Comments on: Narcissistic Fathers – Healing Yourself And Protecting Your Children From A Toxic Upbringing https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-fathers-healing-yourself-and-protecting-your-children-from-a-toxic-upbringing/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Mon, 31 Jul 2023 16:36:52 +0000 hourly 1 By: Julia https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-fathers-healing-yourself-and-protecting-your-children-from-a-toxic-upbringing/#comment-1281695 Sat, 01 Jul 2023 09:39:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5409#comment-1281695 Dear Melanie, I was raised from a codependent mother and n father. Everything you wrote about what this caused in me as the girl-child (once golden child, then discarded and the scapegoat) resonates with me. Thank you for this description. I was looking for something like this. It helps me to connect with my feelings to take to NARP modules.
The video ‘how to heal the wounds from a n mother’ is referred to several times here. I would highly appreciate to find a video ‘how to heal the wounds from a n father’ – to use as getting into my feelings to take to NARP. I hardly can identify and pin-point my feelings because there are so many. Do you also have a video ‘to heal from the wounds from a n father’. Thank you very much in advance. Love, Julia

]]> By: Cynthia Bianucci https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-fathers-healing-yourself-and-protecting-your-children-from-a-toxic-upbringing/#comment-1256789 Mon, 04 Oct 2021 13:58:21 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5409#comment-1256789 Hello, do you have the transcript for this video (Narcissistic fathers – healing yourself and protecting your children) available? I am needing to print it out to take some notes and work through some of these issues in shifts. I am a Narp member and have been for a couple years.

]]> By: Luisa https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-fathers-healing-yourself-and-protecting-your-children-from-a-toxic-upbringing/#comment-1238011 Fri, 29 May 2020 06:22:35 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5409#comment-1238011 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Melanie I had exactly this type of childhood now my daughter is an addict I have been sober but still damaged my daughter has totally discarded me because she has been hurt by her father and myself. I have been honest with her about her behaviour she is angry I do not trust her as she lies continuously she is 33 and has a daughter who has suffered her crazy behaviour just like she suffered my crazy behaviour when I was an addict. Our life is an absolute mess and I have to lead the way. I am so tired of always being the one who has to do the work on myself, I feel like a total failure I have been through so much in 57yrs I am in the narp gold program healing slowly it’s painful releasing my trauma but I am willing to do it. I do not know if my daughter will follow me or if it’s too late for us. ❤️

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-fathers-healing-yourself-and-protecting-your-children-from-a-toxic-upbringing/#comment-1238004 Thu, 28 May 2020 23:56:50 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5409#comment-1238004 In reply to Carrie L.

Hi Carrie,

I’m so pleased that you found your way to this wonderful community. You are in the right place!

Carrie, the healing of your son will come through the healing of yourself, 100% that is how it works.

You will see how powerful and vital is, by doing your work with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp , and then absolutely there is the guidance through the NARP Members Forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member regarding the most powerful path to help your son heal as well.

I cannot stress enough to parents that it is us that leads the way and then our children follow. It is the most powerful way … there literally is no other way.

I hope this explains, and I promise you will see how effective this is what you start working with NARP

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Carrie L https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-fathers-healing-yourself-and-protecting-your-children-from-a-toxic-upbringing/#comment-1237995 Thu, 28 May 2020 20:38:29 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5409#comment-1237995 Hello this is my first time in this community.i am new and need help getting out of my relationship.thank you for this episode.my son is six and the golden child.is there anything i can do for him besides heal myself to help him ? Is there a narp for 6 year olds? Some kind of coaching for kids to help them with feelings and self worth?i would love to do this for him besides me helping him through.i feel he is already changing and want to stop this now.
Thanks

]]> By: Daniel B https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-fathers-healing-yourself-and-protecting-your-children-from-a-toxic-upbringing/#comment-1237647 Mon, 18 May 2020 01:25:03 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5409#comment-1237647 In reply to Mike.

