I not only had inner peace at the Holidays, but I had a miraculous event that took me out of even my physical pain. After writing the above, I did a bunch of moduling and released all I wrote here. I had foot pain since May. On Christmas Day I went to Urgent Care. They told me there was a 3 hour wait. They called in a special kind of doctor. He said he wasn’t scheduled to come in, but they called him because the office was so packed! I didn’t understand it- something about a DO or orthopedics or wholistic. Well he gave me what my family doctor on the follow-up called ‘an adjustment.’ He just pressed on some body parts and relieved pain in places in my body, that even with all the moduling I hadn’t found. No meds, just a prescription to drink a lot of water because there will be toxins released…. just like Quanta Freedom Healing! Today I am amazed how productive I am, running, jumping, vacuuming, running up and down the steps (what I was avoiding since May)
But since this video has come out, my ex has really really really really stepped up his efforts to try to get my attention to turn toward him.
You pegged it: “So make sure that you are not emotionally brutalised and maliciously triangulated in this way.”
Check- been there, done that. Thanks for the warning.
Due to me having shored up my inner gaps, using Quanta Freedom Healing, and thanks to your suggestion in this video, and me being accountable to my inner being after reading what I wrote here, I STILL had a pleasant holiday season.
So I did what you said, and didn’t deal with it.
“Like a spoiled child, ignore this behaviour, get on with your festivities and commit your energy and attention to those you love. Let the narcissist have their own pity party and don’t reward bad behaviour with any attention.”
However, today, this, the 32nd attempt (I am not kidding-from the man I divorced two years ago!) in the amount of time since this video came out, I will have to contact my attorney. I am not taking the bait and breaking no contact. But I know what to do. I know what action to take. I know how to handle it calmly, clearly and definitively. And instead of being triggered 32 times, I just shake my head and realize how close in alignment the ex husband’s behavior is to what you described for what to be prepared. So now I am free of him projecting all of his brother’s narcissistic wife’s behavior on to me because I am not his wife anymore. But boy is he pulling out ALL the stops to try to get me to acknowledge that he has a new wife who IS the ‘wife he wanted’ a woman who really does behave like a histrionic, narcissist. I am so happy they have found each other. But shhhh don’t tell him! LOL

Thank you so much for your 5 tips. It is scary and refreshing to hear others with similar pattern behaviors from their ex narcissists at the holidays and special events. This week my ex would not turn over our kids to me as per our court order a day before the holidays. Predicted by me? YES. Did he blame me for his actions? 100%. Three hrs later and the help of local police I’m grateful I got to spend the planned holidays with my sons. This was not the first nor the last time… my bday last year, day before custody hearing… ! My ex even told our kids “why don’t you just spend the night and week with me?” He had not intentions of turning over kids. He had every intention to set me up to go to jail. Our judge had just awarded me the holidays one month prior when he went after sole custody for the forth time in four years. It was rejected. Holidays are the worst and predicted tantrums of narcissists Why can’t the family court system see and address prior to avoid the affect on the kids. I go back to court in two months yet again being defendant for last four yrs to defend myself against the projection and countless lies. My next prediction this weekend despite our court order and NO exchanges at either parents home (due to me setting boundaries and him breaking and still showing up at my home) he will pick up kids at my home and say “he forgot” to the legal team and judge and get also on the wrist yet again. I set boundaries. I have a court order. I only ask for enforcement so there is an end! So… I pray for peace, continued strength and an end in 2020.

I retract all of my energy ad leave you to your own pitty party.

Thank you Mel 💕

Oh gosh Kathy,

What a horrible and absolutely narcissistic reaction.

You are such a beautiful soul for nursing her in her final years.

Wishing you much happier festive times.

Mel 🙏💕💛

This is great Sue.

Bless!

Mel 🙏💕💛