Comments on: Narcissists Make You Physically Sick – 5 Ways To Restore Your Health

By: BreeL

BreeL — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 14:47:06 +0000

Hi Melanie,
Thank you for this! I was in a long term marriage to a narcissist, and was finally in a place where I felt I was healing, moving forward and happy, for the first time in a very long time. Then another from my family circle reared their head in my life, and the triggers are cropping up again. This person seems pissed that I’m moving forward, I’m happier and less invested in pleasing them, to keep the family peace! I didn’t initially realize just how much I’d been walking on egg shells around this person and others in the family. They have really been trying to put me back in their box, bully and control me! I’ve been there done this before, and will be going back and redoing, delving deeper…obviously there are still traumas/wounds that aren’t fully healed. Thank you again Melanie, for throwing me the life preserver I so desperately need right now!

By: Angie

Angie — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 09:51:45 +0000

In reply to Malini Malur.

After 30 years of being married to one. I have developed a very severe and very rare illness called AOSD Adult Onset Still disease. This is due to the constant stress I have been under.

I advise, do something about it and dont leave it like I did. You can end up seriously and life threatening ill.

Thank you for your work on this.

By: Mary

Mary — Mon, 22 Jun 2020 17:05:57 +0000

In reply to Alex C-D.

I also totally agree with the paper tigers analogy. Because its like so many times they copy me or someone else. Like they have no thoughts or emotions of their own??? Very very off putting to me. Which is why I literally can spot one a mile away now. Not to brag but I can. Dang I just loooove comment sections of articles like this. Because if everyone else here can do this and really be free…then I can too!

By: mary

mary — Mon, 22 Jun 2020 16:59:28 +0000

In reply to Alex C-D.

Hi Alex

my story is exactly the same to yours. except mine is a younger sister who is a malingant narcissist. i really have always related to Ever after, both mom and little sis are sick…of course you know me and you are their dumping ground for their spoiled rich entitled behaviors and of course they always just have to be rich in something dont they? like money fame whatever. im really proud of you and i want the same for myself. this article sealed the deal because I think im like 90 percent there. no more easy target for other narcs in the wild. because I know me and you and sane people ARE BETTER THAN THEM. they really were born like this you know. my sister always seemed mean even when we were kids. and mom mom’s sisters said she seemed weird too as a kid. basically good decent people like us need to be invisible to wicked things that roam this earth because WE DONT DESERVE IT!!!!!!

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 01 May 2020 07:45:07 +0000

Sorry about spelling errors it’s late, I found this program right before bed and was typing fast to get my comment done 🤪 it should say she is using social media to love bomb the owners 😳

By: Jen

Jen — Fri, 01 May 2020 07:37:13 +0000

I just joined and am so excited to start my healing journey! Here’s a brief synopsis of my experience…I have been researching a lot about narcissistic abuse during the last two years after I left a very toxic, very codependent, and towards the end polyamorous best friendship of 26 years. I was finally was away from her for once when I went to treatment for 13 weeks after I had a complete emotional breakdown and needed help, I was able to see all the things that had happened throughout the years through fresh eyes (there is so much I will bring some examples up as I go through the modules) and after getting in touch with my true self and meeting genuine people and realized this was not normal or healthy. It was actually her new supply that came to me months later and said omg I am so sorry for everything I did to you I now realize she is a narcissist (she knew the signs because her mom was one and she had learned so much in therapy) and I was like oh yea I know she’s definitely in to herself. The same person said no do some research on it, it’s something you really need to get help and heal from. As I started doing research it was like I was reading about my life (we had been inseparable best friends since I was 12), I learned I wasn’t actually crazy!! I thought for years I was losing it and swore she was playing mind games with me but in ways that I couldn’t just call her out without sounding paranoid or nuts. I would dread any contact towards the end because I didn’t know if I would be in good graces and be in cloud nine or if she was going to be passive aggressive or even worse silent and I would have the worst anxiety and feel worthless. I had no other friends except her and our other close friend (who she manipulated into not talking to me after I left the friendship) because she had pushed everyone away by blatantly being mean or something kind of smear campaign so I felt that if I left I would have no one and my husband was still very close to her he had her on a pedestal and she had him completely wrapped around her finger. Anyway, enough was enough my mental health was more important I was t eating or sleeping and had lost thirty pounds, so she was finally gone full block and delete. She tried all the slander tactics, her minions trolled my Instagram and gave her pics and she sent them out talking crap, tried to use her daughter who was like my own to communicate with me and make me feel like I was abandoning her, turned my husband against me until one day he finally saw it, reached out to my mom etc and I stood my ground but now two years later she is back. She is now coming to my husbands small CrossFit gym, the same gym where there are 7 or so people she has shit on in various ways and until covid was denied a membership but she saw her opportunity and now they are desperate for money and she will bring her toxic flying monkeys with her. There are plenty of gyms she could go to and this is a direct move. The crazy thing is my husband didn’t tell me for a few weeks because he knew how good I was doing and didn’t want to get me started up again but the weird thing is she had been on my mind recently out of nowhere, it’s like I felt her in my perimeter, I KNEW she was back (also learned through all of this that I’m an empath. I deeply feel people’s energy, I’m a hospice RN and My whole life I have taken on peoples pain and feelings). I’ve decided to quit the gym I dont go much anyway and don’t want any contact with her. I WILL NOT play her game but I can’t believe she is doing this she just won’t stay out of my life! My husband is staying but he is just avoiding her at all costs and ignoring her. He is in and out. She is already using social media to live bomb the owners and other girls there and soon will be hanging out with them every chance she gets to build her army thinking that when there is a function we will show up and she will be the center of attention and it will be the best revenge for cutting her off and she will be so happy because she is sick BUT she is wrong she will be there waiting forever cause we won’t show up and won’t care and she will not get the pleasure of making us uncomfortable or hurting us.

By: Rhonda

Rhonda — Wed, 08 Apr 2020 14:30:47 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. Thank you!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 07 Apr 2020 08:35:06 +0000

In reply to Kathryn.

Hi Kathryn,

I’m so glad that these resonate with you!

This is great that you are moving forward, and that you are able to load up and release and reprogram the urges in regard to sugar.

That is exactly the process that is necessary to release the traumas that are fueling that addiction.

Please also come into the NARP members forum, if you are a gold member, http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member where we can help guide you to release this addiction as well is any other shifts that you wish to accomplish.

You never have to do the inner work alone!

Sending love and breakthroughs to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 07 Apr 2020 08:31:41 +0000

In reply to Lori Peters.

Hi Lori,

Sweetheart, please know there are many of those who have done more than one narcissist!

I promise you with all my heart, that when you dig deep and do the NARP modules again http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp you will find what is still needed to heal and then you will rise into even greater freedom and expansion than what you previously had.

I promise you!

You’ve got this Dear Lady!

Much Love, blessings and healing to you

Mel 🙏💕💚