Hi Melanie,

Today I had a argument with my narcisstic father. I opened up to him about some childhood traumas because of how he treated me and he told me to open up, as soon as I did he felt attacked and said he can’t remember doing it and also that he dosent want to hear what I have to say anymore. I feel guilty right now because I shouted at him because of the sheer frustration of no getting a chance to say my piece. I feel sorry for him because he didn’t have a good childhood himself however I always end up angry and guilty because of things I say or do in response to him not acknowledging what he has done wrong. This led me to have relationships with women who act exactly like him, they lie, they cheat and they blame me. I know this happend because I wasn’t in line with my true self which stopped me from leaving them even when they did bad things. Only when they decided to discard me was that i had to accept them leaving. I’m currently doing NARP however for some reasons the hardest part for me is letting go of a narcissist I dated 2 years ago. I did love her and she made me feel utterly guilty because she suffered depression and anxiety which she would use as an excuse for all the bad stuff she did. I’m just tired of narcissists and fear them coming back or me not finding a normal girl ever. Although I am only 23 years old, I feel as though this has taken a huge toll on me

]]> By: Marie https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-fathers-healing-yourself-and-protecting-your-children-from-a-toxic-upbringing/#comment-1232743 Fri, 21 Feb 2020 19:39:26 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5409#comment-1232743 I have been going through the most horrific custody battle for the past year. I realized the man I was about to marry was a malignant sociopathic narcissist during …my maternity leave. My brand new little baby and I had to flee this man (or should I say man-child) when I discovered the overabundance of heinous lies, deceit, and manipulation. I had never come across anything like it. Also quite disturbing, he has majority custody of his son from another relationship. Painting and projecting the mother of his son as the “pscyhopath.” This woman literally gave in to this man because he is a monster and she was so worn down from his games and psychological abuse. Now his attention is turned to me. He is allowing her more time with her son as a way to keep her from talking to me. I will not back down. He will no longer control me. I have been rotting away waiting for justice with the court system. I feel so helpless in trying to make the court realize the horror of who this man AND his family are. They are a wild pack of narcissistic sociopaths all out for blood or my soul on a silver platter if they could get it. I have spent countless nights awake and worrying about my daughter’s future with such a psychologically unstable paternal family. It haunts me everyday that I didn’t see this man for who he was. It’s the most unsettling feeling to be trapped in an area with no support because this man plotted and planned to trap me. He was feeding off my energy, my success, and credibility. It is like a bad dream I can’t wake up from. How do you recover from this? Or do you just evolve to the ever constant harassment? How do you protect your daughter from her own father? The bar is so low the court will ultimately grant him some access to her.

]]> By: Irene https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-fathers-healing-yourself-and-protecting-your-children-from-a-toxic-upbringing/#comment-1232285 Sun, 16 Feb 2020 15:04:25 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5409#comment-1232285 In reply to Rachel.

I hope you have gotten yourself and son away from this man. If not, your relationship with your little boy will suffer. You need to go to a family probate court and ask them to interview your son. They will ask him questions about his feelings when with his father, with you, in general. Take notes yourself about what your son tells you, what your ex has told you. They are aware of narcissistic parents and can help you change the visitation. My ex would have loved the coparenting set up, as he would enjoy the control, the ability to put me down constantly and malign me to the kids. Instead, I moved too far (60 miles) for him to justify visiting his kids and the courts ruled that he only have limited access. My two older daughters still feel the effects of his abuse, but my son who was only 8 at the time, benefited by having him out of his life. Good luck!!

]]> By: Rhonda S Kastner https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/narcissistic-fathers-healing-yourself-and-protecting-your-children-from-a-toxic-upbringing/#comment-1217575 Sun, 10 Nov 2019 22:21:33 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5409#comment-1217575 I think my father fits the description of a malignant narcissist, very controlling and violent. I used to blame everything on him; It took me many many years to figure out that my mom fits the criteria of a covert religious narcissist It takes a lot of time to heal and it starts with self awareness. what do you have about both parents being narcissist?

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