Kristina,

it is so my pleasure.

Thrive On Dear Lady!

Mel 🙏💕💛

Thank you for this radio show. I can absolutely relate to Sylvia so much. I have been narping sometime and I love the place where I am now like Sylvia is. I finally don’t have to justify my existence.

I am eternally grateful for you Melanie and your work. I have tried everything and this has absolutely changed my life.

Thank you 😊 so much
Kristina

Thanks Julian. I have a scenario here. I have run a report from infoview which inturn has triggered a script at the backend. Now I realise, my report is not optimised. It either runs for a long time or fetches a huge amount of data, so I have stopped the report. But the query would still continue at the backend. Query can be killed if am a root user, from the backend. Is there a way to handle this from BO ? We are using BO Xi3.This behaviour is the same with oracle,netezza databases.Please suggest.Many Thanks,Sunehri

Congrats Jenna and Brad!. I was at my daughters choir concert last night and heard a beautiful girls name “Tanaya Hope” It was a senior concert so they were honoring the graduating seniors in the choir and I just thought if I ever have another daughter I might have to take that name.

I love what you’re speaking to here.“When I allow myself to lean on others, I’m acknowledging what I need and who and where to go for the answers. That’s independence – knowing what you need and knowing how to get your needs fulfilled.” It’s so important to know who yourself in order to ask for the help you need. Thanks so much for sharing, Joanne.

I sehreacd a bunch of sites and this was the best.

P.S.

Erika,

Also, like you, I asked God for many years why I had to go through so much hell – in my case, just to be alive, to exist, to be as entitled to be here as everyone else. It was so hard to hold on to the candle of my own soul and believe in it, when they kept trying to force their darkness around it, and convince me I didn’t even have a right to be human.
Wow!!! I know how you feel.
They are walking shells of human beings. Their souls have been murdered (unfortunately so often by their own parents), and they are empty spectors, full of self hate and agony. I feel sorry for the child or person they once were, before the deaths of their souls. But they don’t really exist anymore. Now they are machines of destruction. If there is any chance they can be really humanized, good for them. But I don’t know that, so they have to take care of that for themselves. I can honestly (and happily) say they no longer matter to me – they have no permission or power in my life.

Happy journey!

Blessings,
Jen M.

Dear Erika,

I was struck by your comment that both your father and older sister are narcissistic. I grew up with the very same combination. It was extremely difficult as they certainly kept the sands shifting and me perpetually blindsighted and confused by their pathological lying, put downs, and contempt. My mother is a good woman, but really was as unsuited and unprepared to deal with their tricks and destruction as I was. My younger brother remained largely detached. I did not marry a narcissist, as I had done enough soul searching and reconstruction (to the degree that I could on my own), by the time I was in my mid twenties when I got married (and besides, the horror of marrying anything like them was enough to keep me on high radar and not go that route), and while neither my hubs nor I am perfect, we do have true love. And it just keeps getting better the more educated I am, the more self healing I do, and the more we support each other along the way. BTW, I also have an 11 year old son (and another son and daughter). 🙂 The parallels are interesting. I hope you have continued healing, peace, and joy in your life.

Blessings,
Jen M.

I have no job at present but in 9 short weeks, I can’t believe how much stronger I am feeling now that I have come to understand ‘the dance’ my ex and I were doing. I’ve felt for years that our marriage was becoming like my relationship with my father, not normal but didn’t know what it was, that it had a name. Instead I spent too much time on trying to work out if I was bipolar, schizophrenic etc that was constantly being placed on me by my ex. I wanted out years ago but was told if I left, he would make sure I would never see our kids again. Scared of his threats, I stayed.

Thank you for your fabulous website that not only informs but also works on healing the victim. I enjoyed hearing Sylvias story at 2am this morning when I couldnt sleep. I am about to sign up. No longer a victim but a survivor and looking forward to my future. ?