Hi Kevin, I totally understand your frustration and loneliness in this fight. I can feel how sad you are, and tired of it. I understand because I felt this way also.
Please don’t give up trying, because things can change, and they do, if you believe it’s possible.
I have a beautiful daughter, she is 33 now, and I brought her up on my own, as I had to leave her father when my daughter was just 14 months old, because of abuse. I realise now he was a narcissist, but back in 1987, when I took my daughter and fled the relationship, I didn’t know about narcissists.
Being a single mum was hard and lonely and we lived pay packet to pay packet, but at least we were safe and happy.
When my daughter was about 14 years old, I met a man and we ended up being together for 18 years, and in the last few years I realised he was a narcissistic, as it was the only thing that clearly explained the abuse and trauma in my relationship. Because of that relationship I lost contact with my daughter, she’d had enough of seeing me take this man’s abuse, and she had grown into a strong woman in a healthy relationship of her own, with a loving husband and, now, four beautiful children.
But back in 2016, when I was still in a relationship with my ex narc, she said enough and told me she didn’t want me in her life anymore, and cut contact with me.
I was devastated, and when I finally left my ex narc in 2019, I contacted her to let her know. Her response was ‘If that’s what you want’.
What I wanted, though, was to have my daughter back in my life, and I kept that thought as I dealt with healing myself. A great friend of mine said to believe that one day I would have my daughter back in my life, to believe I deserved it, and I tried to feel this way, and if doubt started to creep in, I’d say positive affirmations to get my mind back onto thinking positive about it.
One day I just had this overwhelming feeling that I needed to apologise deeply and sincerely to my daughter for all the hurt I’d caused her. Of course I hadn’t meant to hurt her, but I had all the same, by not being grateful each and every day for having her in my life, and living true to that.
I wrote my daughter a huge apology in an email and sent it to her, and from that day on, we have been speaking. In response to my email apology, I got an email back from my daughter telling me what she was up to, thanking me for what I’d said, acknowledging how hard it must have been, and also giving me an update on what my four grandchildren were up to.
I’m happy to say, my relationship with my daughter is now better than it has ever been, and we email or text each other nearly every day. I called her and the grandkids on FaceTime for Christmas, and I’ve just been invited down to visit for Easter!
Twelve months ago, I didn’t believe this would ever have been possible, it was only because I had a friend who reminded me to be positive, believe it will happen, know in your heart you deserve it, and just keep working at it, and it will happen – and for me it did.
Please don’t lose hope, please don’t give up, and please remember to believe in miracles and believe that you deserve good things in life 🙏🏽💝🙏🏽💝🙏🏽💝

Hi Valerie,

You are very welcome hun.

It’s beautiful watching your continued expansion!

So much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

As always, thank you for the inspiration!

Hi Iris,

it is so true they were and are blessed indeed!

Thank you for your love and blessings to everyone and I cant wait to see you in Australia in a couple of weeks!

Much love

Mel 🙏💕💚

If we keep remembering that these painful experiences were actually FOR us, we can stop believing that we are victims and start preparing to understand how incredibly blessed we are to have found you and this accessible healing path.

Still so deeply grateful for ever single tear.

That dear man did nothing but bless me with a huge wake up call.

I never want to live my own life … I joyfully now allow LIFE to just freely BE ON EARTH AS ME.

No words can express how incredibly grateful I have become since the Narc …. Even more than I was before

Love and power to everyone who seeks it honestly – it’s guaranteed and inevitable .

Hi Robyne,

I love that this has resonated powerfully with you!

It would be awesome to have you at the LHW Super Thrive workshop.

I would love that!

Mel 🙏💕💚

Hi Sally,

this is so great that you had such beautiful breakthroughs!

Many continued blessings to you Sally

Mel 🙏💕💚

Thats awesome Sally. I contacted a ‘friend’ yesterday and said the relationship wasnt working out for me too. She had mentioned many times I just wasnt happy enough for her!!! So proud I set that boundary, I would normally or rather in the past bent myself out of shape to conform to her expectations. There are big things I am dealing with, divorce, refinancing to keep my home, a court case with an employer who didnt pay me etc etc. But I am using it all as grist for my module work and I feel really good inside. So proud of myself for doing this and couldnt have before without the help of NARP and the program. Wish you all the best.