others here in this community have some big chords still to cut and I know and believe we can all survive and eventually thrive.
Keep an eye on your email Dawn and you too Val as a welcome to the new message will arrive soon.

(((Hugs))) x

By: Jac

Jac — Fri, 28 Dec 2012 14:34:44 +0000

May 2013 be the best year for us all and I wish for people new and old to Narc abuse find a way to the light, and come home to ourselves.
Melanie our Angel, we look forward to sharing with you our new positive energy, as you truly are a gift to us all. Love and (((hugs))) to you for a Happy, Joyous New Year. ❤