Hi Suzan,

if you google my name plus “financial abuse”, I hope that there is information there which can help you.

Mel 🙏💞🦋

I messed up my email. It’s fixed now

I’m 57 and am thinking of finally getting out from under him. How did you financially prepare to separate ?

@Jo…So why are you still there ..stop blaming menopause and complaining…..and do Narp. Staying a victim is not pretty.

Hey Nick. You have been repeatedly trolling this page telling women what their OWN experiences are.. …you’re not living them. Side note, I’ve known 3 narcissists…. all 3 were named Nick. P.S, you know what IS narcissistic? … MANSPLAINING to VULNERABLE women downplaying and dismissing their OWN lived experiences.
Goodbye.

Hi CP,

please know there have been people in this community who have effectively broken up whilst living under the same roof.

I highly recommend empowering and healing yourself enough to be able to do this. I’d love you to check out my free resources http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse To start unravelling this and taking back your power.

I hope that this can help

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

I have been married for 13 years and just pretty much found out that my husband is a covert narassist. (Or at least I beleive he may be ) I have lost quite a few people to death in the last 10 years including all 4 of my parents (I was adopted ) and my sister. My husband showed no support or empathy and made me feel really bad for showing any feelings . Nothing I do is ever good enough for him , we don’t have sex because he decided I didn’t curl my hair enough or put on makeup. Sex is always on his terms and he knows I’m not happy about it. He either says I need to lose weight or buy some new clothes or whatever . He is never on my side , he has blamed me for him losing his job and losing our house when it happened, I have been arrested for domestic battery when I called the cops after he hit me, he lied to the cops and because I was having a problem with substance abuse at the time I was the one arrested and pretty much made to beleive I deserved it . I lost my nursing license due to the criminal charges, and lost custody of my son, that was ten years ago . Since then he has had me arrested again 4 years ago and spent 6 months in jail and lost custody of my son again ! I have left him twice and gone back , he makes my life miserable when I leave him. He has a gun in one of my friends face at one point and the cops sided with him like they always do. He is so nice to me the last time I left him and I really beleived he had changed but he was just doing that to get to my money I had from an inheritance and then moved in with me and went back to his old ways. He keeps saying he is going to move out since it’s my apt but I don’t think he is. We also have an 11 year old son that I adore and I’m scared he is going to take him. He threatens that all the time if I try to leave him. I work full time and keep our finances separate except my car is in his name but I don’t know how much longer I can go on like this, be never talks to me and of coarse puts down everything I like etc , he knows how important it is to me to travel and he refuses to make any plans for any trips if he thinks that would possibly make me happy. I know that crap is hurting our child and I think I need to get over the fact that he will ever change or see my point of view in anything . Of coarse I have night terrors and ptsd from the last ten years losing my child and going to jail and losing my career and I have no support or friends left due to him . I’m 50 years old now but I’m scared to be alone in a way but I’m living alone now it seems. He doesn’t hit me anymore but if you ask him I’m the problem!!!!! So should I go now ?