Hi Nury,

you are very welcome!

That is so good that you are healing is TFFOW – it is a powerful little program, that we forget to talk about way too much!

Thank you, sweetheart, for being such a fellow traveller on this incredible Thriver’s path – you are amazing!

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi Dawn,

its my pleasure. Im so proud of you and the incredible journey you are on.

You will get through this, you already are, and on the other side of this, you are setting yourself up brilliantly to thrive.

Keep going Dawn – the light is there at the end of the tunnel for you

Much Love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi Julia,

its my pleasure.

Sending big hugs and healing to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi Always Reflecting,

It’s my pleasure.

Yes, absolutely if the triggers can be shifted out, then there are nice feelings left, without feeling convoluted about them, hooked in by them, or saddened.

That is freedom, I totally agree.

Much Love to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi ENPB,

awesome that this was timely for you!

It’s my pleasure!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

I salute your great courage, Dawn. Best wishes to you!

Same here, Tom: 19 years with her (she even future-faked a not-far-off 20th anniversary party, knowing full well her massive theft from me, massive smear campaign and cruel, fraudulent abandonment and running away to another county was right around the corner), and it has been nearly eight years later, yet I am still plenty “wobbly” at times. I often still have transfixed upon my face that “1000-yard (meter) stare,” like those war veterans “shell-shocked” at what they had seen as the horrors of war (we now call this PTSD, it or C-PTSD, being a common suffering during the aftermath of narc abuse, which can last for years, or even decades). Indeed, narc abuse is a form of “war” against you: psychological torture quite difficult to explain to the uninitiated. The narc creates your very own special nightmare, crafted especially for you, others will never “get it” unless they have experienced something similar.

But, it doesn’t have to last, and it doesn’t have to still be or generate “misery,” as great relief (even ULTIMATE relief to full-on THRIVING is possible, I understand, but I’m not quite there yet) can be found with Mel’s program of NARP. If you haven’t, please check it out (here, at this blog’s site and associated websites Mel and her compassionate Thrivers staff help to populate with helpful, even soothing support). Recovering from such “misery” is a long, very personal journey. It begins with single, do-able steps at a time, like committing to NARP. If you do so, and I hope you do, please know that some of what you might learn in the early phases can be so frightening and revealing that it may be difficult to continue. Nonetheless, this is “part of it,” and I heartily encourage you to “press on.”

It’s great you posted here, it means you are reaching out, for yourself! Keep up the good work.

Thank for your wonderful guidance, as always!

I have been doing TFOW for two weeks to heal the toxic shame and lack of deservedness that I learned from my narc mother and my grandmother, as I was an unwanted child, and grandchild, and my mother was also an unwanted child. There´s lots of false self running in my lineage, as you can see.

Only now I’m gaining awareness of my disowned and disempowered, traumatised inner child that refused to live and put herself in the hands of my narc ex in order to survive. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, though, with TFOW, it´s been amazing. I´ve been working on providing myself the energy of unconditional love and acceptance, deservedness and belonging, and so much more. It feels great to finally be able to enter those places of serious trauma bonding, and bring in light and relief. I truly don´t know where I would be without you and your programs, Mel, this help is very hard to find.

Lots of love,

Nury

Your insights are invaluable, allowing me to see just what he was doing in the beginning of the relationship, by providing me with the fun, travel, financial security, and “love” that had always been missing. On the surface, and on his good days, he appears to be a decent and generous person, which makes it incredibly difficult to believe the nastiness is always waiting in the wings, and to trust in my own judgment. It’s still shocking to realize what he really is underneath the facade, and what his real agenda was the entire time we were together. I can’t wait for the mental and emotional agony to be over!

My journey toward freedom began with your words, “Become your own source of love, approval, security and survival,” which are the wisest, most important words I think I will ever hear. Thank you!!